to stop people 'making memories'

[DiplomaticDecorum]

It's a pissy pants phrase - every time it's mentioned it makes me heave. Just stop, you sound ridiculous, every fucking minute of every fucking day is making fucking memories, it's how we as a species survive.

Bugger off and live in Disneyland with all of the little tweety birdies and pink bollocking princess fluffy crap. Start living life as an educated grown up, stop with the stupid filtered selfies, and stop being so bloody feeble. Hope this has made a new memory for you all. Now fuck off.

@DiegoMaradona

It's actually strange the amount of people who add or accept people they don't particularly like or have no interest in, then choose not to hide their posts (which is very simple and doesn't remove them as a friend so no fb politics involved), and then bitch and moan about what they post. People get a kind of masochistic pleasure from it, I suppose. A lot of people just love to judge/complain.

This ^

@cheeseislife

The worst for me is the family photos with young baby on Facebook where both parents have to gawp like overexcited idiots, open mouthed, glassy eyed at the camera because they're having SO MUCH FUN getting their photo taken. They look cringe worthy

FFS if these new parents appall you SO much with their new baby excitement, just unfollow or unfriend.

You (and a number of others on here) sound so nasty and spiteful and bitchy. Can you actually hear yourselves?!

@thefirststep

diego but aren’t you on here reading a thread you disagree with in order to judge and complain?

Not even REMOTELY the same.

ThisIsTheFirstStep

but aren’t you on here reading a thread you disagree with in order to judge and complain?

Well, that's not what I'm doing here really. I'm offering my opinion on the topic of the thread. I'm not mad or anything.

I guess it would be more similar if I started a thread ranting about how threads in AIBU are all a load of shit and angrily telling everyone who posts in this section to grow up and fuck off. But I wouldn't do that because obviously if I felt that way, I just wouldn't read AIBU.

I am all for people making whatever memories they like - just so long as they don't try and share them with me.

Ahh this is about FB- I got a bit hurt when I thought you were attacking Disneyland.

I don't have FB so I clearly have no memories.

I am all for people making whatever memories they like - just so long as they don't try and share them with me

They're sharing them with people who chose to be their FRIEND on facebook! If you don't want to see their posts, unfollow or unfriend them! It's easy! Or is everyone supposed to know which of their "friends" wants to see their posts and which don't?

diego but none of us here are mad either really. We’re just taking the piss. You opened a thread knowing full well what the topic was likely to be, just to have a moan.

It’s exactly the same thing.

I cannot stand mawkish sentimentality. I think it destroys real emotion, I think it’s only purpose is to try to show off how much better/sensitive/family-oriented/whatever you are. Nothing wrong with feeling that way or commenting about it. It’s probably a bit judgey but whatever. I own my judginess, I don’t hide it behind a veneer of ‘you’re all big meanies’.

Diego - Because they are lovely people who post lots of genuinely interesting stuff, but a handful of them tend to come over bit weird in the holidays and feel the need to share every moment from breakfast to bedtime with the minute by minute memories they are making. So I mentally filter those bits (blocking seems a bit of an extreme reaction ) and wait for normal posting to resume.

And then there's the people who complain on MN that their relatives went on the same trips as them.

#making jealousy

To whoever complained about a comment that FB was evil. It is evil. Are you Zuckerberg?
We just fell into the dark side and can't get out. Just complain about it.
MN is no better. Both by children of Dr Evil.

@ThisIsTheFirstStep

diego but none of us here are mad either really. We’re just taking the piss. You opened a thread knowing full well what the topic was likely to be, just to have a moan.

It’s exactly the same thing.

I cannot stand mawkish sentimentality. I think it destroys real emotion, I think it’s only purpose is to try to show off how much better/sensitive/family-oriented/whatever you are. Nothing wrong with feeling that way or commenting about it. It’s probably a bit judgey but whatever. I own my judginess, I don’t hide it behind a veneer of ‘you’re all big meanies’.

But certain people on this thread are not 'taking the piss' and 'having a laugh' - they are being spiteful and bitchy ... And I am not saying 'you are all big meanies...' - that is too light hearted; you are not being 'meanies,' you are plain nasty and spiteful and bitchy, and are coming across as jealous and bitter.

The thread may have started out lighthearted and people were coming across as ribbing and kidding about, but it quickly descended into a spiteful bitchfest, deriding and mocking people who post sentimental stuff on facebook. (And also people who USE facebook!)

If you don't like a certain person's posts, UNFOLLOW THEM. And if facebook and most of its users piss you off so much (as it's all so 'pathetic,') then deactivate your facebook! It's not fucking rocket science!

And who are you to say peoples feelings are 'mawkish sentimentality?' Rather than true emotions? Some people on here are so fucking judgemental.

I bet a month's salary that you catty mares on here are perfectly lovely to the faces of these people you are berating and mocking, but bitch and crow about them to other people behind their back, and say how pathetic they are. Like a nasty little clique of schoolgirls. I have met this type before. Extremely unpleasant, bitchy, and often jealous of the person they are slagging off.

If you and people like you cannot stand sentimentality, that is your issue and I am sure there is some underlying reason for, but give over with the spiteful shit about other people who DON'T have a problem with it!

And as I said before, you cannot compare people like diego and me complaining on this thread (about people like you,) to the continual bitching and spiteful remarks about peoples posts and photos on facebook!

What is even MORE ridiculous is the posters who claim they hate facebook and it's evil, and they 'don't subscribe to it' and all that shit, and yet they bang on about it, and seem to know everything about it, and they seem to know everything everyone posts. Funny that.

By the way, 'owning' your judginess' does not make it any more acceptable, so you can shove that back into your 'cheesy phrase' bank.

I repeat UNFOLLOW people if their 'sentimental crap' bothers you so much! Better still, deactivate facebook!

tonight I have someone on my feed who did the grandparent death bed thing followed by post after post of #devasted type posts.
I dread to think what they will be like when they lose a parent.

When did photos and memories become the same thing?
The memories my brother and I always go back to are the poo in the bath incident, the day he stood on a patch of wasps, the day I slammed his fingers in a door removing two of his finger nails when he was chasing me round a neighbour's house (jury is still out as to whose fault that was) , when mum had an ingrown toenail removed and dad remarked with the bandaging her foot looked like a hoof and the caravan holiday where we all swam in the sea other than mum, and she spent the next 48 hours at the launderette and clearing up vomit, while we compared whose projectile vomit went furthest and dad insisted lucozade would 'sort us all out', were there a week, no idea what we did the rest of the time.
No photos of any of it.
#blessed #siblinglove #justsayingshouldn'thavechasedme #stillcallherthehoof

Agree with everything DD43 says.

Perhaps I'm the only one who loves seeing FB photos then! I love seeing photos of babies, my friends out with their families, nights out, everything. It's so hard to see them otherwise, I have lovely friends who I hardly see what with their children's disabilities, my constrained circumstances, both unlikely to travel to each other's areas. Pictures of their children and themselves, doing anything really, are lovely and make a connection you can then follow up on the phone, email etc. I have lots of non FB friends as well, more locally, but I love my FB friends.

The way this thread is written, you'd have thought cameras had just been invented. People have been taking cheesy posed photos of family holidays and events for decades now...(I can see there's a quantity issue with FB but some posts seem to be mocking the very idea of actually photographing meaningful times in your life).

I actually prefer seeing posts like those to looking for sympathy/woe is me type posts, rants (esp political ones), tmi health posts, general oversharing and endless memes (esp Minions ones!). I've unfollowed a few people who are guilty of some or all of the above.

I like seeing friends days out and holidays and post a fair few myself although without any #makingmemories #soblessed crap, and nor do my friends - might consider unfollowing if they did

Inthedeepdarkwinter
nope.
I love seeing photos and videos.
I recognise FB for what it is. A place to share stuff about life. I don't understand people who join and then moan about people using it for just that.
BUT
#blessed
#makingmemories
'I am a strong woman who drinks Prosecco, loves her kids and wears high heels and if you can't handle that you don't deserve me'

I can do without

It’s the #hashtags that are nauseating. Sharing incidental photos has changed to photo opportunities.

@Lweji

I'm day two of temp over 40, vomiting and unable to move much. Your post about emotions and the world heritage site made me laugh so hard my DP came in with the most confused look, as I've been moaning in pain for days.

Thank you

inthedeepdarkwater, i said this in a pp, but whilst being practically housebound, people's photos have cheered me up. A friend of my DD was taking her children to Disney LP and had the countdown timer on. I was really looking forward to the pics. Hoping that i'll be better to go with my GC in a few years.

I find travel exciting and enjoy others indulging in it. Another friend of my DD is getting married in Cyprus and over 20 of them have booked in to a family holiday resort, again I can't wait to see the pictures.

Having future trips in mind has been part of what has kept me going.

@ThinkingQueSeraSera

Glad to be of service.

DD43 I understand that you want people to behave in a certain way, but ordering them to do so will not achieve the result you want.

There's a married couple on my friends list.
They are textbook smug types posting photos of everything they do with their (bored looking) teenage children.
All these mundane activites, eg going for a walk or out for a meal, are referred to as 'shenanigans'.

I rather wish that people who make a big, smug song and dance about "making memories" would, to mix metaphors, fuck off to the moon and back.

fuck off to the moon and back.

That'd certainly make a memory for them. #holibobsonthemoon

@Basta

Are you new? Everyone knows that on MN people are told to fuck off to the far side of fuck. And then do it some more.

The moon is not far enough.