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Supernorthernme · 01/04/2018 00:04

The thread continues....if it hasn't continued elsewhere! @Lateforall it was me who questioned Lobella loves depression wears lippy campaign. I get that the idea is that being a bit glam might be a way of coping. And i have been guilty of putting my face on to carry on in the world. I get that not everyone with pnd is sat at home in pjs unshowered with greasy hair. But I just find the whole thing so false on her account - maybe that is because I know of her in real life.

But I think so many of them have massivley over exaggerated aspects of their lives because it sells. Whether that is FODs clumsy parenting or whatever. But it really doesnt sit well

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Mumofkids · 04/04/2018 13:57

Those messages on CH's page are full on! She's stating MP was attacked and vilified on social media to the point she had to take a break?

HolyMountain · 04/04/2018 14:00

I thought MP had a break after the Hello Amazing Mums debacle and felt a bit shit at being part of it.

Doctorbubbles · 04/04/2018 14:06

Lisa has now been sent some 'really gorgeous pots' - tags the company but no #ad!!!!

Mumofkids · 04/04/2018 14:08

And FOD is over the moon with all the extra attention! There's no keeping a good grammer down!

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PavlovaPrincess · 04/04/2018 14:18

Ffs, MP took a break over the Next/Hello debacle not because of this thread Hmm

CadyHeron · 04/04/2018 14:24

Could have taken a break over the Next/Hello debacle as well as constantly being watched on here.
Would think it feels like a constant onslaught. (I don't just mean about ads.)
The watching, the googling, looking up details, obsessing over them, hating the fact they get something "for free" ..... they're people.

miamimice · 04/04/2018 14:33

MP is rarely discussed on here, and when she is it is overwhelmingly positive. Because when she gets something for free, she declares it rather than tries to conceal it or hides behind 'rules'. She does the right thing regardless of what the 'rules' may say. She has been ahead of the game for quite a long time now because she reflects and learns from what she sees and reads. Others could learn from her approach.

Shimshiminysheroo · 04/04/2018 14:35

And some are people who are selling a false lifestyle and being pretty disingenuous about it.

Shimshiminysheroo · 04/04/2018 14:42

I will say that I don't hate that they are getting something for free... What I hate is the disingenuity. I think the poster up thread who wrote about the rigby and peller bra plug summed it up for me. What was pertinent, was that in contrast to her experience of watching and ad on the telly, which she knew to actually be an ad, she had a very different reaction - one is, oh there's a bra I can't afford. And the other is, oh no, this person on an average income can afford it, what am I doing wrong?

To obfuscate the origins of the product purchase even with #gifted is misleading, and it's just wrong.

CadyHeron · 04/04/2018 14:43

I've had a quick read of some of the earlier threads. Looks like she's felt the need to have to come on here and defend herself quite a bit

miamimice · 04/04/2018 14:47

There is a difference between defending and engaging. I would say MP has been highly successful at the latter.

CadyHeron · 04/04/2018 14:49

There's also engaging because you feel like you need to defend yourself if your name keeps being brought up and you're being discussed. Which looks like hers has been.

ABuckToothedGirlinLuxembourg · 04/04/2018 14:50

Yes, I don’t think she was here defending. She was joining in, and it seemed to me like she was onboard with a lot of the stuff being said regarding transparency. And let’s not forget, she was also on board with people not being labelled trolls and haters when they are calling for more honesty.

CadyHeron · 04/04/2018 14:55

Not being labelled trolls and haters when calling for more honesty - yes.If the honesty means in regards to the advertising being clear and being pulled up on it if it's not. That's fair enough.
I'm assuming she meant that type of honesty should be called for - stuff like the one mentioned upthread that was along the lines of "well it must be shit as it's doing nothing to make your face look good" - there's just no need.

miamimice · 04/04/2018 14:57

That was just an opinion about the efficacy of expensive face creams. Not a personal comment directed at anybody. Are we not allowed to hold opinions about anything any more?

CadyHeron · 04/04/2018 15:01

Depends how you word it, surely.

ABuckToothedGirlinLuxembourg · 04/04/2018 15:04

No, there’s no need for the horrible comments, but I’ve made a couple on here myself, purely out of frustration. I think some of these instamums could do with a course on how to respond politely to transparency questions, some of the ways they’ve responded to such calls have been disgraceful. It’s very much feeling like them and us at the moment though, which isn’t good.

miamimice · 04/04/2018 15:07

Yep I agree with both of you, Cady and Buck.

Badmotherpukka · 04/04/2018 15:15

I took a break because of the Hello/Next Star Mum awards mistake. Glaring lack of diversity aside, I am no Star Mum, nor should I have been judging others to win that title. (Not to take away from the deserving women who entered the awards). My position here (starting from “fed up of Instamums” thread in November 2017) was initially defensive, increasingly interested (from a personal and ‘brand’ perspective), occasionally informative (we did, distressingly, refer to ourselves as “The Primark Beckhams” not Clemmie and Simon) and genuinely frustrated by the dialogue around two ‘camps’ emerging here. I don’t have the solution and this is not a sitting-on-the-fence exercise, I just feel uncomfortable about the divide (Mumsnetters vs Instamums) emerging on a wider scale.

Badmotherpukka · 04/04/2018 15:17

‘Here’ as in generally not specifically on this thread.

Sofialemon · 04/04/2018 15:19

@PavlovaPrincess

Surely not even @Sofialemon can think that Mercedes have 'leant' them a car and said 'it's entirely up to you whether you feature it on your feed or not. And please tell your followers what you honestly think of it.'

Re the above if they haven't paid her and haven't specified exactly what she posts or asked to check the content of the post then no I don't think it needs #ad.

I assume there will have been an agreement that she features the car in return for the free loan of it and it blatantly is an ad but technically seeing as she has made it very clear that Mercedes loaned her the car in the text then I see no need for a #ad.

Where has she stated that Mercedes said there was no need to feature the car on her insta account?

HolyMountain · 04/04/2018 15:20

Thanks for clarifying that Anna.

mrscampbellblackreturns · 04/04/2018 15:22

I think you have come out of this really well badmother :) You have demonstrated how to deal with criticism not all of which has been constructive with grace.

CadyHeron · 04/04/2018 15:30

This what I thought too.
I assume there will have been an agreement that she features the car in return for the free loan of it and it blatantly is an ad but technically seeing as she has made it very clear that Mercedes loaned her the car in the text then I see no need for a #ad.

They loaned a car, she featured the car, she clearly said it was a loan and mentioned it. Was very clear.