AIBU - just found porn on Husband's phone

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Had lovely family lunch out, DH, myself, DD and DS. Came home, DH has to cut the grass. Leaves his phone with me whilst he does to view new family member photo's, then I find 3 videos and 2 photo's of downloaded stuff that shocked me to the core. Didn't jump down his throat at first as I know his brother has sent him things before that he shouldn't have, but then he freely admitted he had downloaded them and his defence was - It's lesbian porn. Threw a glass of water in his face and shoved him out the door and told him not to return. Does anyone else tolerate porn? I don't even know.

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@hdh747 I think as well, with everything people can’t wait to shout about something bad happening but nobody talks about the good

Oh. That's a novel way to try to win an Internet argument.

No other opinions are valid. Ya hear.

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G'wan, Daily Mail. Try and quote that ^.

Most women quit dancing when they’ve made enough money to retire comfortably (usually by 30)"

So all women in the sex industry retire at 30 and never need to work again? Is that what you're saying?

Really Roderick? Yes I confused the two, but it's almost like you're looking for a reason to miss the point of what I was saying.

Also, I didn't misquote because Bertrand deliberately avoided directly accusing Green of lying about working in either industry (just) with her amusing joke about Oxbridge graduates.

Not, else I would have said that.
You literally quoted what I said how can you then pretend I’ve said something different

I hope that you're DH doesn't read The Daily Mail OP........ you've been published..

I actually thought the OP was the Daily Mail. No?

Greenyogagirl honestly just ignore her, it's like arguing with a stupid person , you'll never win, because they don't understand how to take what you're saying into account. They just talk endless rubbish at you until you give up and then they take it as a win

Regardless of people views on pork and the industry, which seems to be the main discussion here...
She assaulted someone so is BU

Don't listen to people on here, you and your husband know your relationship. If you both no this is a no go in your relationship then that's up to use.

It's the same in mine, if I ever found out my dp had looked at porn I would leave him and I don't doubt he would do the same.

Don't listen to people telling you to get a fucking grip, if there okay with their partners looking at other woman having sex that's their business.

But in my relationship and I'm assuming yours you don't tolerate that.

I'd seriously not have that and problem would of done worse.

I think you overreacted, sometimes DP watching porn is a relief for me as he’s not hassling me for sex when I’m feeling exhausted.

Porn doesn't bother me. I'm happy for the extra sleep I get while I'm not being looked at seductively.

I think it only becomes a problem if he starts preferring porn over a loving, intimate relationship with you tbh. I think if we are honest a huge percentage of men look at porn at one time or another. Its just what guys do. They are very visual creatures. I can understand your shock though if you hadn't seen anything like that before. I would have a chat with him about it and tell him it upsets you, although that probably wouldn't stop him watching it - he'd just hide it better. As others have said some people find it a deal-breaker and some don't. Just ask yourself if its worth breaking up an otherwise happy relationship for? (and I say this as someone who knows for a fact her hubby watches porn/looks at pics of women in skimpy/no clothing occasionally).

I'm preparing to get flamed but it was some fucking water FFS. No one should be pressing charges. JFC.

Also nice to see porn is the lesser evil than the evil of your partner not respecting you aren't in the mood. Maybe a man who could control himself in general would be a step up? Or wasn't a sex pest?