Softzilla: You play; you pay!

[Unreasonableunreasonableness]

Before you all get excited: no party yet (I was trying to keep when it was vague so more anonymous but i give up) . I have had a message from softzilla.
'So are we calm enough to sort this oot for tomorrow? '

oh this person is batshit! Lets hope your friends are with you tomorrow. Be polite, but keep her at arms length.

It's totally not to do with her stirring. I'm currently having fertility issues and 3 friends have announced pregnancies in the last couple days. I was fine until one outed my fertility issues (which were only known by a few people) on the site of a group we attend while posting her scan pictures. To about 40 people. I've never had so many private messages from people I barely know. Some of who will be at this party.
Anyway, I'll go, partly because my dd knows about it and is excited and I won't do that to her.

unreasonable . Im sorry this has happened. :(

Go tomorrow and don't worry about softzilla or any of those other mums. You've got your friends looking out for you and it'll send out some strong signals that you won't be intimidated.

Oh unreasonable, no wonder you're feeling emotionally drained.

Good Luck for the party. You have done nothing wrong and she is clearly desperate to claw back some control of the whole situation!

You've had a shit time all round I hope tomorrow can be a laugh for you, you've got friends who have your back so you'll be ok! rise above it all and flip the Vs on your way out

sorry to hear. And so awkward. Hope outing friend apologized massively!

Oh Unreasonable what a rubbish couple of days. I’m so sorry to read your update. for tomorrow. It sounds like you have some lovely friends who will have your back if you do want to go tomorrow, but just be gentle on yourself.

Someone outed your fertility issues while posting her own scan pics? God almighty you've got some bastards for friends. Time for a clear out sweetie.

Sounds like Party Friend and Friend 1 have your back. Hope the party goes OK OP

Oh dear. I’m sorry you’re going through a shit time. . The only up side to people knowing your fertility issues is that they will think softzilla a prize bitch if she’s horrible to you tomorrow. You’ve got a lot of people on here very much behind you and wishing you well.

Outing friend didn't really mean to. She posted her scan pictures on the group and then commented on them ' hope you don't mind I've posted the pictures on the group page unreasonable '. Didn't take much for people to realise why I might mind. I actually think she meant to send it in a private message but baby brain happened and she hasn't realised what she's done. I only found out when the 'hey hun sorry to hear you have problems ' messages started coming in. It's too late to do anything now and I don't want to upset her baby announcement happiness for nothing so I'm not going to say anything.

OMG, keep strong, even in the face of this last bit on info. Sorry you re having fertility issues and even more sorry someone saw fit to share this with people you did not know. That is awful. All the best.

I have just read the first thread and I have never been so excited for a party I'm not attending as now...

So sorry this is all causing more unnecessary stress at a time you could be doing without it.

Oh OP! So sorry to hear about the fertility issues (I had secondary infertility and it was horrendous) and the "outing".How totally crap.

If you were minded to reply to Softzilla, may I suggest "Don't worry about it any more - I've sorted it with everyone". Then ignore her panicked calls and texts until the party. But I'm a bit evil.

Oh goodness, your last update. :( So sorry that happened to you.

Hope for your sake the party is a boring anticlimax and you glide through it.

So sorry to hear about your fertility issues Op .

So if she knows about what else is going on for you, then that makes her an even bigger bitch

Sorry you’re going through a shit time, it’s really crap x

Oh I'm sorry to hear about your fertility problems and having to deal with all that. You really don't need this fruit-loop adding to the stress.
I actually want to tell her to fuck off and grow up for you.

Just binge read both threads and must admit this has totally put me off having another child. Having to go through all these playground politics again BEKKKKKK NO THANKS!

Good luck at the party OP