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Original poster

SiL stole DH's tattoo

121 replies

upsideup · 10/04/2018 14:32

DH has tattoos of the kids names in their handwriting from the first time they wrote it and it was readable, hes just got 4 year old DS2's name added.
SiL has just got the same with her kids names but in a 13 year old and 10 year olds handwriting and then a 2 year olds scribble.
DH has lots of tattoos, SiL before this had no tattoos. She also hasnt tell us about this and we just found out from her dd showing us a photo, its fully healed so done some time ago.

AIBU to be extremely annoyed by this? I know DH doesnt own doing it but its obvious shes copied him and then to not even mention it us.

To not drip feed this isnt the first time she's tried to copy us. We go on holiday somewhere and she goes the same place next year, we get a dog and she gets the same bread a few months later (and then gets rid of it after a year), my DC start a new hobby and hers soon start the same. Oh and 3 year old dd is Emmi and her girls name if her 2 year old ds was a girl apparently was always going to Emma since she was a child (she has an older dd she didnt want to call Emma).

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AjasLipstick · 10/04/2018 14:36

Of course you're being bloody unreasonable! Hmm It's not a new idea....your DH doesn't OWN it!

So what if she was inspired by him? He's her brother anyway.

She might look up to both of you and want to imitate you for guidance.

Aragog · 10/04/2018 14:37

Can't see the problem really.

Maybe she just liked the idea, and thought she liked it so much she would have one herself? But hasn't told you because she knew you/he wouldn't be happy?

Whilst I can imagine if you already have issues with her behaviours it might be antagonising, but everyone you know who'd be bothered will already know that your DH had them before her.

I can't imagine your DH is the first person to have done the same. I've heard of similar before.

IsDaveThere · 10/04/2018 14:38

Is this for real? YABU. You have no right be be annoyed, she can have whatever tattoo she likes!

HolyMountain · 10/04/2018 14:38

I would let this go, don’t give it anymore head space.

gamerchick · 10/04/2018 14:38

I clicked on this having no idea what to expect (lots of horror films) GrinGrin

Yes you’re being ridiculous. Get over yourself, it isn’t a new idea and who cares where she got the inspiration from?

Hausfullofgrls · 10/04/2018 14:38

Not an original idea. Don't worry so much about it.

steff13 · 10/04/2018 14:39

It's not a unique idea. I would let it go.

OldGuard · 10/04/2018 14:39

How does any of her actions negatively impact you ?

inkandstone · 10/04/2018 14:40

I think you need to grow up a bit really.

PinkHeart5914 · 10/04/2018 14:40

Having something your dc have wrote or the names of your child as a tattoo really isn’t uncommon tbh so not really sure why your annoyed?

Waitingonasmiley42 · 10/04/2018 14:40

Hahaha! I don't even believe this can be real.

stitchglitched · 10/04/2018 14:40

If she had your kids handwriting on it you might have a point, but her own? Why would you care?

IamPickleRick · 10/04/2018 14:41

It’s her body, she can put what she wants on it. Is the person who invented handwriting coming after your DH for stealing his idea? Ffs

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PrettyLittIeThing · 10/04/2018 14:41

Oh gosh this is so petty. It's like my sister, she had a picture on her wall and I said I liked it and asked if she minded if I got one aswell and she said I couldn't because she doesn't want people copying her. Like WTF. She also banned all of her friends and me from buying clothes from the same places she does! I didn't realise there was so many very pathetic people out there.

EveningHare · 10/04/2018 14:41

its not an original idea - so.... so what?

SleepFreeZone · 10/04/2018 14:41

It’s a very cute idea and if I had lots of tattoos I’d be stealing it too 🤭

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upsideup · 10/04/2018 14:42

I know she can have whatever tattoo she likes, I would be less annoyed if she'd mentioned she was getting the same thing done.
And I guess I'm only annoyed about this as its just another thing to add to her contsant copying behaviour, everything we do she finds some way to do as well. If anybody else had done the tattoo thing I can see I wouldnt be at all annoyed by it.

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Littleredboat · 10/04/2018 14:42

Oh that sounds like a really shit idea for a tattoo.

Nicknacky · 10/04/2018 14:42

I can't see a problem here at all. Who cares about her tattoo?

Redglitter · 10/04/2018 14:43

Oh ffs she hasn't stolen anything. It's hardly an original idea. So what if she saw his and thought it was a lovely idea. Grow up

DCITennison · 10/04/2018 14:43

Could you fight her maybe?

Nicknacky · 10/04/2018 14:43

And are you really bothered if she goes to somewhere you have been to?!

bryheresse · 10/04/2018 14:43

Yabvvvvvvu

Redglitter · 10/04/2018 14:44

Maybe she never told you in advance because she knew you'd react like this

PinkCalluna · 10/04/2018 14:44

It sounds like she adores her big brother and has a case of hero worship.

If you don’t like her copying you, stop telling her stuff.

But really does her going on holiday to the same place the following year or buying the same kind of dog really irritate you that much?

Surely she’s just thinking “DB and upside loved it that’s a good recommendation”

Just smile quietly and let it go.