Softzilla: You play; you pay!

[Unreasonableunreasonableness]

Before you all get excited: no party yet (I was trying to keep when it was vague so more anonymous but i give up) . I have had a message from softzilla.
'So are we calm enough to sort this oot for tomorrow? '

She sounds awful, I think other friends are now getting the measure of her, she is duplicitous, and sneaky.

As someone who has (many years ago) been outed re fertility problems like the OP, I am aghast at SZ blatantly shit stirring.
She is clearly trying to Wendy her way into Queen Bee position by elbowing you out, sowing discord amongst you and your friends

lesley there's something wrong with the app. It keeps saying your post failed and gives the option to retry. But the original will have posted if you refresh the page. That's why this thread has a load of duplicate posts on it.

Weezol how would blocking her have changed whats happened today. Softzilla was there in person and outing friend was the one who called her.

@youbetterwork I love you!

OP - Softzilla still feels you are the bad guy and is trying to spin all your friends against you and towards her. She won't sadly stop as she still believes that you for some reason owe her and you should apologise and offer to pay for all her outings in the future and her child's university tuition

I severely doubt that softzilla will have seen this thread. I have said before she has a negative view of mumsnet (think Matthew Wright and 'nest of harpies') so i have never told her that I use it. I have also been subtly changing things where I can so that unless you were directly involved it wouldn't be as easy to recognise (though this is obviously not fool proof as I couldn't change much and give you guys an accurate picture). I also think if she knew there would be even more fuss as it could obviously work in her favour that I have put it on the internet....

Op, I think she's jealous of you. Of you having supportive friends who pay for you (in her opinion) and invite you to places, they obviously had your back in the situation and are supporting you in the fertility issues.
Maybe she is trying to Wendy you as she sees you as the threat for top dog and she wants the place!

She’s crazy. Creepy crazy. Just ignore. I’m sure people in your friendship group know she is an idiot and I would pay her any more attention. Anyone tells you anything she has said just say is that so and move the conversation on. Completely erase her from your life and walk away when in social situations together. I couldn’t be fucked with someone like that and if I didn’t keep my distance I would probably lose my shit. Probably not in front of children though, so it’s good there will be children around if and when you see her again.

If SZ Isn't reading this then I think you may have a two-faced friend who was all sympathy to your face on your fertility issues being outed but is feeding what you say back to her. How else did she know you were upset?

Wouldnt* pay her any more...

Softzilla is part of the same parenting group where I was 'outed'. She will know because she has seen it.

I’m imagining the changes to be instead of soft play it’s a casino, instead cake it’s a keg and instead of a pub after it was a strip club. The kids are actually French bulldogs.

Watching the thread

I'm not sure is she loves drama or is trying and failing to Wendy you???

I also wonder if someone's been feeding back to her?
I'm sorry OP! This must be very stressful!

I also wonder if someone's been feeding back to her?
I'm sorry OP! This must be very stressful!

Just read both threads...

I wouldn’t speak to softzilla without having someone else present.

Just got to the end of both threads!!! There's no way I could be as restrained as you've been!! She's a nasty piece of work. I would not be able to ever trust her again what a horrible person she is!!!

Sorry... double posted by accident.

I think she's jealous too. You say you're newer to the group but seem to have built very solid friendships with lots of the other mums. I think she's lashing out

I think she's jealous too. You say you're newer to the group but seem to have built very solid friendships with lots of the other mums. I think she's lashing out

Block her number.

Great update! I've just got back from visiting DS1 in hospital, and have been frantically scrolling back to find out what happened!