DH hasn't even acknowledged he didn't buy me an Easter egg

[bitdisgruntled]

Just that tbh. I was kind of expecting that he hadn’t as a few times in the past I’ve bought my own ( but told him when I had) and there was no obvious last minute dash to the shop on Saturday night. Then this morning the children got theirs from the Easter bunny and he was half jokingly complaining to the children that he’d been left out. Then I gave him his egg (which incidentally was one of the larger eggs, much bigger than the children’s) in a bit of a rush as we were going to church and he didn’t say thank you or say anything at all really. We’re home from my DM’s house now and still no “Tadah! Here’s your egg.” He hasn’t given me anything and hasn’t even mentioned the fact that he got me nothing. It’s not the lack of an egg that bothers me - there’s loads of chocolate in the house. It’s the lack of, well I don’t exactly know - just an “ I didn’t manage to get you anything this year” would have been ok. I realise it sounds childish, totally prepared to be told iabu

I think that’s annoying of him OP. Oh and how is she acting like a spoilt 5 year old? It’s not the chocolate it’s the principle, as it seems he would of been disappointed if she didn’t get him one either. Just because you and your DP have never bought each other an Easter egg, doesn’t mean other families don’t or shouldn’t. And tbh, I really don’t care for them.

Yes Anxious
just what kind of degenerate fancies a chocolate egg at Easter?

. He’s your dh not your parent.

Seriously, all the ‘eggs are for kids’, ‘I didn’t know adults got eggs’ ‘why are you getting an egg, you’re an adult’ - no one believes you. Of course you know adults get eggs. You’re just playing to the camera.

Adults get eggs, of course they do. And you know that. You choose not to ‘do’ eggs because you’re adults of the higher order obviously.

my dh and I always get each other an egg, why wouldn't we, it's chocolate, and chocolate rules in our house. nom nom. Obviously the kids get loads more eggs, through school, clubs etc.

I know plenty of adults who give up chocolate for lent (not me, never had the will power) and look forward to an egg on Easter Sunday.

I work in a school, and a few children were very kind and gave me an egg too. Eggs are not just fir children, ha ha

Did you ask him to? My husband wouldn’t unless I told him to.

I think your eggspectations might be too high

Oh for the love of God! I’ve just been on this other thread saying how MNers are so clever and get to the root of the problem quickly!

But it’s been pages and pages on this thread before people have twigged..

It’s not about the bloody Easter Egg!!

It’s about your cheeky DH expecting a present from you when he hasn’t bought you one!

YANBU. Just tell him.

Oh just LTB to save any future grief.

OP - you might want to ask Mumsnet to highlight this in your post:

he was half jokingly complaining to the children that he’d been left out. Then I gave him his egg (which incidentally was one of the larger eggs, much bigger than the children’s) in a bit of a rush as we were going to church and he didn’t say thank you or say anything at all really.

because people keep missing it in their eagerness to give you a kicking.

Eh! No Easter eggs here either, hasn't even come up.

I got my OH one because the kids asked if they could, but he’s never bought me one and I don’t expect him to.
I have in the past picked up one of the posh ones in the sale on Easter Monday for us both to share (—and then scoffed the lot while he’s on nights--) but I wouldn’t fall out with him over it.
Nothing for birthday or Christmas yes, but Easter isn’t the same in terms of surprises.
He obviously just doesn’t think that way.

“Surely those of you saying it's not normal to have Easter Eggs can see that by the amount that are in the shops, it is? It's a really simple concept.”

I see a lot of Christmas trees sold in December. By your “simple” explanation, that must mean each adult gets a Christmas tree.

Never known any adults buying each other Easter eggs either. I do know plenty of adults who buy themselves all those unwanted Easter eggs once they’re ridiculously discounted a couple of days after Easter.

God I hate this site at times. I don't understand why people round on ops with such venom. I bet if someone in the office tomorrow said "my dh didn't get me an egg" not one of you would say "grow up" or "fuck you're needy." It hurts to be forgotten, whatever it's about. My advice op is to talk to him about how you feel.

@bitdisgruntled - Sorry you have been given such a hard time. We do the same as you -- eggs for kids and eggs for each other. It has nothing to do with whether we need chocolate or whether we are grown-ups! And I would feel the same as you if my DH hadn't bothered to do it one year and didn't acknowledge the miss. "Bit disgruntled" is exactly how I'd feel. I think it's worth mentioning to him, though realise it's hard to do without coming across as petulant (especially if the reaction on this thread is anything to go by), because I can see it makes you feel it's symptomatic of a bigger neglect.

So how does that help the op Shifty?

Anxious - Surely those of you saying it's not normal to have Easter Eggs can see that by the amount that are in the shops, it is? It's a really simple concept.

I agree anxious, and as for the sneering "They are for kids not adults" - says who? Since when did MN police decide what type of chocolate an adult can or cannot eat?

My workplace do an Easter raffle, it had 70 items in last week, not all chocolate, but a good proportion of prizes were adult eggs!

I am in my fifities and love Easter eggs, always have done, love the thick chocolate, love breaking the egg. Maybe I am being childish, but I love it. Conversely, I don't particularly like alcohol but I don't criticise people who drink wine by the bottle, so why is anyone else bothered that I love chocolate eggs? Each to his own.

We have always got an egg each, sometimes we buy as a surprise, this year DH and DD bought 5 together on a shopping trip a few weeks ago and told me.

Kids are 20 and almost 18 but still love getting eggs, one from us and one from the bunny. The latter is a bit of fun and still enjoyable! DS bought 4 small eggs, one each for us all. We all enjoy giving and receiving eggs at Easter, so why shouldn't we do it?!

We had a lovely day out yesterday, on a long walk, accompanied by a container full of Easter egg. Yummy.

Op - maybe next year agree who is buying them, whether you buy your own, or one buys both, or each buy as a surprise etc.

I didn't really realise adults bought each other Easter eggs, I've never heard of this in my life

Fucks sake there are some snippy arseholes on here.

DH bought me a beautiful egg from Hotel Chocolat and it was a lovely thing to do. We don't normally buy each other eggs but I've had a shit week and he thought it would be nice to give me a wee surprise. What an arsehole he is, Easter eggs are only for children. (Apparently).

Same, Sophiesdog. I'd rather have an Easter Egg over a bottle of alcohol any day.

Not sure why you can’t just have a casual chat with DH about this, OP. Year’s ago I had an issue with DH not sorting anything from the DCs to me for mother’s day. I had a word and he has remembered ever since because a card was important to me. He just hadn’t realised.

If you’re getting annoyed because Easter eggs are not being reciprocated then you have two choices- either tell DH that you would like an egg in future, or don’t get him one in future and just buy one for yourself.

It’s overpriced, often crappy chocolate in wasteful packaging. Okay for kids, a bit strange for adults imho. If I want chocolate, I buy good quality bars and I don’t use Easter as an excuse. But if it means that much to you then take the choices above. Don’t act like a child.

Rick, I didn’t realise every single post needed to help the OP. How does “just what kind of degenerate fancies a chocolate egg at Easter?” help then?

Honestly has never occurred to me to buy my oh an Easter egg. It would never occurred to him to get me one either. As fully functioning adults, if I really want some chocolate, I'll get some.

People can be so weird. It's like the posters who moan at Christmas time that their partner hasn't bought them an advent calendar.

Grow up!

Yep there are some terrible people who buy grown up Easter eggs how can they live with themselves

My husband and I buy eggs for each other. I am quite surprised by the number of people on here who don’t! I always buy DH and DD a bog standard one and he always buys me and DD fancy ones (probably because he’s last minute and that’s all that’s left!) because it’s a little way to express love to give a treat.
The OP is hurt because she would like her husband to go to the trouble of doing the same.
OP I have been known to say to DH that if he is thinking of buying eggs they are starting to run out of stock...perhaps a big hint is needed next year?