DH hasn't even acknowledged he didn't buy me an Easter egg

[bitdisgruntled]

Just that tbh. I was kind of expecting that he hadn’t as a few times in the past I’ve bought my own ( but told him when I had) and there was no obvious last minute dash to the shop on Saturday night. Then this morning the children got theirs from the Easter bunny and he was half jokingly complaining to the children that he’d been left out. Then I gave him his egg (which incidentally was one of the larger eggs, much bigger than the children’s) in a bit of a rush as we were going to church and he didn’t say thank you or say anything at all really. We’re home from my DM’s house now and still no “Tadah! Here’s your egg.” He hasn’t given me anything and hasn’t even mentioned the fact that he got me nothing. It’s not the lack of an egg that bothers me - there’s loads of chocolate in the house. It’s the lack of, well I don’t exactly know - just an “ I didn’t manage to get you anything this year” would have been ok. I realise it sounds childish, totally prepared to be told iabu

anxious to pick on a particular religion is offensive, would you have criticised other religions celebrations so freely. There was no need for what you said.

posters are a bit mean, it's not about the chocolate.
I don't get Easter eggs, I usually get an Easter bunch of flowers from my DH, just because it's a nice thing to do. If receiving his own chocolate egg was a big deal for him, I would get him one, why wouldn't I?
Why would you ignore your partner and not do a little gesture that means a lot for them?

If Easter eggs are only for children there are kids with some high end tastes going from what’s in the shops.

Like many women, OP has organised Easter, on top of her usual workload. At work if a colleague does something on top of their usual duties it’s usually acknowledged. OP wanted a little recognition that she makes Easter a nice time for the family. She wanted her partner to appreciate her efforts and want to put in the tiniest bit of thought and effort for her. Heaven forbid.

You need to spell out the rules of engagement to him.

Sometimes you sort out your own gifts/eggs. Sometimes eggs are exchanged, sometimes not.

It sounds like he finds out what your expectations are whenever he fails to meet them and not before.

Yes, it would be good if he was more thoughtful and did things without prompting but why set yourself up for disappointment and frustration? Have the conversation in advance, it will all be sorted in a matter of seconds.

"Are we buying each other eggs this year?"

If he fails after that, you are entitled to be angry and show it.

Eat at least half of his then! ;-) I saw a pretty Lindt egg and picked it up for myself while I was getting all the rest and a couple of days before Easter I said to my husband 'thanks for the egg', and he said 'what egg??' so I gave it to him, and it reappeared yesterday :- Problem solved and I got the one I wanted. You could just go and buy one in the sales (or two!) it's not the end of the world.

This is Jane

Jane knows Easter eggs can be eaten by adults

Jane also knows the shops don’t check if you’re a practicing Christian prior to purchase of said eggs.

Jane also knows not to loose continence over a mumsnet thread.

Be like Jane

Surely those of you saying it's not normal to have Easter Eggs can see that by the amount that are in the shops, it is? It's a really simple concept

You do know you don’t have to buy everything on sale in a shop? It’s optional. You buy it if you want to. It’s a really simple concept.

There is a lot of dog food in shops. I haven’t bought any of that either. But by the amount i see in the shops, i should assume it’s “normal” to buy it?

No, sleepyjane, I don't single out Christianity in my mocking of religion. All religion is nuts. HTH.

Really, I think my point has sailed magnificently over your head

OP - ignore all the posters on here telling you to "grow up."

Ignore, ignore, ignore!

It is not about the chocolate and any pea- brain can see that. It's about the fact that it's the norm in your relationship to exchange a token gift at Easter. This year, he as accepted his, but totally ignored you. It's not the gift - it's the lack of consideration. As if he's taking you for granted.

Fgs, why can't some people just see this?

The "norm" in our relationship is that I buy the kids' eggs. DH does not buy me chocolate because he knows I wouldn't want it. I think last year he gave me a pink chocolate egg, but generally he will give me flowers. I don't give him anything because he wouldn't want choc or flowers.

I think you just have to ask him outright why he hasn't bothered this year. Tell him it makes you feel slighted and invisible. He might make it up to you?

Who om earth would want to "grow up" anyway?

Life is mundane enough as it is, without having to act like an adult, however they are meant to act. If eating chocolate in a particular shape makes me less grown up, good.

"Loose continence"-bit of an oxymoron going on there

My husband doesn't eat chocolate so doesn't have the expectation of getting an egg. He knows I'm fussy about chocolate and that I prefer to buy an egg for myself if I want one. Last year I didn't. This year I did.
You should do the same, OP; don't bother getting one for your husband in future as he doesn't seem too pushed whether he gets one or not, and use the money to get a really good one for yourself instead.

Lord above! - fretting over an egg and old enough to be married!

My dp and I have got ourselves into the cycle where I don't buy one year and he does. So the next year he thinks "I won't buy one because she didn't last year" and I think "I'd better buy one because he did last year". And so the cycle continues. This year it was my turn to buy. Do we just shared his and ate before we even got out of bed

What a funny thread - why do so many people feel so strongly that adults shouldn't have an Easter egg? Hilarious

PS - king has the solution. Every easter/valentines ask "are we doing eggs/cards this year"

Buy yourself something expensive....

Any excuse for a token present to say thanks for making a beautiful family shouldn't go ungiven. It's not romantic. You hav eto teach him how to do this stuff or you will be pissed off for the remainder of your marriage......

Can people who honestly say (and are not being goady) that they didn't realise adults had Easter Eggs explain who they think some of the Easter Eggs that are on sale are for?

At our local supermarket there was an aisle for Easter. At one end it started with the little eggs, usually used for Easter Egg hunts, then slightly larger Eggs, obviously marketed for children, then the last section with even larger Eggs, usually high end chocolate with the price to match, sometimes with alcohol. Who are these Eggs for? I am sure this supermarket is not unique.

It's fine to say you don't do Eggs but to state that you didn't realise that 'adults as a class of people' do Easter Eggs is just weird.

Where I work everyone gets an Easter Egg as a thank you from management. Maybe I should have complained that they were treating me like a child!

So why bother mentioning it. Easter is a Christian celebration.No need to have had a pop at it.

I have never expected an egg. I only buy them for children as they are for it.

Perhaps your husband has not realised that you have not grown up yet.

I'm puzzled too as to why people would think adults don't get eggs. A lot of them are quite obviously made and marketed for adults.

I didn't realise I was supposed to stop liking chocolate and / or presents when I turned 18

Eat his egg.

It's not about the eggs though is it? It's about the lack of thought

Easter is a Christian celebration

Wrong again.

As a young adult I always bought my parents Easter Eggs when I lived at home. DS(13) buys us each an Egg/chocolate too. Even when he was younger he would like us to get something from him (bit like us buying something on his behalf at Christmas)