DH hasn't even acknowledged he didn't buy me an Easter egg

[bitdisgruntled]

Just that tbh. I was kind of expecting that he hadn’t as a few times in the past I’ve bought my own ( but told him when I had) and there was no obvious last minute dash to the shop on Saturday night. Then this morning the children got theirs from the Easter bunny and he was half jokingly complaining to the children that he’d been left out. Then I gave him his egg (which incidentally was one of the larger eggs, much bigger than the children’s) in a bit of a rush as we were going to church and he didn’t say thank you or say anything at all really. We’re home from my DM’s house now and still no “Tadah! Here’s your egg.” He hasn’t given me anything and hasn’t even mentioned the fact that he got me nothing. It’s not the lack of an egg that bothers me - there’s loads of chocolate in the house. It’s the lack of, well I don’t exactly know - just an “ I didn’t manage to get you anything this year” would have been ok. I realise it sounds childish, totally prepared to be told iabu

I wish people would realise what the issue is - it's not about chocolate, it's about the fact that she would normally receive a gift from her DH, it's something they do, and this year he hasn't done it and he hasn't provided an explanation. I think it's hurtful to do something like that. If you normally receive a birthday gift from your DH and then one year he doesn't get you one, wouldn't you wonder what had happened?

YABU. DH and I don't buy each other Easter eggs.

THIS ISN’T ABOUT THE FUCKING EGGS! I think you'll find that it is.

Fucking hell
It’s right up there with Aleppo isn’t it

Another thread of over reactors over reacting because they think the OP may have over reacted...

Just eat some of his.

You know, I was thinking only yesterday that I hadn't seen any of the normal 'celebratory' timed threads along the lines of 'my DP didn't buy me a xmas present/not much of a xmas present/a brithday present/etc etc.

And here it is.

FWIW I always buy for my dc (25, 2 and 19!) and do an Easter egg hunt for them. This is the first year I've got one back (ds3 - a huge one)

I must ask DS 27 where my Easter egg is elisen!

Adults don't buy each other eggs and if they do it's only when they're practising Christians?

Either Tesco didn't get that memo or my local area is a whole lot more religious than I thought

And MrsMaxwell if you're going to be sanctimonious, at least get it right; Easter celebrates the resurrection - Ascension isn't for another approx six weeks.

Easter isn't originally a Christian festival though. They stole it, like they did many other things.

If I want an egg i will buy it myself

And that right there is what Easter is all about

This thread is bonkers

Anyone who thinks Easter eggs are just for kids has clearly never seen the £75 Hotel Chocolat ostrich egg. Quite frankly I feel sorry for them. No way would I share one of those with a damp handed, snotty nosed urchin.

Sorry

I find it weird that easter has somehow transformed from two bank holidays and some easter activities at school, church if you are so minded, to a mini-christmas with easter bunnies bringing presents at night, exchanging gifts, chocolate everywhere.

I just find it odd that gifts/eggs/whatever seem to be expected.

Gifts for birthdays and christmas, yes. Any other occasion, why bother. We leap from christmas to valentines day to mothers day to pancake day to easter. That’s an event nearly every 6 weeks.

Well, not only do my DH and I give each other eggs, but we like to hunt for them too! So there.

I’m an adult I didn’t get an egg either, and my husband was at work all day, I just did Easter for the kids, that’s that’s what it’s for... you sound a bit unreasonable tbh

My mum and Dad still buy me and my partner an egg each and we are 33. I told Mum she could stop when I was 17! Lol thanks Mum and dad.
However me and dp never have bought anything for each other, it’s chocolate no big deal!

Celebrate Easter however you like, but it’s a crap lesson for kids to see their mum doing all the preparations, and getting nothing.

DH and I both get Easter Eggs although we buy them together. My boss bought me an easter egg, infact she got one for each member of our team as did the mangers of the other teams for their team members. Easter eggs aren't just for kids.

I realise it sounds childish

Yup. It really does.

I think you can take this as a hint that he no longer wants to swap Easter Eggs with you.

This is such a frustrating thread. This is about her DH being a lazy arse who doesn’t think he has to bother getting stuff for the OP but still expects her to get stuff for him.

They normally exchange easter gifts / chocolate eggs.

This year he didn't.

He didn't even say thank you.

He's often crap about gifts.

That's the issue and the OP INBU in wanting advice & a bit of sympathy.

We never got Easter eggs as kids because my mum thought they were a waste of money. We got sweets instead. I was deeply envious of other people and their easter eggs.

My first ever Easter egg was given to me by my big sister, the year after she moved out because she had got married. This was nearly 40 years ago and I still remember with gratitude thrilled I was.

So yes I get an Easter Egg from DH. And I get one for him. The DCS get more than one. Grow up? Nah. Easter eggs are lovely to give, receive and eat, whatever your age.

YES people say it’s about an OH not buying the OP an Easter egg, and poor OH he still wants one. Well too bad to him. Stop buying him easter eggs.
HE may ask for his or whinge about it but too bad. You dont have to do anything about it. It’s not a one way relationship. When he can do an egg exchange you can join in again. Until then buy yourself one. End of story. It’s hardly the end of a relationship. Just figuring out who is participating in the relationship, and who wants to just do all the taking or receiving. OP just get on with it, and enjoy your own chocolate egg.
And for everyone else who doesn’t swap chocolate eggs what’s the big deal. My OH and I don’t swap eggs but I do get some chocolate in for us to enjoy over the weekend because I like it. Not everyone does things the same way. That’s ok. This is more a conversation about the OPs relationship and some unresolved issues and discussions. They need to have a chat about what they both want and what they like. OH can ask the OP for a Porsche. Doesn’t mean she gets him one.
Define your needs OP. He may not know you really want a chocolate egg or birthday card or whatever. Just because it matters to us doesn’t rang they pick that information up by osmosis and do it for us. (And if he forgot take back your egg if it’s that important but dont get bitter).
We need to talk about these things. OH might whinge that he doesn’t have a chocolate egg or Porsche or whatever. Too bad. If it wasn’t agreed on don’t hand him an Easter egg, and let him get on with his whinging. His problem not yours OP.
Sheesh.