In calling my dd Vagina a "Vagina"

[lilymolly]

DD is 16 months and is noticing body parts and pointing to them and making a noise, at which I will say "arm" "leg" etc. Tonight, she touched her privates and I said "Vagina" dp was a little shocked , and before any one shouts, I KNOW its her Vulva, but dont think that word is acceptable with adults never mind children iyswim.

We where having relate counselling last year for sex issues on my behalf, in other words I dont like it, and we discussed this particular issue, and the counseller told us to call it by its name, which is what we woould do with any other body part, such as her arm ect as already mentioned.

As a rookie mum, will this come back to haunt me in later years?
In other words, when she can talk will she talk about her Vagina, will she say it in inappropriate situations.
i.e my friend dds are 7 and 10 and still call it "mary" and I am pretty sure they would not know what a vagina is, and also pretty sure their mother would be mortified if my little angel came out with it

What do other people call it? Advice please

I'm a midwife and hate the word 'vagina' BTW

But where will her baby come out of?

What is hateful about the word vagina?

Baby comes out vagina (bottom)

Wee comes out urethra (bottom)

Bottom is sooooo much simpler

ooo mears, what do you call it when you are examining one then? Do tell

"now mrs x, I'm just going to do a front bottom examination to see how your labour is progressing"

Mears - tell me you don't say "front bottom" in the delivery room

I say 'I am just going to do an internal examination if that is OK with you' - women always know what that means.

I NEVER say I am going to put my fingers in your vagina.

Sorry. Was just joking. I don't think my midwives ever mentioned vaginas either. I mean,it is pretty clear where the attention is focussed...

In our house - for DD, its a twinkie and for DS, its a dinksy.
DS has already picked up from school 'willy'. Im fine with that.
Apparently ex-dh calls both of them ' special place '

When they are a little older or if they ask then they can have the proper names for them but for now i dont see the need.
I find it ott when little children use the proper names. There is time enough for that but I guess the best thing is for you to go with what you feel comfortable with.

I reckon DD3 has it right then - babyhole is so much more descriptive than front bottom.

Yes, but she still doesn't wee out of it, RL

My girls knew their bottoms had 3 holes which was plenty of information when small

No need to aplogise TellusMater - meant to put another after my post.

Ds has a UTI and the doctor asked him if his diddle was sore.

Ds looked at him thoughtfully for a moment and said "oh, you mean my penis, why do doctors call it a diddle mummy?"

He was on TV yesterday and told the interviewer all about his nasty poos, his nasty wees and his nasty cough, but he never mentioned his penis once, so it won't necessarily haunt you for years to come.

Well Wendy I really don't know WHY she chose to announce in the Woolacombe Sands public toilets on a Bank Holiday weekend that her wee was coming out of her babyhole and not her weeing hole, but I am willing to bet that she was not telling the exact anatomical truth.

I remember a friend of mine talking about her son wetting himself at the toilet accidentally because his 'willie had stuck to his balls'. I thought that was really gross! He was about 5.

It would not have been any better if he had said 'my penis had stuck to my testicles'.

My DS would have said nothing

20p, one of my DDs had a a urine infection aged about 8; when we went to the GP he said "does it hurt when you spend a penny?" and her face was a picture! (Why was your DS talking about poos etc on the telly?)

My mum used euphemisms right up until I was staying with them during the floods and had no clean clothes apart from some gym pants, which were only really suitable for the gym. She announced to the whole of the Lowry Centre "I can see your entire labia in that".

What a tremendous time to start using proper terms!

Oooh - were you in Woolacombe? It looked horribly busy...

We were walking a bit further round - Morte Point.

ROFL 20p.

All three of mine called their 'bits' by their proper names. My argument whenever my mother had a hissy fit over the little 'uns saying penis or vulva or vagina, or even breasts, was that we dont teach them to call their arms and legs 'dangly bits' or some other euphanism.
However, tried to teach GS 'penis' and he insists that he wants to call it a widger. When asked why, he said "dont like penis, widger sounds funny" followed by a roar of belly laughing - so widger it is!!!

LOL at Woolacombe diversion on this thread (MN is so good for that )

Ooops

I am easily distracted...

We were actually hanging out in Barricane Bay but the nearest public loos are in the Woolacombe car park. And the DDs are rather fond of the 'genuine victorian' swing boats on the main beach.

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