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Wibu to ask my neighbour to not use washing machine after 8pm?

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hooochycoo · 29/04/2018 11:27

Our neighbours’s Washing machine is right above our son’s soon to be new Bedroom. He goes to bed about 8. The washing machine makes the whole room vibrate. Would it be unreasonable to ask the neighbours to try and not use it after 8pm?

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jasjas1973 · 29/04/2018 13:09

Even a relatively old machine may have some sort of built in timer and tbh it sounds like the machine is nt sat level on the floor to be causing this amount of noise/vibration.

I f i knew i was disturbing someones sleep, at any time of the day, i d do all i could to mitigate it but reading this thread, confirms my view that most people dont give a flying fuck about anyone else.

kaytee87 · 29/04/2018 13:09

If it's spinning after 8pm it's probably going on at 7pm (or earlier). They might not get in from work til 6pm. By the time they've sorted dinner, put together a wash it could be the only time they've got to do it.

You could possibly offer them one of the mats mentioned upthread and explain the machine is quite noisy in your sons room. Then they are at least aware of the issue.

You can't ask them not to use it at that time though.

Ardant · 29/04/2018 13:11

I wouldn't mind, though I'd probably forget. Ask and see how they react

Steeley113 · 29/04/2018 13:19

Yabu, especially as you say she may be a nurse/shift worker. Nurses can’t wear they same uniform twice in a row and are often only given 2-3 sets and if doing 12 hour shifts she may need to get her uniform sorted late at night ready for her next one. Plus, your child may sleep through it, I know mine would! I can hoover next to their heads once they’re asleep

BoxsetsAndPopcorn · 29/04/2018 13:33

YABU, she likely gets far more noise from your child than you do from her using the washing machine.

I often use mine after 8pm as it's more convenient to throw it in last thing for hanging out in the morning.

BuggerLumpsAnnoyed · 29/04/2018 13:46

I think it’s ironic that she knocked on the door and disturbed you, to tell you not to disturb her. I would of thought you were unreasonable if it weren’t for her complaining about the hammering. You can’t tell her to stop but you can mention the noise (considering she’s not shy about coming forward) and suggest an anti vibration matt

bellabasset · 29/04/2018 14:46

YANBU

Is there no guidance on your lease regarding noise? My cousin owns an upstairs maisonette (purpose built)and a new tenant moved in recently. He complained about her flooring and music. She moved her music centre off the floor and carpeted the rooms as she wasn't allowed wooden or lino flooring. He is an oddball though my cousin isn't by any means noisy.

She tries to do washing when he is out as she finds him intimidating. Apparently there are time restrictions on when you can use washing machines.Agree with buggerlumps about the irony.

mindutopia · 29/04/2018 14:57

Our dd’s room is right above our washing machine. Honestly, it’s never been an issue. I do washing at all hours and it doesn’t wake her up. She’s 5 and we’ve lived in this house for 3 years. I wouldn’t make a fuss unless you know it’s an ongoing issue, but even then probably nothing they can do about it. People need to wash their clothes.

Amaried · 29/04/2018 15:38

Don't think you can ask. As the spin is normally at the end of a run. that would mean in practice that they couldn't put on their washing machine after six o clock. Many people wouldn't even be Home from work at that stage. I think you'd annoy her to even ask to be honest.

SharronNeedles · 29/04/2018 16:08

If she could use it more during the day, don't you think she would? She has other things to do and a job to go to.

Ticketsfrom · 29/04/2018 16:12

YABU, sorry. We do most of our washing in the evenings because of work etc. But maybe explain about the machine and see if there's anything that can go under the machine etc.
Also - it's amazing how quickly kids get used to background sounds and sleep through it... even washing machines.

PetulantPolecat · 29/04/2018 16:13

You can ask and point out your child will likely be cranky and cry if woken up with a fright from the vibrations, thereby disturbing her and other neighbours.

Allthebestnamesareused · 29/04/2018 16:22

I would wait to see if it actually disturbs the baby as most like white noise like this which is why some.people resort to taking babies in the car to get them to drop off. You may find its your saviour.

SmartyPants0 · 29/04/2018 16:36

I know for a fact my kitchen is above the downstairs flats bedroom and I would do everything I could to keep the noise down.
Yes definitely mention the noise to them

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hooochycoo · 29/04/2018 16:37

It does literally shake the whole room. And goes on for ages. And various points through the night. Some times midnight. I think she probably doesn’t realise there’s a bedroom below her kitchen. But then maybe she doesn’t realise how sound travels as she wakes the children up when she gets in/up at 5 am too. She’s not being malicious or especially noisy though, just walking around. We just put up with it, because that’s what you do. But the washing machine seriously shakes the whole room.

Well will just need to see if it disturbs him I guess.

Not much we can do if it does, the boy needs to move into his own room, and as tiny as it is ( just fits a single bed) that’s the only space we have left. there’s no other space in the flat for us all. And no way to move house at the moment.

Fingers crossed it won’t be an issue. If it is i’ll Try a very smily gift of a anti vibration mat.

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Steeley113 · 29/04/2018 17:20

Just gonna point out that if you can hear her moving around, she can hear your kid. If she’s a shift worker that will drive her crazy too!

missymayhemsmum · 29/04/2018 17:25

I have an open plan house (no door between lounge and kitchen) and have just bought a new washing machine with a super quiet spin. It's amazing, you can barely hear it in the next room. If it's waking your son up regularly, maybe offer to help your neighbour with the cost of a quieter machine?

Starlight2345 · 29/04/2018 17:28

The irony of this thread is Ds hasn’t even moved in so you don’t know if it will even bother him

Butchmanda · 29/04/2018 17:32

No harm in asking. If I were the neighbour I would- I think - be happy to try and make life easier for others, if asked nicely.

Amazed by posters who presume it's easy to swap rooms or question the lay out of the flats. As if life were that straight forward!

GrowThroughWhatYouGoThrough · 29/04/2018 17:37

Maybe she does her washing late on as it's cheaper (economy 10 is it?)

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hooochycoo · 29/04/2018 17:38

We've been painting the room and getting it ready this weekend and have been totally amazed by how load the washing machine noise and vibrations are in there. Haven't spent much time in the room before (it's been a spare room/ office/ dumping ground before). So worrying about it and thinking about worse case scenario I guess ! I'm sure many of you would be feeling the same when faced with the prospect of a non sleeping child and what that entails for family sanity.

Anyway, thanks everyone, you've given me an inkling of how she might feel if approached and I know to proceed with caution. Cheers x

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GrowThroughWhatYouGoThrough · 29/04/2018 17:38

You can only ask the worst she will do i refuse to wash earlier

londonrach · 29/04/2018 17:40

Yabu and abit rude.

Pandora1box · 29/04/2018 17:41

I'm going to be a complete killjoy here but for the people who say they run the machine while they're out, or run it while in bed, please don't sad. A friend of mine woke up to a fire when hers was on while the family was asleep and they were lucky to get out - the firefighters said it was far too common and they wished they could get the message out to people to only run them when they are in the house

this happened to my neighbour when she was in the bath - thankfully the dog alerted her.

It also napped to my parents when the washing machine was behind the closed utility room door. Thankfully my mum smelt the smoke. It’s way more common than you think.

Pandora1box · 29/04/2018 17:42

Happened not napped

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