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Supernorthernme · 01/04/2018 00:04

The thread continues....if it hasn't continued elsewhere! @Lateforall it was me who questioned Lobella loves depression wears lippy campaign. I get that the idea is that being a bit glam might be a way of coping. And i have been guilty of putting my face on to carry on in the world. I get that not everyone with pnd is sat at home in pjs unshowered with greasy hair. But I just find the whole thing so false on her account - maybe that is because I know of her in real life.

But I think so many of them have massivley over exaggerated aspects of their lives because it sells. Whether that is FODs clumsy parenting or whatever. But it really doesnt sit well

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PavlovaPrincess · 03/04/2018 12:17

DressLikeAMum

caperberries · 03/04/2018 12:31

Wow, that’s super low engagement. There must be a lot of fake followers there.
It amuses me when people claim any critics of these accounts must be ‘obsessed’. I hadn’t heard of any of these accounts (MODFOD included) before reading about them on these threads.

They hold no appeal for me - they all seem trite and contrived.

And I’m not jealous - I suspect my lifestyle/income is better than most of the Instamums

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Areyouinthegame · 03/04/2018 12:37

You are right @caperberries. So much of their content is based on free holidays, days out, clothes, shoes, and other freebies. Take all that away and they are just very average. Its the facade they put on..... I can see through it.

CadyHeron · 03/04/2018 12:50

Well spotted, areyouinthegame
Are you still here too? I see you are too. Why the rolly eyes? You can't stop people posting because they have a differing viewpoint/opinion to you.

Areyouinthegame · 03/04/2018 12:53

Oh Cady you are incessant...... When did I tell anyone to get lost? Someone implied you had been bullied off this thread. But you never left.

Mumofkids · 03/04/2018 12:57

@areyouinthegame I think it would take more than a few people disagreeing to put Cady off! I thought you meant that she was stil here eyeroll, not an eyeroll because she was still here!

CadyHeron · 03/04/2018 12:59

@cadyheron if that's how you felt.

To me - dear god, you still here? Take a break love!
Just one of them.
Luckily I'm not easily intimidated off, but anyone a bit more vulnerable would have stopped posting a lot earlier which I'm sure was the intention with them all.

CadyHeron · 03/04/2018 13:01

Sorry, I misread the eyeroll then Blush with all the personal comments can anyone blame me Grin
Apologies then. As you were.

CadyHeron · 03/04/2018 13:07

Sorry, a bold bit. Only to show which bit I'm referring to.
My husband and I are a team with our children. And yes if she takes the older 2 off for a week in a resort, he should have the opportunity to do the same, does he not need the connection with the 2 children?

That's their parenting and what works for them though. Parenting decisions.
If someone was to say to you - does she not have a life of her own? Far too attached to her kids. Fancy not being able to have a bit of time to herself.Lives through them. Forgotten how to be herself too.(For example)
Would you not take that as a personal dig? They're real people. Not just people to gaze at and pull apart,

PavlovaPrincess · 03/04/2018 13:13

Speaking of being bullied off the thread, please don't think you have to stop posting @Mumofkids

You've done nothing wrong.

CadyHeron · 03/04/2018 13:15

Course she doesn't have to stop posting, I don't think anyone has said she should.
Everyone's entitled to their opinion (without name calling if they don't like what they hear.)

Mumofkids · 03/04/2018 13:15

@cadyheron no not really. I do t think you can be too attached to little kids, it's gone before you know it.
But that wasn't the point I was making, I meant that her fans were all saying that essentially he'd been in the same position as her, whereas I was saying, to be at home working with twin toddlers is quite different to working in St Lucia with a 7 and 10 year old... so for someone to say he deserved nothing because he was the dad was not fair or equal. And seeingvas she so badly needed to fill the gaps with the big girls, is it not the same for him. Back to me, my circumstances are very different and I have to be very careful what's online in terms of identification so it's not something we would do, no, not under any circumstances. I was not gazing and disapproving, but by what your saying, does he not have those rights too?

Areyouinthegame · 03/04/2018 13:17

They put themselves in the media. Why cant a few critical comments balance the onslaught on all the fawning comments. Surely their egos can take that.

Mumofkids · 03/04/2018 13:17

@pavlovaprincess thank you 😊 it's all fine, I just do like to pick up if someone thinks it's gone over a line. Sometimes posts can appear harsher than you meant originally! And I do find humour in a lot of this, it's observational and interesting but clearly some people take it far more seriously.

Mumofkids · 03/04/2018 13:20

@cady I'm sorry but I would disagree entirely, somewhere there is a real person, but the personas they put on Instagram are not their real selves. It's a business and a game. I'm not picking apart their faces or bodies. But it's quite normal for people to have different games views on other people's choices, it happens all the time!

Mumofkids · 03/04/2018 13:21

Argh sorry multiple post but no idea where that second 'games' came from!

CadyHeron · 03/04/2018 13:21

Not disputing the fact that it's a business and a game for some.
Parenting decisions are just that though - parenting decisions. Up to them.

CadyHeron · 03/04/2018 13:28

Mumofkids - you're right in the sense he needs to as well. If they're reading, I hope he gets a holiday next.

Mumofkids · 03/04/2018 13:32

And again, It wasn't the parenting decisions it was the difference in how people were saying he should be treated. It's just odd the way these people comment on their posts.

Mumofkids · 03/04/2018 13:32

@cadyheron it would be really nice for him to have one!

Areyouinthegame · 03/04/2018 13:36

Even if mofod were on holiday 10 months of the year. They would need more holidays. They are the hardest working people ever. They deserve more free holidays.

Mumofkids · 03/04/2018 13:42

@areyouinthegame 🤣 Sometimes it feels like they are!
That Portugal holiday was destinology too. So they obviously have a good thing going with them! She posted in January a throwback with @destinology photo of her and twins in Portugal and how grey it was and needed a holiday, and low and behold a few weeks later St.Lucia! Everything is a blag 🙈

Mumofkids · 03/04/2018 13:44

I might try tagging them and posting a pic in the hope they don't realise I'm a nothing and offer me a holiday!

Reallycantbebothered · 03/04/2018 14:26

Mod was asking for ( long haul)holiday recommendations a few months ago ( before Florida) and I'd suggested the Caribbean or Thailand....this was before I knew how it all worked re the - blagging/ 'workingwith'/affiliated crap
I do believe they're thinking of going to Antigua for her mother's 70th in a couple of years - watch this space Hmm

CadyHeron · 03/04/2018 14:57

Antigua sounds nice. Hope they do,then.
Not seeing a problem with (your words) blagging if they do - if it's marked as an ad, fair play to them.