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to stop people 'making memories'

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DiplomaticDecorum · 13/04/2018 14:16

It's a pissy pants phrase - every time it's mentioned it makes me heave. Just stop, you sound ridiculous, every fucking minute of every fucking day is making fucking memories, it's how we as a species survive.

Bugger off and live in Disneyland with all of the little tweety birdies and pink bollocking princess fluffy crap. Start living life as an educated grown up, stop with the stupid filtered selfies, and stop being so bloody feeble. Hope this has made a new memory for you all. Now fuck off.

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TheTonightShow · 13/04/2018 15:32

We're living in a world now where everything (some) people do is in the name of putting it on social media; what would they do if they lost their iPhone on the way to an exotic holiday and COULDN'T post daily poolside updates!? Heavens! They may have stayed at home as it may aswell have not happened.

Had a baby? A post MUST be uploaded within 5 hours of their birth to tell ALL on Facebook. Whatever happened to just calling and texting the ones you love?

Every time we visit my DB and SIL they take endless photos of us in the living room playing with their kids "a lovely visit from Tonight and Mr Tonight" and post them on Facebook. WHY?! Is it to prove to the other mums and dads at the kids' school you did something with the weekend?

I'm all for having loads of photos; I do... in print and on my phone; and if a day ever comes where the people in them aren't here anymore I know they're there to look back on which brings me comfort. I don't however need to post a picture of me holding my grandad's hand in a hospice saying what a great life he led on the day he's passed away (using a real life example seen on FB last year).

Slightly separate...going to gigs...why do people spend all their time actually there recording it on a phone, do you seriously watch it again and again? I doubt it.

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KaliforniaDreamz · 13/04/2018 15:32

"Some sap from Surrey" hahahahaha actual LOL

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Birdsgottafly · 13/04/2018 15:32

I have someone on my FB who does all these.

She often posts staged pics of her close-in-age, all under six children, with the caption "love should be unconditional between Siblings". She is permanently NC with one Sister and often NC with one Brother and doesn't see her DN's.

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SoapOnARoap · 13/04/2018 15:32

I’m with you OP.

Vomit inducing nonsense

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Tupperwarelid · 13/04/2018 15:33

#myboys favourite #memories of our #familyholiday were their Dad waking up one morning and taking a swig of lager out of a half drunken can he hadn't finished the night before. He thought it was lemonade (honest). They tell everyone so all my friends, staff at school etc think he is some kind of alcoholic #classymemories

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KellyanneConway · 13/04/2018 15:35

Thank you for this thread, I feel so much better for reading it. I was ranting about this to my (young adult) children only this week. They feel #blessed that facebook was not around when they were small so they do not have to look back on these posts and feel pressure to pretend to recall the memories they were supposed to be making in the manner expected by the poster.
#blessed or #trulyblessed makes me think of an American Evangelist or a religious nutter like (Stephen King's) Carrie's mum. I'd never heard anyone describe themselves as "blessed" until round 2012. And don't get me started on people who "count their blessings", which is just a list of shameless boasts using social media parlance.

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FrangipaniBlue · 13/04/2018 15:35

@sockunicorn I was just sick a little in my mouth at the shortened cutesy surnames Confused

WTAF is a #tigermama ???

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MickHucknallspinkpancakes · 13/04/2018 15:37

When I tried to make Christmas memories with DS in the form of personalised cookies with an alphabet stamper I can back from the toilet to find a baking tray laid with jolly Stocking shaped raw dough with the word "Twat" imprinted on them all.

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IAmMatty · 13/04/2018 15:40

Fuck knows Frangipani, something special I presume!

My cousin has today posted photos of her daughter on Facebook, sitting hunched over a sick basin, apparently she has bacterial tonsilitis. So I'm sure she is really enjoying having her mother stick her phone in her face, every time she stops retching. Angry

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Birdsgottafly · 13/04/2018 15:41

"Had a baby? A post MUST be uploaded within 5 hours of their birth to tell ALL on Facebook. Whatever happened to just calling and texting the ones you love?"

Tbh, a FB post is so easy, for those who aren't close family.

Also I've seen pleas for a missing camera, with holiday photos on. FB is a quick and easy way of storing your pics. Even elderly relatives have FB and they can almost share the experience. I've been housebound over the last two years and FB stopped me from feeling isolated.

Its bloody annoying when my DD's only use stupid filters, especially when they've all had their makeup done and I'd like to see what they looked like.

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turnipfarmers · 13/04/2018 15:43

@sockunicorn o if your surname was Crompton you would be "the crommies".

Just be thankful that they don't know a family called Wankmuller.

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aquaheartcat · 13/04/2018 15:44

OP YADNBU!

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Woofygoldberg · 13/04/2018 15:45

YANBU & this thread has made be laugh - just been out with my DM, Dsis and a childhood friend of ours. We were reminiscing & laughing about our best memories.....

One was My Uncle sticking a baby toy to his head that had a sucker and it left a perfect round bruise on his forehead when he pulled it off.
Another was by DM reversing into things- including a JCB, a set of bins & a van.
One was my Dsis cutting her own fringe off.


Non of them planned, non FB worthy & probably ones you would want to forget, the best memories are always the spontaneous & unexpected. So with you on this OP - this #makingmemories is a load of bullshit along with #blessed #lovemylife #nofilter #living #cleaneating #famalan & #holibobs.

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whatwouldkeithRichardsdo2 · 13/04/2018 15:46

'Stop being so feeble'.

Yes. A million times this!

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ICantCopeAnymore · 13/04/2018 15:47

Or, you could just be a nice person and let people get on with their own lives. If it annoys you so much, don't read it.

I'm disabled and don't get out much. When I do, I like to upload a photo or two to Instagram so that I can look back at them when I'm having one of my numerous bad days. They ARE my memories.

Thank goodness my friends are actual decent humans, whose lives aren't so empty that they are actually bothered by photos on social media or a hashtag.

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MedicinalGin · 13/04/2018 15:48

I so agree with you OP it’s really naff.
We are looking at houses at the moment and a related bugbear are those dreadful decorative letters that people stick in their bathrooms saying

BATH

or in the kitchen above the table that say

EAT

I reckon there is a lot of #makingmemories with the #famalam in those rooms 🙄

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haverhill · 13/04/2018 15:48

Yanbu

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dingit · 13/04/2018 15:50

Oh I don't know, ds could do with a WASH one Grin

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IwantedtobeEmmaPeel · 13/04/2018 15:50

Op, thank you so much for this thread and for everyone's else's contributions, they have made be laugh so much I was in danger of wetting myself, #damppants. Thankfully I only have one person on my facebook feed who does this along with all those fatuous inspirational messages (every bloody day) & she is a Younique bot, so I just ignore her contributions. Famalam - there are no words

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Pinkvoid · 13/04/2018 15:51

This thread is fucking hilarious. I rarely laugh out loud but I have a few times reading this. What a way to cheer a shit day up #soblessed.

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Ski40 · 13/04/2018 15:51

The expression "making memories" has a bad comnotation to me, as in " doing this and that together because x has 6 to 12 months to live" 😢 so I won't use it as it gives me the creeps.

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Ski40 · 13/04/2018 15:52

*connotation sorry small keyboard grrr

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isseywithcats · 13/04/2018 15:52

I suppose it depends why someone is making memories, my friend who died at Christmas at the age of 37 from cancer, spent the last year of her life making memories with and for her 8 year old daughter, who will not ever have a conversation or hug or anything from her mom again, i for one didn't begrudge her putting all the trips they made together last year on my Facebook page

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Lweji · 13/04/2018 15:54

But surely, the point would be to spend time with the loved ones, not make FB memories.

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aquaheartcat · 13/04/2018 15:54

My life has been so much better by deleting Facebook. I couldn't keep track of all the memories being made by other people having a hugely more exciting life than mine. It was exhausting.

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