Softzilla: You play; you pay!

[Unreasonableunreasonableness]

Before you all get excited: no party yet (I was trying to keep when it was vague so more anonymous but i give up) . I have had a message from softzilla.
'So are we calm enough to sort this oot for tomorrow? '

hope youre ok op-i doubt its last you'll hear from her maybe block her number but if you dont dont ever answer or respond to her texts

not surei agree with your friend about shaking hands that implies you both did something wrong

You know she'll tell everyone you apologised to her don't you?

But there were witnesses to say that didn’t happen!

As long as OP avoids being alone with her (& phone calls) there will always be evidence to contradict SZ’s spin

I bet ccf texts op later. I have a feeling this isn't over yet 🤣🤣

That lady is cray

Well done. OP. Job done.

That lady is cray

She came over and said 'shall we talk? ' I said ok and then waited while she just looked at me. I eventually said that I hoped we could just forget about the upset and move on. When she carried on looking at me friend 1 suggested we shake hands.

“Shall we talk?” & then says nothing? She really is a bit unhinged.

I’m trying to imagine what was going through the minds of the onlookers (apart from “this woman is unhinged” )

You did so well. I'm normally a person who says sorry even when I haven't done anything wrong. I think you handled this with real dignity

not sure i agree with your friend about shaking hands that implies you both did something wrong

That bit caught my attention as well. Partly because it seems a bit patronising and inappropriate and partly because it does smack of '6 of one and half a dozen of the other.'

I think I would have laughed that request off and said, 'oh there's no need for that!' or something.

But generally, well played OP. You've been restrained and as cool as possible over her the whole ridiculous drama.

YouBetterWORK

What talent! That's brilliant!

(scans and everything)

I said ok and then waited while she just looked at me. I eventually said that I hoped we could just forget about the upset and move on. When she carried on looking at me

This does sound like thoroughly unpleasant behaviour on her part.

Well defused.

Unreasonable- as Graphista said above 'Class and Dignity'!!
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NC to 'Reasonable'?!

Well handled OP. Drama has been nipped in the bud and you can now expect a civil if not friendly relationship with SZ.

Well handled OP. Drama has been nipped in the bud and you can now expect a civil if not friendly relationship with SZ.

Wow, I was actually slightly apprehensive reading your update OP. I would find it so difficult to be as gracious as you have been.

I can't understand why she was so desperate to talk to you if she was just going to stare and wait for you to break the silence. Total weirdo!

Well done on how you've handled this!

not sure i agree with your friend about shaking hands that implies you both did something wrong

I think friend was trying to diffuse an awkward moment that was possibly being dragged out by softzilla's stare, just drawing a line under it.

I suspect the friend suggested shaking hands in order to draw a line under the whole thing, and it must have been so awkward with Softzilla just not saying anything. It was a way of moving on, not about apportioning blame.

Also if the OP had refused it could have given SZ more ammunition to use against her.

It sounds like she was desperately trying to get some alone time with you?

Could she be neurodivergent in some way?

Of this means "batshit", then yes, she could.

Wow. Well done OP. You sound like a lovely person. I agree with others earlier, some people are just batshit and there's nothing you can do except what you did do. Hope it does down now. I hate confrontation too and it must be hard having this to deal with in a group context it's hard to avoid. (I had a falling out with someone a bit like this, we went NC but I'm always terrified she's going to show up in one of my groups or classes).

Wow. Well done OP. You sound like a lovely person. I agree with others earlier, some people are just batshit and there's nothing you can do except what you did do. Hope it does down now. I hate confrontation too and it must be hard having this to deal with in a group context it's hard to avoid. (I had a falling out with someone a bit like this, we went NC but I'm always terrified she's going to show up in one of my groups or classes).

She sounds like she's a bit obsessed with you/the situation OP.

I too don't think this will be the end of softzilla!

The end.

hopefully
yeah right

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