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to stop people 'making memories'

410 replies

DiplomaticDecorum · 13/04/2018 14:16

It's a pissy pants phrase - every time it's mentioned it makes me heave. Just stop, you sound ridiculous, every fucking minute of every fucking day is making fucking memories, it's how we as a species survive.

Bugger off and live in Disneyland with all of the little tweety birdies and pink bollocking princess fluffy crap. Start living life as an educated grown up, stop with the stupid filtered selfies, and stop being so bloody feeble. Hope this has made a new memory for you all. Now fuck off.

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Alittlesandwich · 13/04/2018 19:41

Some self obsessed cunt keeps writing makingmemories# on a friend who has terminal cancer's posts and is so fucking thick she can't see that this is wholly inappropriate and fucking sick.

ReversingSnail · 13/04/2018 19:50

It can seem very naff, and isn't to my taste either, but if it makes them happy so what? It's banal but so are a lot of things. Life's too short to pretend to be cool and sophisticated if that isn't your thing. Some people don't like the "I'm hard and anything sentimental is beneath me" ideology either. Each to their own.

BlueSapp · 13/04/2018 20:21

FB is totally evil thank god I never bought into that shit Grin

CuboidalSlipshoddy · 13/04/2018 20:40

It can seem very naff, and isn't to my taste either, but if it makes them happy so what?

The pathway from sentimental #makingmemories#lovemykids to sentimental #alfiesarmy isn't as long, or as indirect, as one might like.

SoupDragon · 13/04/2018 20:51

The pathway from sentimental #makingmemories#lovemykids to sentimental #alfiesarmy isn't as long, or as indirect, as one might like.

The two are completely unrelated. 🙄

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DiplomaticDecorum · 13/04/2018 20:58

Well DD43 wins the prize for being the biggest fun sponge .......Wink

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GrannyGrissle · 13/04/2018 21:09

Sorry, have we had 'Adulting' yet (as per another thread). Repulsive.

Atthebottomofthesea · 13/04/2018 21:18

I have a few #makingmemories posters on my fb, I know it is fb and I know you only see the shiny edited versions of things but it makes me feel sad about my life.

I asked dd(12) her favourite memory of the holiday - she said having lie in's and the 6 year old said, Easter and Jesus.

So not the ridiculously expensive trip to the trampoline park then.

SickofThomasTheTank · 13/04/2018 22:04

@unicornandrainbows Thanks for the single parent bashing there love! 👍🏻👩‍👧‍👦

We're not all cringeworthy thanks

unicornandrainbows · 13/04/2018 22:19

@SickofThomasTheTank that's not single parent bashing.
That is a emoji that someone who is married put on their Facebook to symbolise that her girls are her world!

SickofThomasTheTank · 13/04/2018 22:24

She’s married and put a single parent emoji up? Shock Shock

I’d be awaiting more of them in the not so distant future by the sound of it....!

ICantCopeAnymore · 13/04/2018 22:24

Facebook is a playground for adults still playing out their teenage shit. It’s completely useless and a medium for displaying your edited and fake life. I want to shake people and scream “these are not your real friends

Actually, I display my very real life on Facebook, when I feel like it. It's not useless, as I'm disabled and have no local family. They enjoy me posting as I can keep all of them up to date in one place.

I only have my real friends and my family on Facebook, actually. My list is under 50 people.

I don't use hashtags, but as I've already said, I use Facebook and Instagram for my memories. I'm disabled, I don't get out much, I enjoy looking back at my photos when I'm bedridden and writhing in pain and it reminds me there are good days.

There are a lot of disgustingly nasty people on Mumsnet, getting riled over things that have no effect on them whatsoever. What a sad existence. If a few hashtags and some Facebook photos bother you that much, I suggest you have a biscuit.

unicornandrainbows · 13/04/2018 22:25

She actually does!!!
It's like she treats the children as possessions.
But this is a whole thread on its own

stoneagemum · 13/04/2018 22:28

I was memorising with my mum this evening, I'm 38 for context,
What we remembered, the time I walked into a glass conservatory door at a garden centre, the time I fell into a pond at a theme park, the day I fell in a mud filled ditch at a national park, the day I walked past a posh Christmas display and the glass baubles fell off the tree and smashed
Lessons learned

  1. I fell in crap a lot
  2. I attract carnage
  3. the memories were not made, they just happened
DiegoMadonna · 13/04/2018 22:31

stoneagemum I don't think memorising means what you think it means Grin

Reminiscing, perhaps.

DD43 · 13/04/2018 22:36

@BlueSapp

FB is totally evil thank god I never bought into that shit. Grin

Wow, bully for you. Hmm

I can assure you facebook and everyone on it, gives zero shits that you think it's 'evil' and you never bought into it. 🙄

@ReversingSnail

It can seem very naff, and isn't to my taste either, but if it makes them happy so what? It's banal but so are a lot of things. Life's too short to pretend to be cool and sophisticated if that isn't your thing. Some people don't like the "I'm hard and anything sentimental is beneath me" ideology either. Each to their own.

This. ^ I am sick of the bullshit crap I read from people who claim to be too cool for facebook, and imply (or even say,) that anyone who uses it is a dumb fuck.

Don't want to bother with it, then don't, but quit bitching at people who DO enjoy it; it makes you sound bitchy, pathetic, bitter, and jealous,

@Icantcopeanymore

Actually, I display my very real life on Facebook, when I feel like it. It's not useless, as I'm disabled and have no local family. They enjoy me posting as I can keep all of them up to date in one place.

I only have my real friends and my family on Facebook, actually. My list is under 50 people.

I don't use hashtags, but as I've already said, I use Facebook and Instagram for my memories. I'm disabled, I don't get out much, I enjoy looking back at my photos when I'm bedridden and writhing in pain and it reminds me there are good days.

There are a lot of disgustingly nasty people on Mumsnet, getting riled over things that have no effect on them whatsoever. What a sad existence. If a few hashtags and some Facebook photos bother you that much, I suggest you have a biscuit.

All of this. ^ Funny how some people have so much utter loathing for facebook and people who use it, yet seem to know so much about it, and conveniently see ALL the posts by people they claim to not be interested in.

Imchangingmyname · 13/04/2018 22:38

#makingmemories with hubster and babas..precious times with the famalam. Truly beyond #blessed #lovethem #myworld. Such a shame the day ended so so awful. Not saying here but pm me hun.

DangerEgg · 13/04/2018 22:54

What's wrong with making memories?

We never had a family camera and I'd loved to have had one to have helped with the memories. I'm part of a few facebook groups of my hometown and love seeing old pics and 'wow remember that place' stories. I don't say it out loud but yes, I'm making memories for my kids.

They like looking back and so do we.

People love old photos, of places, events, anything as they bring back memories.

YABU and judgey.

ThisIsTheFirstStep · 13/04/2018 23:24

danger nothing to do with hating memories, everything to do with hating twee hashtags

DiegoMadonna · 13/04/2018 23:28

It's extremely easy to hide the posts of people you're not interested in, or to do as a PP suggested and just keep a small friends list of only people you ACTUALLY care about. Extremely easy.

It's actually strange the amount of people who add or accept people they don't particularly like or have no interest in, then choose not to hide their posts (which is very simple and doesn't remove them as a friend so no fb politics involved), and then bitch and moan about what they post. People get a kind of masochistic pleasure from it, I suppose. A lot of people just love to judge/complain.

ThisIsTheFirstStep · 13/04/2018 23:30

diego but aren’t you on here reading a thread you disagree with in order to judge and complain?

How is it different?

Cheeseislife · 13/04/2018 23:32

The worst for me is the family photos with young baby on Facebook where both parents have to gawp like overexcited idiots, open mouthed, glassy eyed at the camera because they're having SO MUCH FUN getting their photo taken. They look cringe worthy

unicornandrainbows · 13/04/2018 23:32

@Diego I'm not complaining, just taking the piss out of how Naff it is

Phase84 · 13/04/2018 23:36

Love the shitty twee hastags. I have...

#Mummysgirl #myworld #lovingmotherhood #breastfedbaby #lifewithatoddler #breastfeedingmama #cheekygirl

Oh do fuck off....

Grin
RepealRepealRepeal · 13/04/2018 23:38

My experience of the #makingmemories crowd is that they're also the #iliveformykids crowd. Which is fine if it's healthy for the kid, but often, they're off-loaded to anyone who will take them, straight after the FB pic has been posted, or they're the poor wee bigger standing at the side as their parent protests meat, or sugar, or TV. However, this may be limited to my area.

Essentially, it's not for me as I find the phrases, hashtags and living on FB creepy and cringe worthy, but each to their own.