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To say how gobsmacked I am by what a friend told me

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SilverySurfer · 01/04/2018 16:10

Yesterday I met with a newish friend and not sure how but we got onto the subject of how she met her husband.

Apparently she was fairly newly divorced and decided to check out the lonely hearts column in the local paper. She marked three as possibly of interest and tried telephoning them. Only one of the three answered the phone and after a chat they decided to meet at her house (I know, HUGE no no) on the Thursday and she would cook dinner.

The date went so well that from meeting on the Thursday he had moved in by the Sunday and they were married less than two months later.

They celebrated their 23rd wedding anniversary earlier this year.

I've never heard anything like it, have you? And has it lasted the course of time?

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LizzieSiddal · 01/04/2018 21:27

What a lovely story!

Dh and I met in August, decided we wanted to marry in the October and married in the March.
That was 29 years ago! Looking back we did not know each other very well and I think we were mad to get married so quickly. But we love each other to bits so wouldn’t change a thing.

Babdoc · 01/04/2018 21:27

Met DH my first night at uni, in the students union bar. Moved in together 3 days later. Loved each other to bits for the whole 16 years we had together before he died of a brain haemorrhage. Still miss him now, 26 years later.

QueenofLouisiana · 01/04/2018 21:30

WE’re another ONS that never went home. Engaged after 3 months, bought a house together after 10 months. Married within 2 years.

After 20 years I think we’re still pretty happy- although the end of a long day with both sets of in-laws may not be the best time to ask!

Sophisticatedsarcasm · 01/04/2018 21:52

I met my DP online and although we are not married we have been together 14 years and have 2 DC. Sometimes it best to be with someone that maybe do3snt know you well from the start. Fresh start... good for her she found love again.

recklessgran · 01/04/2018 22:06

Met DH on a blind double date as a favour for a friend who fancied DH'S mate. Engaged after 5 weeks and married in 7 months. [My mother was so disgusted that she refused to come to our wedding.] 42 years later still incredibly happy with 5 DD's and 5 DGC. Other couple married too the year after us and are still happily together and have 1DD and 3DS's.. It was just meant to be.

Schroedingerscatagain · 01/04/2018 22:26

Another one here

Blind date and forced to meet, the next day he went on holiday for 2 weeks

We talked while he was away, a week after he got back we got engaged and 8 weeks later we married

We only waited the 8 weeks for family as we really wanted to go to Gretna green

A year later almost to the day dd was born, 14 months later ds arrived

We’re still very happily together nearly 17 years later much to some people’s dismay who we feel hoped it would all fail

Still soulmates through the good times and the bad

poshme · 01/04/2018 23:09

I know some people who have ben married 30 years. He proposed after 24 hours of meeting her, she agreed a week later.

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SilverySurfer · 01/04/2018 23:18

I am amazed at all your stories - it looks like my friend's experience is not as unique as I thought it was.

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DrFoxtrot · 01/04/2018 23:26

Bah humbug Envy Grin

Lizzie48 · 01/04/2018 23:28

No it's not unique at all. It's just not about the length of the time a couple have known each other at all, but whether or not the 2 people are compatible. It seems to me that you just can't generalise about it.

thecatfromjapan · 01/04/2018 23:36

Lovely story/stories. Flowers

I'm glad you posted them. Smile

MinnieMinchkin · 01/04/2018 23:41

I have friends who met during freshers week at uni and were married by the end of their first year. Their silver wedding anniversary was two or three years ago.

DH told me the other night that he remembers making "eye-contact" with me in a club many years ago, but my friend ushered me past. A few years later we were working together and I immediately had a major crush on him. Took us four years from then to get ourselves together, but that was ten years ago. Now married with 8 yo DD Smile Just wish we hadn't farted about for so long!

littleshoutymouse · 01/04/2018 23:41

My DM got engaged to her now husband 2 weeks after the first time she met him. Apparently I went white when she told me!

Spoog1971xx · 01/04/2018 23:41

Met online, never went home after 3 date, married in 8 weeks later in Las Vegas still together 14 years later. I was planning to make my excuses on date 3, not sure what happened!

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 01/04/2018 23:45

I know a couple who married two weeks after meeting (from the travelling community so not all that unusual) and are still together and (as far as I am aware) happy Smile

RedPandaMama · 01/04/2018 23:53

That's lovely. I guess sometimes you just know.

DP and I have been together 2 years but have a house and an 8 month old DD. We had a night out, slept together and I basically lived at his every free moment from then. 3 days in he told me he loved me and I just knew it all felt right. We went on our first date after that Grin It wasnt the sort of heart-fluttering nervous excitement butterflies type love, it was just like coming home. He annoys the hell out of me and every day I say 'why am I even with you?!' when he says something stupid, but I wouldn't change him and never will. Sometimes you just know.

bellsbuss · 02/04/2018 00:01

First date we arranged to go out and stay at his as we lived 30 mins from each other and I still lived with parents. He said I could sleep in his spare room , I didn't 🙈 it was literally love at first sight , moved in a few weeks later. Been together 21 years and have 4 children. When you know you know

MyMagicStars · 02/04/2018 00:03

These are all lovely. I met DH when he was coming out of A&E at the hospital I worked (different department) at late at night, and we ended up sharing a taxi back as there was only one available! Eight children and thirty five years later. We were married after a year.

MyMagicStars · 02/04/2018 00:05

Babdoc Flowers he sounds wonderful. xx

nakedscientist · 02/04/2018 00:57

Eyes met in a crowded pub in March, went home with him, dated 3 weeks, split for 1 hour, moved in to his flat April, pregnant in July. Still together 24 years later, married for 11 and 5 DC.
Love him more than ever.

totoromama · 02/04/2018 09:50

Got engaged after 3 days married after 12 weeks. Still happy after 2 children and 14 years.
We also had posh castle wedding.

Nixee2231 · 02/04/2018 09:58

My husband is Dutch. I met him on a video game, we talked for a month online then I came to the Netherlands to visit him for a week. That was now 9 years ago and I never left!

bettytaghetti · 04/04/2018 15:54

I would dearly love to know if the couple who met at a freshers' disco at Southampton Uni in 1986 and got married 8 days later are still together. I often think of them and hope it lasted. The last we knew was that they had two children and were still together a few years after leaving. Her hen night was certainly one I'll never forget!
FWIW my parents married 6 months after meeting due to DF getting a job elsewhere; last year was their 50th.

Ledderwoman · 04/04/2018 15:58

Not as shocking as what my friend told me about how her and her DO met.

She was 13, he was 26. She couldn't understand why I was horrified. They've stayed together though, 3 kids, eldest is 18 now so they have certainly stood the test of time although he should be in prison

DontMakeMeShushYou · 04/04/2018 16:01

I met a bloke 20 years ago and he moved in with me 3 and a half weeks later. He's still here.

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