I’m not, am I?

[MaiaRindell]

I’m taking my two DDs (8 and 11) to Orlando on Friday. ExDH has booked a last minute trip to Disneyland Paris tomorrow. He hasn’t told me this

I haven't read this whole thread. However, if your ex knew your holiday to Orlando was booked ages ago then of course he shouldn't have booked a mini trip to Paris which barely gives them a chance to come home and get ready for another holiday. But he's done it.

It's only a few days and I suppose the easiest thing would be just to give a few items of clothing so they've just got enough. Sounds like he's a bit jealous that you're able to take the DC;s away on such a special holiday and is trying to sabotage it. But you say you don't think he'll do anything like pretend to lose the passports. Why can't he go out and buy a new set of clothes. And won't the stuff they need for Paris be different from what they'll be wearing in Florida anyway.

Just do the right thing for the children!

The right thing for the children is NOT to lie down and be a doormat while an abusive fuckwit walks all over you

@HonkyWonkWoman

So when a woman urges another woman not to tolerate a man's abuse, she's 'some man hating harridan'

I think the 1950s want you back.

Lacucuracha
The problem was that he had expected her to pack some clothes for the children's holiday with him. Where is the abuse?
He might be an idiot and he might be lazy but asking her to pack some clothes is not abusive.
All I was concerned with us that children are in the middle of a silly argument about packing some clothes.
The Op did not imply that he was being abusive, she was just annoyed with him because of the clothes and also I think because he was taking the kids to Disney Paris.

Honk, you may want to actually read all of the OP's posts? You know, so that you know what was going on?

Which bit do I need to apologize for YourWan and thanks for calling me a dick!

You are welcome. And all of it.

Can't be bothered with people like you YourWan !
I was thinking of the children in this argument but people like you are only interested in stirring up animosity.

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Op I’m genuinely sorry for the thread derailment. Silly half hour!

He's their father, he is taking them on holiday, so I have no idea why he thinks it's your job to pack them up for him. How does he not have enough clothes, essentials, and cases for them for a short break?

RTFT PEOPLE jesus christ

HonkyWonkWoman

Lacucuracha
The problem was that he had expected her to pack some clothes for the children's holiday with him. Where is the abuse?

The abuse is that the ex has wardrobes full of clothes but keeps clothes that OP sends with her children. This is controlling behaviour and therefore abusive. He is now demanding clothes at 10pm, the night before an early morning trip to Paris. For some reason, OP feels she needs to comply with this by provide leggings, PJs, etc. Abusive behaviour is insidious.

I do hope that you are enjoying your lovely holiday in Orlando!

She’s going on Friday.
I mean, I’m a firm believer that you should RTFT before you comment, but even if you RTOP you would know that!

Oooooops Nottaken! I do beg your most humble apologies dear thread monitor.

I have in fact read the full thread but the beginning seems like a long time ago now. I had it in my head he had them over the weekend and she was going Monday.

It's the bank holidays I tell ye.

Accepted and duly noted. 📝
It absolutely is the holidays - I need to get my lazy arse off MN and do something worthwhile! I’m annoying even myself by now!