To wonder if you would start a new family

[greengrasslfwhome]

If you had your children very young, so that they were grown up in your mid thirties, would you start again and have a new family if you met a decent man?

What do you mean have a new family? Are the grown children not still part of the family?

Obviously.

Then obviously yes if I wanted more children I would have more children.

Yes probably. I met a new man when my eldest was 18 and and youngest 14, we got married and had a child together, best thing I ever did.
I do wonder how old you would be though if you had children in their 30s, would it even be possible to get pregnant? Obviously you could be male though.

Yes, I did. There's 15yrs between my middle and youngest child. Had dd2 age 38. Best decision ever.

no.

Yes. Lots of people seem to do it

Men with grown up children start new families all the time.

I had dc2 when eldest was 11 and I was 29. Thinking I’d got to 35 ( and her 17) I wouldn’t have had any more.

No, the children are grown up and you are in your mid thirties

Dh and I were married with 2 dc by the time I was 21.
Fast forward 20 years, our dc are grown, and we still have a good 20 odd years ahead of us before retirement.
I look at friends from school who are just starting to have children now , in their 40s, and I am amazed!
I wouldn't do it, but good for them!
My experience has taught me life can be very unpredictable, and I wouldn't feel great about upping my responsibility load this late in life, unless I had a really big money cushion.

I have been mulling this over myself. I definitely don't want more children while my current children are at home but might cobden going in for round two. That said my husband will be around 50 so probably not.

When my older dc were over 20 (and had a few teens) "I met dh and have a toddler now!!
Oldest dc is 28!!

No, it would seem weird to me. Like replacing them in a way.

I'd not want different fathers for my chidren though as seen too many issues with regards to step parents and existing children that I'd never do it.

God, not a chance! I’m getting less patient with children as I get older.

I’d be far too busy being wined and dined and going on lovely adult only holidays with my new toy boy to think about having children.

Very unlikely.

Not a chance

Nope!

Hell no. We did it kind of, we have 3 littles and 2 adult children and both of us have regrets. We’d be free now and financially well-off (all things being equal). It’s horrible to say that I suppose.

Absolutely NO WAY! You couldnt pay me to have more children. I'm so over sleepless nights, nappies, crying toddlers. I'm delighted to of had my kids younger now they are getting more independant and some of my friends are just starting families. I wouldn't like to trade places.

My best friend growing up had her first at 14, was a grandmother by 35, and had her second and third kids at 36 and 37 respectively with a new man. There’s nothing wrong with it.

So what do you do, those of you who found their children grown up by 35?

If I were in my late 30s and still broody, yes.
But if I already had 3 grown kids from marriage one, it would be unlikely that I'd have more with DH2.
I'd probably develop myself more and build up my career or talents, especially in a secure, supportive relationship. I'd travel too... go out to dinner, enjoy the things that were put on the back burner during the child-rearing days.

Duchy no one said there was anything "wrong with it" op asked if we personally as individuals would consider it..

My 4 DC are 13, nearly 12, 9 and 8. They are all with my ex husband and I am now approaching mid thirties. I am married again and my DH has no DC of his own. He says my DC are his too so he doesn't need one of his own.

I would love to have a DC with him, he is a wonderful man and I have absolutely no doubt he would make a terrific father when he already is such a great stepdad. But money is a massive issue, I just left my job to be at home and study at uni as my dad is ASD and finding childcare in the town I live in for his needs is impossible. He can't handle after school club and I get called to the school fairly often to retrieve him when he has ran out of school grounds.

I know it would be utter madness to have another and I'm trying to accept I won't have a child with my DH, that I am massively lucky to have the DC I already have. But it still makes me sad.