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Original poster

SiL stole DH's tattoo

121 replies

upsideup · 10/04/2018 14:32

DH has tattoos of the kids names in their handwriting from the first time they wrote it and it was readable, hes just got 4 year old DS2's name added.
SiL has just got the same with her kids names but in a 13 year old and 10 year olds handwriting and then a 2 year olds scribble.
DH has lots of tattoos, SiL before this had no tattoos. She also hasnt tell us about this and we just found out from her dd showing us a photo, its fully healed so done some time ago.

AIBU to be extremely annoyed by this? I know DH doesnt own doing it but its obvious shes copied him and then to not even mention it us.

To not drip feed this isnt the first time she's tried to copy us. We go on holiday somewhere and she goes the same place next year, we get a dog and she gets the same bread a few months later (and then gets rid of it after a year), my DC start a new hobby and hers soon start the same. Oh and 3 year old dd is Emmi and her girls name if her 2 year old ds was a girl apparently was always going to Emma since she was a child (she has an older dd she didnt want to call Emma).

OP posts:
DiegoMadonna · 10/04/2018 15:00

Theft?

Log it with 101

GorgeousJaws · 10/04/2018 15:00

You utter baby. That is one of the most ridiculous things I've read.

"Muuuuum, she's copying me"...

Dear Lord.

MallorieArcher · 10/04/2018 15:00

Oh, I thought she'd skinned your DH and literally stolen it.

I'd be flattered, she liked her brothers idea so much she got her own version, get a grip.

CrispyCrackers · 10/04/2018 15:01

Google ‘tattoo kids signature’.

Flatpackjackie · 10/04/2018 15:02

I can't believe you think that your husband's sister should tell him or you her tattoo plans. She's an adult, isn't she? WTF's it got to do with you?! It couldn't be less of your business

Lweji · 10/04/2018 15:02

My sister gave her DS the same name I intended to give my DS.
We have independently bought the same dress.
Her other son has started playing in the same football club as my DS.
I have asked her for her hairdresser's number.
We've both been to places and done things recommended by each other.

We're both bitches obviously.

What's all that competition about?

mostdays · 10/04/2018 15:03

AIBU to be extremely annoyed by this?
Yes, I think YABVU.

I know DH doesnt own doing it
No, he doesn't.

but its obvious shes copied him
Honestly, your DH is in no way the first person to have this, just with one quick google search I found loads and loads of examples of parents with these tattoos.

and then to not even mention it us.
Why should she?

ClaryFray · 10/04/2018 15:03

What the actual fudge!

Really a tattoo, dog and a holiday!!!

Jesus Christ, is there something in the water today?

Mymycherrypie · 10/04/2018 15:03

The copying is perfectly reasonable things though. Holiday at the same place - cool, she knows it’s nice because you were the guinea pigs. The dog - cool, she saw your dog and thought it was a good breed for kids. The name - she never even used it.

Unless you have something else, I wouldn’t even call that copying.

Lweji · 10/04/2018 15:04

I first thought you had a bleeding DH minus a patch of skin, BTW. Wink

Nixen · 10/04/2018 15:06

Why do you care about them having the same tacky tattoo? Surely it doesn’t matter

DannyLaRuesBestFrock · 10/04/2018 15:07

Wow. You don't want her to go on holiday to the same place as you!! That's barmy.

Pinkvoid · 10/04/2018 15:07

My tattooist has drawings his kids did tattooed on him, he isn’t the first person in the world to do this. Some people choose shit flash tattoos that everyone and his son has. Unless your DH invented this idea (he definitely didn’t) then it was copied from somewhere at some point. YABU.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 10/04/2018 15:09

Stole it Grin I thought you were going to say she'd sliced a lump of skin off your DH. Don't be so silly.

Vitalogy · 10/04/2018 15:10

I'd say it's a complement. Is she copying her big brother.

gamerchick · 10/04/2018 15:10

I’m really glad other people had the same thoughts have to say Grin

Leeds2 · 10/04/2018 15:10

Going against thee grain here, but I think I would be a bit pissed off to if a family member constantly copied things that I/my family had done.

I would either stop telling her, or feed her false information.

Original poster
upsideup · 10/04/2018 15:12

I see I am being unreasonable about the tattoo, If I imagine one of our friends getting the tattoo I wouldnt be the slightest bit annoyed so I am letting that go, I was never going to mention it to her in the first place.
I know I'm not being unreasonable about SiL's previous behaviour, thats been confirmed on mumsnet many times before.
She's the one who got upset over DD's name, we said she can still use Emma and that we didnt know she had always wanted to use that name (she could have told us a year before and we maybe wouldnt have used it) She sent us voice notes in tears that we had ruined the name for her, every time she see's dd she mentions it and has told dd because of her name she should be her daughter really.
My DD has curly hair, her dd has straight hair but she plaits it and pretends its naturally curly. My DS starts skateboarding, her DS wants to aswell but she thinks its extremely dangerous so is going to be a 'responsable parent' and make him wait untill he is 16.
We get a newfoundland tells us its a really dangerous dog and shouldnt be around children, she gets one within 3 months and hardly bothers to train or walk it, nearly attacks one of her children and its gone 10 months later.
DH is an alcoholic, she tries to give him alcohol at every event because she thinks its unhealthy to deny yourself alcohol and theres no such thing as alcohol addiction.

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Catspaws · 10/04/2018 15:14

Yes, YABU. I've seen about ten different versions of this tattoo so it's hardly unique to your DH.

It does sound annoying if she copies you lots, but what can you do? You don't own the things you like, she's entitled to have and do them too. It's not worth the headspace if you ask me.

Trinity66 · 10/04/2018 15:14

The whole going on holiday to the same place isn't that odd really, if you go there and say it was great, then people who you know are going to take that as a good endorsement when they're looking to book their holiday, whats the big deal?

PrinceButthole · 10/04/2018 15:14

You didn't even know she had it though, so it hardly impacts you.

If she got your kids name's tatooed on her and said "look twinsies!" you'd have an argument

Catspaws · 10/04/2018 15:15

Cross posted - she sounds like a nightmare in lots of other ways that aren't to do with the tattoo! I don't envy you dealing with her.

PrinceButthole · 10/04/2018 15:16

DH is an alcoholic, she tries to give him alcohol at every event because she thinks its unhealthy to deny yourself alcohol and theres no such thing as alcohol addiction.

Hmm

Surely that's the thing you should be posting a thread about? Not an uncopyrighted tatoo that he got off pinterest anyway

Lweji · 10/04/2018 15:18

DH is an alcoholic, she tries to give him alcohol at every event because she thinks its unhealthy to deny yourself alcohol and theres no such thing as alcohol addiction.

This would be the only thing that would annoy me.

As for the rest, I'd never notice it, or just pity her.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 10/04/2018 15:19

Ah, come on, op... Shoehorning all that crap in after you'd been told you were unreasonable about the tattoo Hmm