to stop people 'making memories'

[DiplomaticDecorum]

It's a pissy pants phrase - every time it's mentioned it makes me heave. Just stop, you sound ridiculous, every fucking minute of every fucking day is making fucking memories, it's how we as a species survive.

Bugger off and live in Disneyland with all of the little tweety birdies and pink bollocking princess fluffy crap. Start living life as an educated grown up, stop with the stupid filtered selfies, and stop being so bloody feeble. Hope this has made a new memory for you all. Now fuck off.

Are you jealous of people posting their memories or why do you care... the absolute brilliance of social media and forums etc is that if you see something you don't like you can unfollow or unfriend or scroll last. Why begrudge what others want to do,if you don't like it unfollow or move on. Sounds like something else is at play for you to begrudge it so much to be honest.

@PurpleDoughnut you're missing the point. It's the lame hashtags and need to share everything they do rather than enjoying doing it that is irritating.

I loved your post and l am not even on facebook. My dc look back on holidays through rosetinted glasses. 10 years later..Remember when we went to the Dali museum..big smiles. Nothing about them all screeching its too hot..why are we going in here..l need a drink. Glad their memories are better than the actual event.

I took my children to Florida earlier this year. I saved and saved for years and tried to make all their dreams come true. As you do.

Me, fondly to dd:- "What was your favourite thing about the holiday dd?"

"Ummmmm" long pause "When you shouted Everyone needs to SHUT UP AND LET ME DRIVE IF THEY WANT A MCDONALDS!!!!"

I remembered this moment too. I had started speaking relatively quietly and swiftly raised my voice to bellowing point in order to drown out my argumentative teenager, so loudly in fact that the elderly couple in the car park lane beside us looked at us like

@Phase84 #lifewithatoddler !!! I have loads of that one come up.

@FASH84 #itwas100%hisfault

@Inthedeepdarkwinter I love seeing peoples photos. And I flood my families timelines with photos of my gurning DDs all the time. Its just the hashtags. Like clearly you are making memories, you dont need to hashtag it. And everyone loves their kids, you dont need to #kidsaremyworld. think its more the bizarre nature of the hashtags for me. And the use of words like famalam, holibobs etc.

Just because this one aspect of some peoples personalities annoys me/bemuses me doesnt mean i dont want to see their lives and chat to them. I love seeing their kids and families and holidays. Its just the pure cheesiness of some of the things they say. But Im sure I do/say things that annoy them as well.

@CuboidalSlipshoddy #holibobswiththefamalamonthemoon

@MsGameandWatching haha i love this! could have saved yourself thousands and shouted at them on the way to mcdonalds in england instead :)

@Myimaginarycathasfleas
...and take your sodding unicorns with you

I saw a birthday card today that had a picture of a unicorn with a horse saying "you say unicorn, I say knobhead". It made me laugh. Paperchase if you're interested!

The moon is not far enough.

Fair point.

YANBU - Kill them! Kill them all!

I hate the term too - it’s twee and meaningless. What about ‘having fun with my family’ instead of ‘making memories’. I’d rather live in the moment than think about it in terms of looking back. I have a very good memory and have had some fantastic times in my life, and enjoy reminiscing, but I’d never use that term.

I don't like the term much but its not meaningless. It's pretty accurate.

I think social media makes this sort of stuff easier to share, but people were always inflicting their joy on others - I remember having to watch aunt and uncles slides of america for about 2 hours when they went - at least you can escape a Facebook post!
Also remember the bloke at work who was so besotted with his first child, that he brought about 60 photos in to work, including one of himself, in the bath, with said baby :-o (nothing untoward was showing due to his extreme hairiness, and lots of bubbles....)! I wish I could unsee that photo though...

It’s a bit weird to presume that the things/events you put a lot of effort into, tool lots of photos of & posted on Facebook are the things that your children will remember. They might remember it entirely differently or not at all. It’s obv good to try n provide lots fun enjoyable stuff for your kids if you can but they may remember the rare chilled out pizza, & film on the sofa with you, rather than the stressy holiday or day out.

What’s the point of making memories - we all die and they disappear.....

Oh enough with the hand wringing, no hastaggers were killed in the making of this thread, we are just saying they are irritating. Some of my favourite people are fb fools.

No-one has mentioned #TeamJones [insert family name of choice] That’s another vom inducing one and annoyingly I know someone who uses it.

I think what makes these things annoying is the smugness quotient and performative element of it all.

What’s the point of making memories - we all die and they disappear.....
Ah! Not on social media we won't, ironically your memories will persist there much longer than you do, unless someone takes steps to remove them.

What’s the point of making memories - we all die and they disappear.....

Aren’t you a cheery soul?!

100% with you OP.

“Making memories” is vomit inducing.

“Live, laugh, love” should be a valid defence for murder.

You can't beat a bit of nihilism on a Saturday night
What’s the point of making memories - we all die and they disappear.....

I don’t do twee hashtags or specifically “make memories” but I do put almost everything on FB. And in a way I am making memories because I like to think that if something happened to me my kids could download my file (together with our wills I have mine and DH’s FB passwords do they could do whatever is needed if FB is still around when we croak!) and pretty much get a snapshot of me. Or if one of us ends up with dementia the posts and memories might help. Cheerful, me...

Agree totally OP.

"This one" with a photo of a friend

Team(insert family name)

And if I see another fucking unicorn...

Has anyone mentioned ‘squads’ yet as in ‘Jones squad’.

@moonandstars84

tonight I have someone on my feed who did the grandparent death bed thing followed by post after post of #devastated type posts.I dread to think what they will be like when they lose a parent.

Oh wow what a HORRIBLE post! 'OH you only lost your GRANDMA get over yourself!' What the actual fuck?

@colditz

DD43 I understand that you want people to behave in a certain way, but ordering them to do so will not achieve the result you want.

What the hell are you going on about?

@PurpleDoughnut

Are you jealous of people posting their memories or why do you care... ? The absolute brilliance of social media and forums etc is that if you see something you don't like you can unfollow or unfriend or scroll past.

True! But if they 'unfollowed' these people they claim to loathe so much, they wouldn't be able to bitch about them and berate them, and pour scorn on them would they?

These spiteful individuals claim to be soooooo annoyed by people posting pics of their child, or their holiday to Tenerife, but in reality, they cannot wait to log onto facebook and look - just so they can make nasty, spiteful, bitchy comments and mock and deride them. Makes them feel better about themselves if they slag other people off who are having a better life than them.......

A few piss-take comments like I have seen on the previous page, is one thing, and some of them are funny, but some of the bile and bitchiness that has been spewed out by some on this thread is so unnecessary, and as I said, it makes people look jealous, bitter, and spiteful.

What’s the point of making memories - we all die and they disappear.....

Some weird shit being spouted on this thread.......

What is the point in doing ANYthing then? Anything we do or achieve will be pointless when we're all bloody DEAD!