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Original poster

to not understand why SIL does this?

109 replies

IamAporcupine · 11/04/2018 09:29

I was visiting family abroad over the weekend. They live in a city that has a couple of possible airports to fly in. I was talking to my brother about my flights in/out and he said something like 'oh, yes, SIL noticed there were no flights to airport X on Saturday'

It is at least the second time she does that, ie to check something about my flights. They are not picking me up from the airport nor dropping me off when I leave, so I do not understand why she does it, and it pisses me off. Makes me feel she is checking up on me.

Can anyone think of another reasonable and possibly nicer, explanation for her actions?

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Phosphorus · 11/04/2018 09:32

I always check transport for visitors. It's just so I have a rough idea of how things will pan out.

Thiswayorthatway · 11/04/2018 09:33

Gosh, that pisses you off? Ypu sound a bit uptigjt OP. Maybe she was just looking at flights. Got to be a back story here, you don't really like her for other reasons do you?

pencilhoarder · 11/04/2018 09:33

Probably just bored with too much time on her hands. Sounds rather sad.

Strax · 11/04/2018 09:33

I check my DHs flights when he's going somewhere to make sure I know the flight numbers in case something happens and it's delayed. No reason for me to do it because there's bugger all I can do about it but I do it anyway. Sometimes I show the kids the flight path on a flight tracker if he's going somewhere interesting.

Catspaws · 11/04/2018 09:35

If I know I have visitors coming I'll often check flights or train times before they've confirmed their affangements so I have a general idea / can make suggestions if needed. For instance we have some friends travelling after work to stay with us in a couple of months and I've already checked flights and train times from their city to mine to have an idea of what would be best. I'm certainly not checking up on them! I'm just seeing what's available.

This doesn't sound at all sinister to me.

Quartz2208 · 11/04/2018 09:35

SOme people find such things interesting to do. One of my friends loves looking at the flight scanner (indeed there are threads on here where people do) so we always tell her our flights so she can follow them - she loves it.

I would ask why it bothers you so much

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 11/04/2018 09:36

Why do you think she's doing it OP?

PollyBanana · 11/04/2018 09:36

Just what harm is it?
She looked up possible flights. So what?

Not really worth getting pissed off about, but hey, she's a SIL so she's bound to be wrong

WorraLiberty · 11/04/2018 09:36

At least the SECOND time?? Shock

Go NC with the flight checking cowbag.

Cismyfatarse1 · 11/04/2018 09:38

Round here we all know the ferry timetables off by heart. Maybe she uses / has guests who use the airports a lot so just knows the flights. When visiting my mother every fortnight when she had cancer I knew all the EasyJet schedule from 2 airports off by heart.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 11/04/2018 09:38
Confused
GreatDuckCookery6211 · 11/04/2018 09:39

I don't understand how this could be deemed as checking up on you. What difference would it make if SIL knew your flight time?

PositivelyPERF · 11/04/2018 09:39

Maybe she wants to check she’s got the right flight, in case she gets your arrival time wrong and you visit her, before she’s prepared. looking around at total mess and understanding her concern

HonkyWonkWoman · 11/04/2018 09:40

If brother or Sil are not picking you up, is she perhaps checking where you will arrive for your Dp's or something?
Is she an expert in flight arrivals?
Did she work in the airports at some point?
Perhaps she checks on flight arrivals as an hobby! Grin

moreofaslummythanyummy · 11/04/2018 09:42

Perhaps she is excited for you to arrive ? Just a though Hmm

Mydoghatesthebath · 11/04/2018 09:43

Perhaps she’s nice and just hoped your flight isn’t delayed. You know what normal people might do.

is that checking up on you or looking out for you?

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IamAporcupine · 11/04/2018 09:43

Thiswayorthatway what do you mean 'she was just looking at flights', why would you do that?

But yes you are absolutely right there is a back story - the more general one is that they feel I do not do enough for my mum (who lives in the same city). Last year my mum was admitted to hospital, when I talked to my brother I asked him how serious it was and whether he thought I had to travel immediately or not as I didn't have (reasonably priced) flights until a couple of days later. I think that's when she started checking the flights....

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sweetsweetlovin · 11/04/2018 09:44

sigh you sound like hard work

PretABoire · 11/04/2018 09:45

Do you not like her very much? I always check visitors' journeys - even if people are driving over I check the traffic!

GreenTulips · 11/04/2018 09:48

Actually it's sounds like she doesn't believe what you are saying and trying to catch you out for lying

Would annoy me too.

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IamAporcupine · 11/04/2018 09:48

Mydoghatesthebath
Perhaps she’s nice and just hoped your flight isn’t delayed. You know what normal people might do.

This could certainly be a reason, but funnily enough she didn't know that my flight was delayed (it was 3 hours late) so it is not that she checks the flights 'live' she just checks that my flights 'exist'.

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WorraLiberty · 11/04/2018 09:49

Perhaps she is excited for you to arrive?

Doubt it Grin

Quartz2208 · 11/04/2018 09:49

even the back story sounds sensible

some people like looking at flights

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IamAporcupine · 11/04/2018 09:49

Sorry, to all of you saying you check people journeys, I totally get that, but that is not what she is doing.

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Quartz2208 · 11/04/2018 09:50

what do you think she is doing?