Softzilla: You play; you pay!

[Unreasonableunreasonableness]

Before you all get excited: no party yet (I was trying to keep when it was vague so more anonymous but i give up) . I have had a message from softzilla.
'So are we calm enough to sort this oot for tomorrow? '

She sounds like she's a bit obsessed with you/the situation OP.

I too don't think this will be the end of softzilla!

Well done op,I think you’ve handled it all perfectly.

She’ll eventually do the same to the other mum’s, people like that can’t help themselves. They’ll all figure her out for themselves.

Good outcome Unreasonable. What lovely friends you've got.

Thanks for the update OP. I don't think that this will be the end of it

Well.... it may not be over. I've now had a call from outing friend. In floods and floods of tears. She has JUST discovered what she did. Apparently 'someone from the party ' called her and told her that I'm really upset and was crying at the party at what she's did. She didn't confirm who it was but i admit I asked directly if it was softzilla and she just went quiet and started apologising again. I've told her honestly I was rather shocked to see it but that I am fine and was certainly in no way crying at the party.

I anticipate further texts or calls asking to see you alone. I don't think she will draw a line under this.

@YouBetterWORK
Spangran and her paella pan has a LOT to answer for!

Love it!!!

Oh there you go. Cross post.

@YouBetterWORK
Spangran and her paella pan has a LOT to answer for!

Love it!!!

Well done Unreasonable - she did her best to get you jumping through her hoops and you resisted.

By speaking and shaking her hand (you did wash afterwards, didn't you? ) you publicly showed that you were not the one being difficult. I can only imagine what she must have looked like standing silent and staring at you after saying "Can we talk" and you agreed. (Well done for not letting her get you outside and alone)

I would still be wary of her - following you round suggests she was trying to eavesdrop on your conversation - that isn't normal behaviour.

I feel very sorry for her DC - stuck outside a party for the best part of an hour while all of the other kids were inside enjoying themselves.

Oh dear - just read your last post Unreasonable

She's not going to stop is she?

The only comfort is that she is showing herself up - nobody else.

Oh she’s proper mental! Kinda glad she’s at it again tho because the husband is out and there is fuck all on the television! Rise above it OP.

Omg OP! I knew that wouldn’t be the last of it. So now she’s not only content to try and make you feel like crap but she’s guilting somebody else for no reason - I’m literally gobsmacked. I remember you saying you think outing friend was probably just a bit thoughtless and suffering from baby brain, it’s awful for SZ to make her feel bad.

Don't understand what's happened now sorry

accidentally revealed on a public forum that OP has fertility problems Wonko.

Not in so many words, but posting something that made it apparent.

Wow!! She sounds like a complete whack job 😣 well done OP, I would hope I can behave as dignified as you in same situation but something is telling me no 😕😂

Words fail me.

Can anyone else in this group see what she's up to?! I know you have some amazing friends backing you. Just wondered how many others there were and whether they're close to sz.

@iamwonkothesane - outing friend said on a messaging group in which she shared her baby scan photos “hope it’s ok to put these on OP” - which inadvertently tipped off rest of the group about the problems OP has been having with fertility. op has said she doesn’t think outing friend did it deliberately so SZ is now shit stirring for no reason - shocker eh?

Omg it’s like she’s at secondary school!

I just don't understand her mentality. What on earth is motivating her to continue to stir up trouble in this way?

By the way, I think that the friend who suggested you shake hands was well out of order. You're not 8 years old, ffs, and even then, I don't make kids in my class do that. It's false and mends nothing. I suggest they have a cooling off period and think about making up when feathers are less ruffled.

Wow. This is just unbelievable

The woman is detanged

She's a piece of work but all she's doing is showing herself up more and more. Keep doing what you are doing, ignore her antics.

Just a thought... did you by any chance talk about what happened with outing friend and how it has got to you? Just wondering if softzilla has elaborated that into you crying?