DH hasn't even acknowledged he didn't buy me an Easter egg

[bitdisgruntled]

Just that tbh. I was kind of expecting that he hadn’t as a few times in the past I’ve bought my own ( but told him when I had) and there was no obvious last minute dash to the shop on Saturday night. Then this morning the children got theirs from the Easter bunny and he was half jokingly complaining to the children that he’d been left out. Then I gave him his egg (which incidentally was one of the larger eggs, much bigger than the children’s) in a bit of a rush as we were going to church and he didn’t say thank you or say anything at all really. We’re home from my DM’s house now and still no “Tadah! Here’s your egg.” He hasn’t given me anything and hasn’t even mentioned the fact that he got me nothing. It’s not the lack of an egg that bothers me - there’s loads of chocolate in the house. It’s the lack of, well I don’t exactly know - just an “ I didn’t manage to get you anything this year” would have been ok. I realise it sounds childish, totally prepared to be told iabu

Thanks to all the pp’s who realised its not about the chocolate. I didn’t realise I’d hit such an MN nerve.... I’m just glad I hadn’t posted about the lack of a mother and baby spaces whilst shopping for DH’s Easter egg.

Yes it is and i wasn't wrong the first time.

I honesty don't know why people don't communicate. We don't always do eggs, I bought some this year. He wouldn't think of getting an egg, but, if I said I wanted him to he would.

I don't see why it's difficult to say, hey, hope you have my egg! Or why didn't you get me an egg?

It does suck if it's something your family does and is important to you, but given you sometimes do buy eggs then how was he to know?

I bought one each for dh and me, just for the chocolate. It never occurred to me that adults saw the gift of a choccy egg as a ‘thing’.

I’m just glad I hadn’t posted about the lack of a mother and baby spaces whilst shopping for DH’s Easter egg

Ummmm...parent and baby spaces

There is some eggsellent advice on this thread. OP, just don’t put all your eggs in one basket.

I love Jane.

Jane and her friend Lucy have gone into town to buy a whopping, luxurious, half price egg. Tonight Jane is going to sit on the sofa with her huge egg and eat it. Peter will be sitting looking at his meagre version that Jane bought him. Next year he will buy Jane an egg.

Oh god @bitdisgruntled I knew this thread was not going to go well as soon as I saw the title and before I even opened the link

YANBU your DH was was being a cheeky fucker commenting about being left out knowing full well that you were also in effect left out!

I'd go buy myself a nice posh one now that they're all half price,maybe even two

DH and I have always bought each other an Easter egg, and an advent calendar in December. My Dad still buys me an Easter egg. We also drink milk and eat ice lollies, but according to MN all of this means that we haven't yet grown up......

My Lord! Why are people so rude?! Just because the adults in your family don’t exchange eggs doesn’t mean others don’t. Of course adults get eggs. Haven’t you seen the fancy “luxury” eggs in the supermarket? They’re certainly not aimed at children. Get a grip on yourselves and respect the fact that different families have different traditions that may not reflect your own.

OP is not acting like a five year old. Like she said, it’s not about the chocolate, it’s about his lack of manners (not saying thank you) and lack of thought from her DH. I’m sure OP would be happier if her DH would just acknowledge the egg she got him and appologise for not getting a chance to reciprocate. She just wants some sort of recognition!

OP, I understand why you’re upset. It’s displaying a greater lack of concern and compassion on your husband’s part, however you’re not going to get anywhere by taking about it here. Go to your DH and explain that you feel a bit forgotten about and down, hopefully you’ll get an apology and a cuddle!

To me it seems a little odd to get people Easter eggs as a surprise. We've always bought eggs for the WHOLE family (adults included) only the small ones and usually get the Tesco offer of buy 2 get 2 free so only works out 75p an egg! I wouldn't expect my husband to get me an extra one (I've always got myself one when getting the rest anyway lol)

If it's a thing you do every year though (getting each other a surprise egg) then I can see why you are disappointed that he didn't get you an Easter egg.

Perhaps your husband didn't grow up with those traditions and they are not important for him.

If I want an egg I will buy it myself.

Yep most people arent disagreeing adults eat or buy eggs I don't think. Its the element of having to buy as a surprise or disappointment at not getting one. Normally you get them when you're shopping like you might buy hot cross buns or Christmas cake!

If adults just buy their own eggs, then OP shouldn’t have to buy one for her DH, surely? Why was complaining he was left it? Because he expected his wife to buy him one. But didn’t think that means he should buy her one. Or that he should put in the effort to get the kids’ ones either.

But sure, it’s OP who needs to grow up...

Adults don't really need them though do they?
It's more for children. Also I hate the Easter bunny idea personally

Adults don't really need them though do they?
to be fair, no one needs easter eggs but it would be a pretty sad life if we were only surviving and doing what is strictly necessary.

Adults don't really need alcohol do they? Or cigarettes, or drugs, or junk food, or expensive cars, or designer clothes, or most other things they possess. They have them because they enjoy them.

I'm with you op. Yanbu. Yes some adults like easter eggs. I'm one of them! With threads like this you always get the "grow up" "it's for kids" etc. But imo all you really want is to think he thought about you. Especially if your oh was expecting one! I bought my oh a m&m one as it's his favourite chocolate and I saw it and thought of him. It's a small gesture to show I appreciate all he does for our family.

Forget the supermarket - who the hell are the eggs for at Hotel Chocolate at £27 a pop? DH and I have always given each other eggs - even before children. In fact I would seriously be concerned about the state of your marriages if you’re not doing this since it must be indicative of either depression or an affair

I've been buying myself Easter eggs and consuming them at a rate of knots for the last month.

" It’s a Christian celebration of the assention of Christ after he died on the cross to save others sins. "

MrsMaxwell there is nothing remotely Christian about scoffing chocolate eggs, surely you know that?

And I hate to be a pedant but it's ascension.

I always get annoyed when the shops have run out of mini eggs by the time Easter actually arrives, then I remember how many bags I have snaffled in the last month I assume there are many people like me (but possibly not on MN as it would appear the eggs are only for children!)

No chocolate eggs for me or DH. Didnt bother getting any for the DC either (18,21).

I did make myself an omelette for breakfast.

@bitdisgruntled

If DH usually buys you an Easter egg and this year he didn't buy you an Easter egg ......what did he say when you asked him why he didn't buy you an Easter egg this year?

And what did he say , when you asked him why, on the other occasions when he should have bought you something and he didn't buy it?

DP asked if I wanted an egg. I said no. I didn't get him one either as he hates Easter due to a family event years ago.

He says when DD is older he may get an egg but until then no.

My partner buys me one and me him. But i wouldn't make a massive song and dance if he didn't