I’m not, am I?

[MaiaRindell]

I’m taking my two DDs (8 and 11) to Orlando on Friday. ExDH has booked a last minute trip to Disneyland Paris tomorrow. He hasn’t told me this

Your girls won't thank you for this, they are old enough to understand all this and they will just think you don't want them going on holidays with their Dad. I think you need to just get on with it.

So if all their clothes are at his house, tell him to take them.

What's going to be best for the children? If it's Paris for a few days is that a hand luggage rather than big suitcase job?

Totally understand your frustration at having this landed on you short notice, but it's doable, yes?

Erm...he will definelty have them home (inc passprts) for Friday wont he?

YANBU

you're not being unreasonable.. He absolutely is... I would stand firm.. he wants to take them away he can 'pack' all the clothes he has never returned to you.... don't let him bully you into unpacking all your already packed stuff Lady

Zoe the kids hVe clothes at his house. This was agreed after an entire suitcase of clothes went missing on holiday last year and he refused to replace or reimburse.

Ex DH has just called me a f’ing bitch.

What a charmer. At least he’s an ex.

Why can’t he pack the clothes at his house? Is it because he’s a lazy fucker?

NapQueen- that was my first thought! YANBU op

NapQueen I bloody hope so. I have taken out insurance just in case. I have saved up for 4 years for this.
He is now saying he won’t give me child support this month if I don’t pack. It’s due today.

If they've got stuff at his why would he presume that you'd pack stuff from yours?

Your girls won't thank you for this

The girls are getting a mini break to disneyland paris followed immediatley by a fortnight in Orlando. I cant imagine not being able to take a specific skirt with them will overshaddow that. And if it does theb Op has bigger problems.

Cant you just say 'pack what exactly? Their clothes for their time with you are at your house. Or are you expecting me to come round and pack for them the clothes currently hanging in their wardrobes at your house?'

You are so nbu

Wow. He's trying to steal your thunder with a last minute holiday and expects you to pack for it? What a dick.

Wow. Do you think he booked Disney land Paris instead of any other type of holiday in the whole entire world to steal the wow factor of landing in Florida and meeting Mickey Mouse for the first time? Would he be that spiteful?

Don't pack. I doubt the maintenance will cover the clothes for his jaunt, let him get on with it

Pack what clothes and in what???

Perhaps send their dirty clothes in carrier bags??? You could offer him that option...

He is now saying he won’t give me child support this month if I don’t pack. It’s due today.

Ah. So yes, he would be that spiteful.

Your Ex should have given more notice and refusing to give child support if you don't pack is ridiculous. Exerting his control.

Why can't he pack? Especially after what happened last time.

You've enough on your plate packing for Florida.

Silly man.

Tell him to fuck off and get packing. Withholding maintenance because you won't do as he says. I can see why he's your ex. He needs to realise he's your ex, you don't do his wife work anymore. What a tosser, I'm sorry op.

Does he even have their passports?

YANBU by the way.

nottaken they have been to both Orlando and DLP with him before, but it’s being done defiantly.