Softzilla: You play; you pay!

[Unreasonableunreasonableness]

Before you all get excited: no party yet (I was trying to keep when it was vague so more anonymous but i give up) . I have had a message from softzilla.
'So are we calm enough to sort this oot for tomorrow? '

💐💐 for you @unreasonable, having just read this thread just wanted to say well done for keeping so calm, please block this woman she sounds like she has far too much time on her hands & will stop at nothing to get at you.Good luck.

Oh bugger!! Thought is had refreshed and it hadn't!! :(

#leavesredfaced

I think some people just live for drama. I hope you're all able to disentangle yourselves from this drama queen.

So please you acted like the adult.
Head up and good luck . I am sure by staying polite you can over come her.

I am still puzzling over whether she wants you to offer an apology or money to cover her expenses. Her behavior reads like channeling the Godfather making you an offer you can't refuse.

Your poor friend. What a nasty thing to do to her. SZ is everything pps have called her, and more.

I wonder where Wings is. S/he hasn't posted since your update.

Chin up OP.

Having read both threads. Here's my two cents worth. Life is too short. Too short for negativity and too short for drama. You make a choice to let negativity in your life...or not. I will not allow it. I would now have blocked her on all platforms. I would not allow a person like that in my life. Draw a line, and get on with your life OP. Ghost her.

Is this woman for real? OP you have behaved with grace and tolerance during all this. She, on the other hand, has been disgraceful. Do you have any idea why she might be executing this vendetta against you? She is a vile piece of work.

Is this woman for real? OP you have behaved with grace and tolerance during all this. She, on the other hand, has been disgraceful. Do you have any idea why she might be executing this vendetta against you? She is a vile piece of work.

Sorry OP bit you have been a complete pushover with SZ. She has acted like an utter twat to you and you have repeatedly said you will put it behind you, which makes it sound like you will just accept her shitty treatment of you. She needs calling out on this shit.

OP, you've handled this so well, and I'm genuinely in awe that you've been able to rise above her bitchiness & baiting, but the update with NPF has made me wonder a bit if you shouldn't delicately hint publicly that someone is trying to stir up trouble - and it's not you. That could be utterly terrible advice, I just really feel for you because I've been in similar situations with someone and it just gets so fecking tiring, even without other stuff going on in the background.

I also have an image of you striding into soft play holding a cake aloft backed by yo bitches whilst Destiny's Child plays and the wind machine is set to FULL ON YOU BASTARDS and you eyeing Softzilla and saying 'Question?' with a bit of a head bobble and fingerpoint.

Sending hugs anyway. You couldn't have handled this better, tbh.

Woah she is utterly mental and so so selfish. Your poor pregnant friend! Now she's hurt two of her supposed "friends" with her lies and bile.

She's trying to get to you through others and doesn't care who she upsets in the process.

Block and ignore!!!

"Be master of your petty annoyances and conserve your energies for the big, worthwhile things."

Your going to have to tell her to F off eventually, she’s not going to drop it and is escalating further by trying to turn others now. Sorry op but it’s not the end. What a spiteful woman

What a cunt! Absolute cunt.

you have been brilliant not rising to her baiting of you so far op, but I don't think I would be able to keep quiet about her lying to pregnant friend about you crying at the party and causing pf and you so much upset, that is unacceptable. I would be very tempted to call her out on it in the group message, show her up for the vicious spiteful cunt she is

No, I don't think that's wise, sorry Higgeldy. That would allow SZ to play the victim and pretend that she "didn't realise" she would upset pg friend etc.
OP is doing the right thing to step back and ignore as much as possible - not get involved or involve the whatsapp group - it almost feels as though SZ is goading her into reacting, and if the OP reacts then SZ will get what she wants.

I also have an image of you striding into soft play holding a cake aloft backed by yo bitches whilst Destiny's Child plays and the wind machine is set to FULL ON YOU BASTARDS and you eyeing Softzilla and saying 'Question?' with a bit of a head bobble and fingerpoint

There genuinely are people who are this manipulative and spiteful. They absolutely thrive on drama and chaos, pitting friends against each other and constantly stirring

Yes, I came across one of these vile people a few years ago. Jealousy was definitely at the root cause of it. I'm pretty sure the bitch I met was also a sociopath. It was like a game of chess to her; trying to move the pieces around for her own amusement.

Focus on / strengthen the friendships that mean the most to you, so that when/if the group implodes you'll still have those friends.

Amazed by her horribleness, you have been fabulous, I would have used several f words to her by now

PS reading this while waiting for a flight in Canada. Note to self, do NOT miss flight because of new revelations!

I've unfortunately met a few like this one is my sister who I'm nc with. Definitely comes from jealousy, feelings of inadequacy and a need to control people.

To me it's an obvious deflection by softzilla by making someone feel like shit, as if their behaviour was worse than hers.

What a good thing that others see you as the sort of approachable friend they can explain things to when they hear rumours (or are accused of upsetting you). This (and your patience/lack of dramatic response) have put out Softzilla's fire yet again.

It would be useful if the others know that they shouldn't trust softzilla as a source of information about you...

I would just block this nasty woman OP. Good Luck.