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Original poster

To say how gobsmacked I am by what a friend told me

129 replies

SilverySurfer · 01/04/2018 16:10

Yesterday I met with a newish friend and not sure how but we got onto the subject of how she met her husband.

Apparently she was fairly newly divorced and decided to check out the lonely hearts column in the local paper. She marked three as possibly of interest and tried telephoning them. Only one of the three answered the phone and after a chat they decided to meet at her house (I know, HUGE no no) on the Thursday and she would cook dinner.

The date went so well that from meeting on the Thursday he had moved in by the Sunday and they were married less than two months later.

They celebrated their 23rd wedding anniversary earlier this year.

I've never heard anything like it, have you? And has it lasted the course of time?

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Lotsofplanetshaveanorth · 01/04/2018 17:42

Longest one night stand ever here

Magpiemagpie · 01/04/2018 17:47

I met my DH in a nightclub, he came home with me that night never really left .
Got married within 3 months , that was 19 years ago this year

BarryTheKestrel · 01/04/2018 17:48

Me and DH had known each other for a while but never considered anything happening. We went for a drink one day mid September, he moved in mid October. We've been together 8 years this year, married for 6, dc2 due to arrive in time for our anniversary.

HateTheDF · 01/04/2018 17:50

My DP's father was engaged by 2 weeks and married by 3 months. Madness.

tortelliniforever · 01/04/2018 17:50

A friend of mine met someone in a bar and basically moved in with them that night - been together 15 years now.

missbonita · 01/04/2018 17:53

I met my DH at a bus stop outside a nightclub when I was 17. He was in a group care home and asked if he could come back to mine to share a pizza. He never left. We slightly fudge it for the DC

missbonita · 01/04/2018 17:53

PS - we on 26 years now!

Fluffycloudland77 · 01/04/2018 17:55

Dh was with his ex for 22 years, she left him & he started seeing me in the June but very loosely & we got engaged beginning of December.

Still together 13 years later & I love him more each day. Best husband ever.

It was said I was only after him for his money but I’ve yet to find this money 🤔.

DrFoxtrot · 01/04/2018 17:55

I’m not sure whether all the stories are making me feel hopeful about true lasting love or making me want to stick fingers up at you all

SoupDragon · 01/04/2018 17:56

I know exactly what NotTakenUsername’s problem is OP, because I would have the same one. You made a new friend who told you how she met her husband and you thought awwww... how sweet! Let me share those specific details in a public forum so if you should read it, you and your closest can all recognise it’s you.

Me too.

It’s not your story to post on an Internet forum. Especially one that is regularly mined by the tabloid press for stories.

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SilverySurfer · 01/04/2018 17:58

NotTakenUsername
Ouch. I’m just not sure I’d be impressed if I read a story I shared with a new friend on Mumsnet AIBU as general chit chat. I’d think twice about sharing other stories in the future. That’s all.

Yes, I know, you said that in your first post. Would it help if I promise not to divulge your deepest, darkest secrets?

I thought it was lovely and wondered if anyone else had a similar story and it seems that quite a few do - thank you all for sharing

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NotTheQueen · 01/04/2018 18:00

A woman I once worked with in NZ went away to the U.K. on holiday, and her U.K. friends had a BBQ for her. She fell in love with one of the guests and married him before the end of her holiday, returning to NZ only to pack up her life. They had over twenty years of happiness before he passed. Being young at the time, I thought they were irresponsible but now I think it’s a lovely story.

RainbowGlitterFairy · 01/04/2018 18:07

I had just started working in a pub, having just moved to the area and ended up being invited to Sunday lunch with 2 of the regulars. We had a really lovely afternoon, which turned into a pub crawl while they showed me all the places that were worth going, I went home with DH and never left

11 years on we are still together and friend is DD's godfather

myusernameisnotmyusername · 01/04/2018 18:11

We got together aged 21 and 18-moved in together after a few months. Still together nearly 16 years later!

Sarahh2014 · 01/04/2018 18:16

Went on holiday after 8 weeks,pregnant 1 month later,engaged 6 months after that. Been married 2 years in July together for 5

Ravenesque · 01/04/2018 18:17

My father died when I was ten and not long after my mother started a relationship with a vile man. He moved in really quickly and they were together from when I was eleven until I was seventeen. After a couple of years of being single I paid for her to join a dating agency. She had a series of dates. On a Thursday (is that a lucky day? ) she met my step-father. She had another date the next night and oh my days he was just awful. She phoned my step-father to come and rescue her. He did, came home with her, they were engaged on the Sunday and married eight months later. It would have been sooner but they both wanted the full Catholic church marriage.

They were together until she died fifteen years later.

DoraJar · 01/04/2018 18:17

DH was a ONS - living together within 10 days - still going strong after more than 30 years!

crunchymint · 01/04/2018 18:20

DP did not go home after our second date, I think you know when you have met someone who is a life partner.

Crowd · 01/04/2018 18:23

Engaged after 5 months, married after 9. I always laugh when threads on here have people responding that less than a year is "not serious".

GirlsBlouse17 · 01/04/2018 18:26

My parents' friends were round our house with their daughter. They introduced their daughter to my brother who was visiting my parents that day. Parents and friends suggested my brother and daughter go to pub round the corner. When they came back from pub a couple of hours later they announced they were engaged! They did get married but it ended disastrously unfortunately.

midgetgem2211 · 01/04/2018 18:28

My parents have just celebrated 40 years together. He saw her in a pub and decided she was the woman he wanted to marry. Proposed the next day and she accepted the day after. They would have married asap but couldn't get a marriage license quickly enough (he was in the army and only home for a week) so they were apart for nearly a year and married almost as soon as he got back.

Anythingforacatslife · 01/04/2018 18:29

I think the OPs new friend is my MIL, that’s identical to their story! However it leaves out the part about him being recently widowed and the speed of the whole thing upsetting his three daughters and my DH. They’re blissfully happy together which is just as well because they wrecked their relationship with their children.

WingsOnMyBoots · 01/04/2018 18:34

By the law of averages. out of all couples who marry quickly after meeting, a number of them will stand the test of time - this couple is one of that number.

savagebaggagemaster · 01/04/2018 18:41

Met online. Engaged after 2 months, married within a year. Still together 15 years later with 2dc.

FizzyWizzyFlash · 01/04/2018 18:42

@Milliepede ditto!

My MIL called me whore but at least I'm a happy whore

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