Is 40 too late ?

[Onthewrongsideof30]

AIBU to think waiting to having a baby until 40 is an option?
Currently 37, DH 44. Fit active non smokers etc, etc been trying to conceive for nearly 2 years - no luck. Been for fertility tests - no known issues with DH or myself. But the emotional roller coaster of being disappointed every month is driving me crazy and causing me and DH to fight. IVF not an option to us right now. I want to shove it on the back burner and just enjoy my lovely life. Focus on my relationship with DH, enjoy our beautiful home, enjoy my career and achieve some fitness goals and re address again in 3 years or would that be foolish ?

Onthewrongsideof30

Stress is said to affect fertility, with my mental health issues I firmly decided against obsessively tracking and testing each month for my own sanity.

Instead we went without birth control and said "if it happens, it happens, if it doesn't, it doesn't" then one day not long after I turned 37 my period didn't come. My husband does have a genetic condition he inherited that affects fertility.

You wont really put it to the back of your mind itll be like the elephant in the room. Hanging over you and youll secretly be hoping youll fall accidentally once the stress had been taken away. I had my third DC a month before I was 40. My previous DC was 4 and a half years before took over 2 years but it happened. Keep faith.