Afterschool detention

[bizzylizzy988]

DD is having her first detention Monday and it's an after school.
She's only in Year 7 and she forgot her Geography homework.
Her school doesn't allow mobile phones.
She gets on the train home - getting back from school usually at 4:25pm.
However her detention ends at 5:15pm. The next train is at 7pm...
Making her get home for around 7:35pm since she has to walk home from the station...
I don't really fancy her being around the station this late! It's very quiet.
I can't pick her up from the station and her other parent can't either cause we are both working at this time.
I wouldn't mind if she had a mobile but I'm worried could I call the school asking for a lunch detention or even two? I'm just a bit worried...

Some judgemental posts on here. The childs not neglected and she's 11! By this age I had my own key and knew not to expect my parents back until late. Sometimes parents do what they have to do.

On the same token, if I'd been given detention, my folks would have expected me to suck it up. Though in this day and age, I'd expect a civilised pupil-teacher conversation would resolve the issue.

ZX81user
I think you've missed the last part of the last bullet point which says that the travel arrangements may be inconvenient for the parent.

The OP should be able to find a way round this without taking the view that their y7 child cannot possibly have an afterschool in the next 5 years because they can't sort lifts.

Like others I feel for this child. At friends til one time because no adult is around then home alone with no adult around. Poor thing.

Call the teacher/email them personally ideally (should be available on school website) and explain the issue- ask to rearrange to breaktimes. I’m a teacher, and have set only a few after school detentions in the past year - would only ever set break or lunch for missed homework. Maybe I’m a bit of a softie but even some of my stricter friends would certainly rearrange to a lunchtime in these circumstances.

And agree with PP that punishment is excessive.

@Wanderlust1984
The childs not neglected and she's 11! By this age I had my own key and knew not to expect my parents back until late.
I would agree with you if it weren't for the statement below from the OP. Were you home alone from 6 til 9 every night? Presumably plus travel time.

We both work from around 6-9pm and my partner works from 6am-10am aswell.

I also feel bad for her being at someone else’s house until 9pm.

What time does she actually get to bed as once the parents have got home from work (didn’t the OP say she didn’t drive so I’m assuming relies on public transport) and collected her from the friends house it must be pretty late? Then she had to shower/bath, get ready for bed, wind down etc before then getting in to bed. When does she even have time to do her homework or does she do it at her friends house?

And when does she see her parents? Just for 30 minutes between 9-9.30pm before bed?

Also, the 14 year old may be her ‘friend’ now but I’m sure it won’t be long until she’s going to want to see her own aged friends after school before long as opposed to being stuck with an 11 year old girl.

What happens with your daughter then?

It all sounds very odd.

I know family set-ups do sometimes have to be a bit ad-hoc to accommodate parents working hours but I still feel a little sorry for your daughter.

Did you manage to speak to School today? How did it go?