to stop people 'making memories'

[DiplomaticDecorum]

It's a pissy pants phrase - every time it's mentioned it makes me heave. Just stop, you sound ridiculous, every fucking minute of every fucking day is making fucking memories, it's how we as a species survive.

Bugger off and live in Disneyland with all of the little tweety birdies and pink bollocking princess fluffy crap. Start living life as an educated grown up, stop with the stupid filtered selfies, and stop being so bloody feeble. Hope this has made a new memory for you all. Now fuck off.

Let's not forget the piles of presents for whatever occasion with #mygirlsareworrhit
Or #familyiseverything

The staircase to hell. Imagine having sex in that household.

Memories used to be waiting patiently for the pictures taken on holiday, and you remembered which one you took too.

I can't even begin to believe if every part of my day was punctuated with a 'smile sweetie'

Gives me the shivers.

I have fb friends who do this, and I just "unfollow" them

I have unfollowed so many people now, I hardly get any FB updates

This thread has made me laugh so much, thank you OP.

misswillmot I did laugh at your school trip memories. I’m a teacher and we always have to do a sodding painful trip recount writing task after each trip we do. We brainstorm as we get back on the coach at the trip venue to make sure the #memories have been at all registered, but even then, 90% kids remember:

A) the toilets
B) the shop
C) any vomiting that happened on the coach there/back

And that’s generally about it. I bet it’s been that way since school trips were invented.

OP, you don't understand how memory works.

And I think you may be having some kind of breakdown.

Also got rid of Facebook a while back. Was a brilliant decision. So much nicer not knowing what everyone's doing and just getting on with our own life instead and catching up in person. And my FB friends were all pretty reasonable sorts.

I feel very curmudgeonly because I'm truly delighted if my friends are happy and busy and having fun with their families, but I'm no more interested than if they showed me a pack of 36 prints in 1985, and coming up with different comments to yet another perfectly posed picture was annoying. I like people a lot more again now!

Loving this thread. Am now considering having a sign made that says

In this house we do forgiveness crack

The human brain is selective. You cannot "make" memories specifically, so I agree with the OP that the phrase is vacuous.
Besides which, even in the same situation, different people will remember different things.

Please excuse the mess, my children are making memories fucking feral

Haha - this thread has given me all the feelings

Alternatively...

Shit dance like nobody's watching

No wonder teachers need medicinal gin MedicinalGin

MrsDV I know that making memories is used in that context with the very best of intentions but we found it really hard when our child was dying to keep being told to make memories because she was so ill, distressed and scared. All our memories of those months are bad, and no number of treats made any difference. I think the work done with life limited children is remarkable, and any good memories we do have of her illness only happened because of the wonderful hospice supporting us, but it felt a bit hurtful in our situation to talk about making memories.

In general, FB tags like this are irritating beyond belief, and all #famalam people should be barred from the internet. Our son's abiding memory of our once-in-a-lifetime summer holiday by the way is the baggage carousel at the airport.

U ok hun?

I have fb friends who do this, and I just "unfollow" them

I have unfollowed so many people now, I hardly get any FB updates

I basically unfollowed everyone and now I just use facebook to aggregate articles from news websites and special interest blogs. It's actually good!

For those who don't know, unfollowing means you remain "friends" with someone but their posts don't appear on your newsfeed. Every time people moan about the crap on their facebook, I wonder why they don't just unfollow these people??? It's extremely simple.

@turnipfarmers haha thank god!

Youve all reminded me of my actual holiday memories. I remember being around 6 and my sister dropping her ice cream out of her cone and me laughing till i nearly wee-d. Same holiday my cousin finding £1 in the sea. I chased him along the beach and rugby tackled him to the ground in jealousy, resulting in a black eye for him as he hit the ground . And my Uncle (his dad) putting us all to bed one night and showing us he had false teeth and chasing us with them "chattering" them as we all screamed and my sister cried. .

#makingmemorieswiththefamalam

Ah I remember actually loving this phrase with PFB. I think it was just me trying not to mess up being a Mum.

It's funny because "famalam" was only used among the "urban youth" about 10-15 years ago as another word to call a friend. As in bro -> family -> fam -> famalam.

I agree. Aren't we supposed to live in the moment and practice mindfulness and that these days? What's the point if doing something just in the hope of looking back on it?

My daughter and I remember a holiday in Wales. It was pouring so hard that at first we couldn't get out of the rented house. But then I insisted we went for a walk. It was still pouring, but we tramped through a few sodden field. We found three small slightly eaten swedes in a stream, which I put in my rucksack. We amade a bridge/dam with stones in the same stream. Later I cooked the swedes and we ate them. We have always referred to it as the holiday of Three Swedes Bridge.

sockunicorn I was watching a programme on CBeebies with my little boy the other day and it featured the tram up the Great Orme in North Wales. We went on holiday there every year for about six years, and I can't imagine how many times I must have been on that tram - and it's quite cool, up a steep hill, and I had only extremely vague recognition of it. My main memories of all those holidays there in the same place year on year are going swimming in the perfectly normal local leisure centre, taking banana flavoured antibiotic medicine one year, liking the tinned soup we got as a starter in the hotel and some sort of Alice in Wonderland statue in a shopping centre.

sockunicorn you've just reminded me that I was reminiscing with my daughter recently about the time her Nana trapped her fingers in my car door. And there was another time we were talking about when my DCs aged about 8 and 10 were obsessed with Zombies so I let them watch Sean of the Dead, I didn't realise how much swearing there was in it and I had to try to anticipate when the swearing would happen to fast forward. We still watched it though and they loved it. #familytime #myworld

I sort of feel the same way.
I know a woman who does this. She's always doing stuff with her teenage kids, they always seem to be having fun. She has walls of photos in her house of all the memories and she has a blog.
I feel wholly inadequate on a day to day basis as it is, things like that make it much worse.
Firstly I don't have the money to take my dc hither and thither and secondly i don't really want to.

Living for today all the time is impossible too. I would never ever do any housework if I was thinking of only today. We all need to plan for the future, even those like a close relative who only had weeks to live is still planning for the future - just a shorter future than most.