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to stop people 'making memories'

410 replies

DiplomaticDecorum · 13/04/2018 14:16

It's a pissy pants phrase - every time it's mentioned it makes me heave. Just stop, you sound ridiculous, every fucking minute of every fucking day is making fucking memories, it's how we as a species survive.

Bugger off and live in Disneyland with all of the little tweety birdies and pink bollocking princess fluffy crap. Start living life as an educated grown up, stop with the stupid filtered selfies, and stop being so bloody feeble. Hope this has made a new memory for you all. Now fuck off.

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The80sweregreat · 13/04/2018 18:02

i agree.

SirDigbyChickenCzr · 13/04/2018 18:04

My daughter (15) remembers one specific moment on a beach trip when she was 6. We didn't do it intentionally, we were just bored and needed something to do and I think that made it even better. Making memories is such a stupid phrase, why not just be a family?

GrandTheftWalrus · 13/04/2018 18:18

Little Johnny just done a massive dump on my white sofa

#blessed
#makingmemories

DropItLikeASquat · 13/04/2018 18:23

love that JaneJeffer!! I need that. on my front door. with nail varnish/slime/ketchup splatted on it. printed in BOLD. widescreen.

GrandTheftWalrus · 13/04/2018 18:26

I hate the making memories pish all over Facebook. Me and DP rip the piss out of anyone doing it. Not on fb though.

idobelieveinfairies86 · 13/04/2018 18:28

have to say I'm kind of glad I 'make memories' and upload every photo of my kids over years seeing as how when my house burnt to the ground (with all our photos in it) I at least had some small comfort that I still had our pics.

But these days I much prefer the keepsake app as I can share with the family who we hardly ever see and not offend my memory hating friends = win/win

JaneJeffer · 13/04/2018 18:32

I'm not even on social media but I hate when people tag photos #doing some shite thing with this one accompanied by a photo of them looking fab and "this one" looking terrible.

DaffodilsBlowingInTheWind · 13/04/2018 18:35

Depends - the only time I have heard this really used was my friend with terminal breast cancer who was trying to make memories for her two small children

SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 13/04/2018 18:36

Idobelieve sorry that happened to you.

I don't think it's the photos though, at least not for me. It's the hashtagging twee meaningfulness that's grating.

I don't think anyone actually hates the memories! Grin

DaffodilsBlowingInTheWind · 13/04/2018 18:36

Yes this did involve Disney OP

Momo18 · 13/04/2018 18:38

You sound jealous tbh, just saying...

Ronnyhotdog · 13/04/2018 18:39

We went to Disney 10yrs ago ds2 was 5 at the time. He remembers dh leaving the lights on in the hire car and us having a flat battery on Day 1 of the 14 day holiday. It’s his only memory of it 😂 you’re welcome boy.

bullyingadvice2017 · 13/04/2018 18:45

Love the ones that post twee pics with comments all about their trip to the local park. Why pretend you are Mary popping when really you spent the day screaming at your badly behaved kids?

crunchymint · 13/04/2018 18:47

DP has just reminded me that we went with a friend to London with a group of kids. Took them to lots of places. The thing they remember? There was a police horse with a big willy. #horsebigwilly #making memories

AlistairAppletonssexyscarf · 13/04/2018 18:47

MrsDV Flowers to you too as I know you had a horrible loss. I know that the memory work is hugely important for some families but it would have been good if, as you say, they had followed our needs a bit more. The pressure to 'enjoy' the rest of her life meant we didn't feel able to talk about how wretched we felt about what was happening. It felt like we lost the daughter we had a long time before she went and no one would let us acknowledge that.

But for other families, probably the majority, building as many memories of the remaining or limited time they gave IS really important, and needs to happen.

pinkflamingo103 · 13/04/2018 18:48

😂 @Ronnyhotdog

Minimammoth · 13/04/2018 18:50

And some of us have things we might want to wipe. Forever.

aquaheartcat · 13/04/2018 18:56

We went to Disney for 2 weeks. Did the lot and made lots of memories. Best bit of the holiday according to my 6 year old was the safety information leaflet on the plane showing the inflatable yellow slide that you use to escape from the plane should it crash in the sea. #crash #slide

TheFirstMrsDV · 13/04/2018 19:00

Alistair I am sorry that happened to you. I can totally see how that would happen. Its an extension of the pressure put on families of children with severe disabilities and/or serious illness. 'They' want to see the positive, the warrior parent, the bravery.
It can make it impossible for us to do what we feel like doing...screaming from the rooftops that this is not fair and we want it not to be happening.
If its any small comfort your post will make me even more determined to keep checking with and following the families I work with Flowers

Suadow · 13/04/2018 19:01

Brilliant !

DinoSn0re · 13/04/2018 19:04

Favourite OP ever.

RibenaMonsoon · 13/04/2018 19:07

DS had a poo in the bath tonight. I didn't feel the need to post on Facebook. But it's something that I'll look back on with humour as I painstakingly disinfected all his bath toys and scooped it all out of the bath.

#makingmemories
#feelingblessed

lalaloopyhead · 13/04/2018 19:18

Haha, I was just about to say that my DD (19) frequently regales the story of her earliest memory being in the bath with dd2 and wondering why there was chocolate icecream in there as a poo floated past.

#bathpoo#neverforget

DD43 · 13/04/2018 19:35

@gillybeans

My DC's tell me not to go on social media so I don't...

That's depressing. Do you spend your whole life taking orders from your children? Confused

DD43 · 13/04/2018 19:35

Well THIS thread took a turn from 'jovial ribbing' to 'plain bitchy' pretty sharpish! Hmm There are some pretty horrible comments on here dressed up as 'banter....'

@whatthefoxgoingon

Facebook is a playground for adults still playing out their teenage shit. It’s completely useless and a medium for displaying your edited and fake life. I want to shake people and scream “these are not your real friends!!” And Suckerberg has now stolen all your data. I left years ago and now I’m pissed off I ever joined it.

That is such a mean and harsh generalisation. Even though I know a few people with 1500 friends/people on facebook, (most of whom they probably don't know/have little to do with,) I have 99 people on facebook, all of whom I know personally except half a dozen who I met on farmville a few years back.

And the majority of the people on my friends list have a list that consists of less than 150 friends, family, and colleagues.... most of who they know. And I know very few people who are attention seekers, and certainly no-one who acts like a teenager. Maybe my social circle is different to yours?

I also find it hard to fathom how you know what all these people are saying, and how these people have 'fake friends' and how they have an 'edited and fake life' if you 'left facebook years ago.'

You may loathe it, but if other people enjoy it, just leave them to it. I love facebook! It gives me a great opportunity to converse with people I don't see often (like relatives and friends who live overseas,) and gives me a chance to communicate quickly with friends and colleagues, and my adult children.

I love posting pics and seeing other peoples pics, and although I see the odd attention-seeking posts, the majority of the time, people are fine. I don't understand this bitter hatred for facebook. As for 'zuckerberg has all your data' did you seriously believe he didn't?! You would have to be quite deluded to think what you post on the internet is 'private.'

Take the piss out of famalam and holibobs by all means, and it's understandable to get irked with the '97% of my friends won't share this' type of thing... But to deride and berate everyone who uses facebook and label them sad losers (like a few on here have,) is just bloody rude.

@Birdsgottafly

She often posts staged pics of her close-in-age, all under six children, with the caption "love should be unconditional between Siblings". She is permanently NC with one Sister and often NC with one Brother and doesn't see her DN's.

Maybe that is why she is trying to foster closeness between her children?! Hmm

Seriously, the hatred and the vitriol aimed at facebook users (from some) is waaaay worse than any 'famalam' or #makingmemories type comments I see on social media.

Through all the 'banter' and LOLs on here, there is some thinly-veiled bitterness and envy coming through, and also some not-so-thinly-veiled bitchiness.

Not with everyone, but with some posters........... Wink

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