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To wonder where the hell he is?

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TheHeightSupremacist · 14/04/2018 20:59

Been seeing someone for a couple of months, at least twice a week but it’s been nearly every day over the past couple of weeks. He has been really into me, cooked for me, taken me away numerous times and said the l word very early on.

We had plans to go to his friends birthday tonight, spoke to him earlier and everything was fine. Text later to let him know what time I would be over, not read and no reply, we are now 2 and a half hours after we were supposed to meet and I haven’t heard from him since 3.30pm. No messages read, no answer to my calls. Getting a bit concerned, where could he be?!

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Keepingupwiththejonesys · 15/04/2018 08:39

I hope you're OK op, I'd be really worried. Id be a bit worried he's had an accident at home tbh

PeapodBurgundy · 15/04/2018 08:42

Following in case of an update. Hope the mystery is now solved and the OP just hasn't had a chance to update.

LittleRedTerfette · 15/04/2018 08:42

Sadly I think you’ll just have up wait it out, maybe call in on his mum this evening if there’s still no word

BinG0wings123 · 15/04/2018 08:42

I wouldn’t be worried I’d be pissed off.

And if he did turn up in hospital with a broken leg I’d go and give him a swift kick on it.

But I’m a prick.

For what it’s worth I had almost the exact thing about 15 years ago, down to the friends birthday party and eveything.

He just changed his mind about me. Just like that. And he did go to the friends party, they covered for him by saying he wasn’t there and all had a good laugh at my expense calling me a bunny boiler because I’d tried to find out where he was.

The chances of him being ill or dead are minuscule.
The chances that he’s changed his mind about the relationship and is just a bit of a cunt outweigh the lot.

If he is dead, then I’m sorry.

Mummyoflittledragon · 15/04/2018 08:43

Hope he’s ok or that you’ve found out why he hasn’t been around. It must be really awful not to know why he didn’t show up.

ferntwist · 15/04/2018 08:43

Bingo is right I fear.

BinG0wings123 · 15/04/2018 08:44

Oh and the night before his disappearing act, mine was saying how he saw us together long term and wanted to marry me.

You can’t trust anyone.

SheilaTurnip · 15/04/2018 08:46

Haha hate being this curious but I genuinely am about this thread. Hope he’s okay !

PlumsGalore · 15/04/2018 08:47

I hope he turns up and you get angry, however this happened to someone I work with's cousin. He was found dead in the house, had an undiagnosed heart complaint. He wasn't that old either. Tragic.

QOD · 15/04/2018 08:47

No news?

MudCity · 15/04/2018 08:49

If I’d been seeing someone for a couple of months, I would not be phoning his friends or mother! And I wouldn’t be phoning the police or hospitals either. Crumbs. Two months!

honeyishrunkthekid · 15/04/2018 08:53

Mudcity- so just because op hasn't been seeing him that long, she should just carry on as normal and show no interest.
How ridiculous. I would be worried too and check

honeyishrunkthekid · 15/04/2018 08:53

Mudcity- so just because op hasn't been seeing him that long, she should just carry on as normal and show no interest.
How ridiculous. I would be worried too and check

happynapper99 · 15/04/2018 08:53

Curious as to where he is. Any update?

JustLayingOnTheSofa · 15/04/2018 08:54

You can get to know someone quite a lot in only 2 months. I know that sounds odd but if you spend a good deal of time with someone, it's surprising how much you can get to know them.

I met someone 6 months ago, 1 month into it, I felt like I'd known him absolute years.

I'd be phoning his mum, if I'd met her.

However I'm the kind of cunt who wouldn't give a shit and be back on social media within hours Blush

JustLayingOnTheSofa · 15/04/2018 08:54

You can get to know someone quite a lot in only 2 months. I know that sounds odd but if you spend a good deal of time with someone, it's surprising how much you can get to know them.

I met someone 6 months ago, 1 month into it, I felt like I'd known him absolute years.

I'd be phoning his mum, if I'd met her.

However I'm the kind of cunt who wouldn't give a shit and be back on social media within hours Blush

JustLayingOnTheSofa · 15/04/2018 08:55

You can get to know someone quite a lot in only 2 months. I know that sounds odd but if you spend a good deal of time with someone, it's surprising how much you can get to know them.

I met someone 6 months ago, 1 month into it, I felt like I'd known him absolute years.

I'd be phoning his mum, if I'd met her.

However I'm the kind of cunt who wouldn't give a shit and be back on social media within hours Blush

onemorecakeplease · 15/04/2018 08:55

Oh dear any news? Is his car at his house or has that gone too?
I think I might pop past his mums house his morning and see if she has heard from him

onemorecakeplease · 15/04/2018 08:56

Oh dear any news? Is his car at his house or has that gone too?
I think I might pop past his mums house his morning and see if she has heard from him

onemorecakeplease · 15/04/2018 08:56

Oh dear any news? Is his car at his house or has that gone too?
I think I might pop past his mums house his morning and see if she has heard from him

RatRolyPoly · 15/04/2018 09:10

Hope you're both okay OP.

Drum71 · 15/04/2018 09:12

I have to agree with Bingo up thread.

avocadosrus · 15/04/2018 09:19

Any news OP?

MudCity · 15/04/2018 09:19

Of course, if I had concerns about his safety and well-being (ie. mental health concerns), I would be making enquiries. However, there are many reasons for someone not getting in touch and in a new relationship I would be assuming that they had changed their mind.

If I didn’t hear from him by the end of today, I would pop a friendly note through his door. I’d be worried about the cat so I would definitely let someone know about that. Other than that, no I wouldn’t be phoning the hospitals and police because, unless there had been an incident in the area, the likelihood of him having to come to harm is very low.

OP, I hope you get the answers you need.

6demandingchildren · 15/04/2018 09:19

It's the not knowing that drives you mad.
Hope you got a resolution op