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What things are acceptable to do in your PJs then?

312 replies

EphraimLevi · 04/04/2018 23:40

Answer the door

Put the bins out.

Go down to breakfast in someone’s house.

Go down to breakfast in a hotel

Early morning dog walk

Go to the shops.

Do the school run.

??

I would (and do!) do all except the last three because I am terminally lazy and rarely dressed before noon if I don’t have to be. AIBU and a dreadful skank?

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MyKingdomForACaramel · 05/04/2018 15:46

It really does depend on the pyjamas. I work from home and have invested in a lot of “lounge wear” which I’m quite happy to walk the dog in etc - as tbh I can’t quite see how someone would distinguish from trousers and a top.

catinapoolofsunshine · 05/04/2018 16:05

Mykingdom I think it's the having slept in them. Op is doing those without showering or changing out of what she slept in.

SilverySurfer · 05/04/2018 16:12

For me, nothing outside of the house would be reasonable and to be honest if I saw someone in a supermarket wearing PJs I would judge them to be lazy, skanky slobs.

catinapoolofsunshine · 05/04/2018 16:33

lounge wear is stuff like this link. If you slept in it you'd still shower and change (potentially into clean lounge wear) before leaving the house, or going about daytime activities. Just because you'd probably smell a bit, if you're past puberty!

Bramble71 · 05/04/2018 16:37

The first two only!

Who on earth would go down to breakfast in a hotel in their PJs. I think people who go out, to the shops, school run etc are disrespectful to others around them who have bothered to get themselves dressed, and downright lazy.

bluebeck · 05/04/2018 16:48

cat Stop it!! I am trying to save money!!!

catinapoolofsunshine · 05/04/2018 16:50

I really don't think it's disrespectful to people who are dressed - to me that's as peculiar an opinion as thinking it's fine to go out to the shops in what you slept in.

I don't think I've ever seen anyone obviously in pyjamas outside the house except in the grounds of a hospital, a fire drill and charity dress up fund raising.

wendywoopywoo222 · 05/04/2018 16:57

Out local dementia care home has all the carers wear pyjamas and dressing gowns for night shifts to help the patients differentiate between night and day so regularly see them and some of them arrive and leave on the bus.

happiestcamper · 05/04/2018 16:58

Happily wear pjs;

To take the bins out
To put washing in dryer (in the garage, not attached to house)
To collect DC from neighbours houses
To go to best mates house for drinks (in a car)
To sit in all day in my own house if I fancy it

Never ever wear pjs;

To go to the shops
To do the school run

Judging by these comments this makes me a totally grim scummer Grin

TheDowagerCuntess · 05/04/2018 16:59

I mean really do some people get fully dressed just to take out the bins or go to the shop on the corner for milk?

Incredible that this is so shocking.

It takes 10 seconds to throw clothes on, and get out of skanky pyjamas. How lazy do you have to be, for that to be an effort...?

If I - indeed, anyone - went down to the corner shop in pyjamas here - people would think I'd turned to the bottle.

I have to admit - although I know it does happen, I have never actually seen anyone out in public in pyjamas.

catinapoolofsunshine · 05/04/2018 17:06

blue the sake stuff on that link seems to be entirely sold out, I fancied some of it too helpful

Chouetted · 05/04/2018 17:06

10 seconds? Are you serious?

Do you have that quick release clothing that they use in theatres for transform scenes?

catinapoolofsunshine · 05/04/2018 17:07

Sale not sake

TheDowagerCuntess · 05/04/2018 17:08

OK. 15 - 20 seconds, then.

Which still doesn't push it into the realms of being 'too much of an effort to do'. Confused

catinapoolofsunshine · 05/04/2018 17:14

Wendy they arrive and leave on the bus wearing the clothes they wore for a shift at a dementia care home Shock

I worked in a dementia care home for 18 months and we weren't allowed to wear our work clothes off site, they were washed in house at high temperatures. You could get all sorts on your clothes, from blood to vomit to fecal and more. We often needed to get changed mid shift, and had to have 2 pairs of work shoes too. I would not have put the clothes I'd worn on shift in my machine with the family wash, or worn them home, no matter what they were...

TulipFromAmsterdam · 05/04/2018 17:32

The first two only

SarBear34 · 05/04/2018 17:43

Go down to breakfast in a hoteL

No, just no. Trampy.

flowerslemonade · 05/04/2018 17:45

Honestly none of them but that's simply because I prefer being in jeans and a t shirt and wouldn't feel comfortable around my neighbours in PJs. I wouldn't judge anyone who does any of those things though.

SilverySurfer · 05/04/2018 17:49

Judging by these comments this makes me a totally grim scummer grin

well, you said it.

wildduckhunt · 05/04/2018 18:11

Even the NHS agrees that you need to get yourself dressed for the day.

www.england.nhs.uk/blog/jane-cummings-32/

catinapoolofsunshine · 05/04/2018 18:26

Wildduck that's exactly it! "The sick role"

I don't agree with the weird Hyacinth Bucket judging nor would I eat breakfast in my nightwear, especially outside my own home. I haven't answered the door in nightwear since I was a student living in forms, and that was my room in halls - I wouldn't have answered the front door of a house or flat in town in pyjamas.

It's not about pursed lips and pearl clutching, it's because there's something about being in pyjamas in the day that puts the person in the role of a sick person. If I met someone at the village shop in pyjamas I'd assume that therer was something very wrong. If someone answered the door to me in pyjamas I'd assume that I'd disturbed them, and that they must have been sleeping in the day due to illness or having worked a night shift or dealt with some huge crisis in the night, unless they had a new baby in which case I'd also assume that I might be disturbing them if they were in pyjamas.

Actual pyjamas, not lounge wear, which you get dressed in after getting up and washed. I don't think people have to be smart or formal, I just think only ill people wear slept in pyjamas downstairs, let alone outside. Well people don't wander about unwashed in the clothes they've slept in, without underwear...

catinapoolofsunshine · 05/04/2018 18:27

*dorms not forms

MyKingdomForACaramel · 05/04/2018 19:14

Thanks @cat that’s one great sale Grin

SauvignonBlanche · 05/04/2018 19:34

First two only for me, the third possibly for close family or friends.

viques · 05/04/2018 19:45

I can almost understand people who wear pjs out and about because if you squint a bit they can look like leggings and a t shirt (unless they have a sleepy bed time slogan emblazoned on the chest) but what I can't understand is how many women I see wearing big fluffy fleecey dressing gowns out on the street. Are they wearing them as cheap coats or just taking pj wearing to the next level?