DH hasn't even acknowledged he didn't buy me an Easter egg

[bitdisgruntled]

Just that tbh. I was kind of expecting that he hadn’t as a few times in the past I’ve bought my own ( but told him when I had) and there was no obvious last minute dash to the shop on Saturday night. Then this morning the children got theirs from the Easter bunny and he was half jokingly complaining to the children that he’d been left out. Then I gave him his egg (which incidentally was one of the larger eggs, much bigger than the children’s) in a bit of a rush as we were going to church and he didn’t say thank you or say anything at all really. We’re home from my DM’s house now and still no “Tadah! Here’s your egg.” He hasn’t given me anything and hasn’t even mentioned the fact that he got me nothing. It’s not the lack of an egg that bothers me - there’s loads of chocolate in the house. It’s the lack of, well I don’t exactly know - just an “ I didn’t manage to get you anything this year” would have been ok. I realise it sounds childish, totally prepared to be told iabu

So to you being an adult means your DP not bothering to give a damn about your feelings or ever doing something nice for you? How very sad your life must be. Can't do that nice thing, you're an adult now.

DH doesn’t need to buy me a bloody Easter egg to spare my feelings. I wouldn’t expect him to.

If I really want an Easter egg I buy my own —or help the kids to eat theirs—DH is capable of buying his own too.

I haven’t bought DH an Easter egg for 24 years! Poor DH must be feeling very sad and rejected.... Bless him! 🙈

The question is, does he do anything nice for wife, whether an Easter Egg or anything else. It sounds to me like he doesn't do anything for her really. If he made romantic gestures regularly then Easter Eggs wouldn't be an issue, I think.

@PennyPIckle - you seem to have overlooked the difference between you and your dh, and the OP and hers. Neither you nor your dh buy Easter eggs for each other, but the OP and her dh usually do. Her dh expected to get an Easter egg from her, and was cross when he thought she had forgotten, but he has neither remembered to reciprocate the gesture nor to apologise for having forgotten.

It is not the Easter egg itself that matters - it is the lack of consideration demonstrated by him forgetting something they usually do for each other, and by him apparently not giving a fuck that he has made her feel unappreciated.

I usually buy my dh a birthday present. He would feel a bit upset if I forgot to get him anything, and didn’t give a crap that I had forgotten.

I think most people would be pissed off if they didn’t receive a birthday present from OH.

But c’mon there is a huge difference between a birthday present and an Easter egg!

I would be annoyed if my DH did buy me an Easter Egg, personally, as I'm very frequently on a diet and the last thing I would want was .... well, chocolate! But I have a DH who is sweet, and does buy me lovely presents. The OP in this case has a DH who seems not to consider her at all, whilst getting the hump if she doesn't give him an Easter Egg.

@PennyPIckle - it isn’t the Egg/present per se that is the issue - it is the lack of consideration and care that it represents in the OP’s relationship.

Her dh expects an Easter egg from her, and got the hump when he thought one would not be forthcoming, but couldn’t be bothered to remember one for her or to apologise for forgetting and hurting her feelings.

Just because you think that the Easter egg is a trivial thing, and you wouldn’t be upset by not getting one, it doesn’t mean that the OP’s feelings of being unappreciated/hurt are not valid.

The egg is a symbol of her dh’s lack of consideration - THAT is why it matters.

This is the most ridiculous thread I’ve seen on here yet.

STDG. So love, affection, respect and caring for someone boils down to whether they buy their partner an Easter egg or not. OK then...

No - it boils down to whether they show their partner consideration and respect.

Is it really that hard to understand that it is not the Easter egg per se, it was the lack of consideration that the OP’s dh demonstrated.

But you get the award for Most Consistent Missing of the Point!

SDGT - OPs OH can’t be the evil, deviant you are making him out to be. If he were OP wouldn’t have expected an egg from him.

Why are you making him out to be some sort of thug? Have you told her to LTB??

Where have I said anything like that, @PennyPIckle? Why not answer some of the points I have actually made, instead of putting ridiculous words into my mouth?

Damn! I've missed out on 27 years of receiving an Easter Egg as an adult! Am staggered that this is an issue in anyone's life, lucky you if this is your biggest worry OP xx

Snap! Only it’s 24 years for me.

My first DH always bought me an Easter egg.... He turned out to be a right controlling twat!

Second DH has never bought me an Easter egg and I never expected him to. He is a very considerate husband.... where it matters. I don’t feel at all violated because he doesn’t feel the need to buy me an Easter egg! My children don’t go without and that’s all that matters