For not paying for my sons mistake

[LLO7]

Hello,
My son and I were at my DM and DF house today and my DM left my DS unattended on their tablet while I was in the bathroom. My DS accidentally purchased £4 worth of game coins (he's 2 so didn't know what he was doing!). I was talking my DF through how to claim the money back and he said 'or we could just get the money back from you guys' I said 'no, you are the ones silly enough to leave him unattended on a unprotected tablet after I've told you not too' he just said 'well he's your son.' My phone then started to ring so that was conversation over. I know it's only £4 but AIBU for refusing to pay it after I have shown them how to password protect it, and warned a few times not to leave him unattended on it (and he could claim the money back via the app but wants to keep the game coins for free, without the hassle of talking to android) I don't have the best relationship with DF so not sure if I'm just being petty!

Sorry I meant @LLO7

But I’m totally on your side. Their fault!

I'd be much more worried letting a toddler potentially break accidently an expensive machine and the fallout... What are they? 3-400£ to replace??

This isn't about money is it? It's family relationships. I don't think you are unreasonable. I'd they don't change their habits then it might be much more expensive next time.
Saying that; I'd pay the £4 and seethe!
It wouldn't be good for my relationship with them.

Omfg! They CHARGE you for childcare????!

My Mum has my DD one night a week and two days a week and when I bought some vests & socks to keep at her house today my Mum even asked how much she owed me for them! (Obviously I told her not to be daft! She's my DD!) They are Grandparents not neighbours/friends! Wow

They were not doing you a favour watching him as a PP said. How ridiculous. I think it’s sad they are giving him a tablet for a visit and they should fork out the £4 out of principle.

It's £4. Pay it and get over it. Both of you are as bad as the other starting an argument over £4.

If he's going to keep the game coins then no you don't pay him. His fault for leaving his tablet unattended.
If he wants the money back he can reclaim it on the app. Simple.

Tell them if they aren't prepared to ask android then don't ask you. Seriously my son has done this so many times and each time we got it back and he would probably keep the coins anyway. Sounds a lot like my brothers in laws.

MyNewNameForABit, the OP said:

To the lady who said I should be grateful they were watching him- I pay them for childcare (£2.10 an hour, the same as the nursery) and it happened while I was in the toilet when collecting him

The other option is to wait till next time he does it. Then randomly snatch the tablet and scream "Oh my god is that porn he is looking at" and see how fast he protects his tablet or stops giving your son it. 😂

Backforgood
Sorry, I wasn't clear...Yes, I realise they HAD been looking after him, but once the OP turned up it wasn't clear who was caring for him, and she said the problem happened while she had popped to the loo, not during the time she had left him there. I was just saying that they all need to be clear who is watching him.

Oh right, sorry MNNFAB

Got be them the bloody money then tell them not to allow your DS to use the pad anymore. If they do allow him, any future expense is their problem. Explain that to them.

£4? Get over yourselves

My DD2 bought a €50 bundle on my DM’s tablet through a sonic the hedgehog game! She was only 2/3 at the time. I offered to pay it but they said no. They learned from their mistakes & turn the tablets on airplane mode while DD2 is using them now. Not your fault!

Quite nasty of him to insist. I'd give him the £4 with a withering look, and tell him that next time you won't be paying up, they need to lock their iPad.

They're petty for asking for £4, they shouldn't have left him unattended but for the sake of £4 I wouldn't be petty back, I'd just make a joke about it and give them the money showing them how to protect against this in future

Wow, how will they be when he makes a real mistake like pooping on the carpet or breaking something expensive. Christ.

Id tell them to get ducked
Simple fact is you dont leave kids alone on unprotected devices. They did, their fault. They should be thankful your ds so young and he didnt go looking for porn or whatever

Dd has her own tablet, she is 8 and still dont have access to paying for game stuff unless i put in the passwords

They are wrong, but for family peace, pay it please. My parents and grandparents were at odds with one another when I was his age and it hurt me so much that i still remember the sick feeling in my stomach.

Nobody has mentioned how the child is in this situation. Children pick up on things; both sides need to tone it down.

When my DGS was little, he was looking at a children's book on my Kindle. I didn't realise that at the end of the book was another page with an advert for another book for £3.99, just click to purchase, and of course he did. I wouldn't have dreamt of asking his parents for the money, it was my own fault for having the wi-fi on. Mind you I had no idea that they did that, I had always bought books from the Amazon website before. And it was a cookery book. At the end of a children's picture book!

I think you are being petty but so is your father! For the sake of family peace, give your father £4, but insist that he password protects his computer. Everyone should. I am in my 80s and certainly wouldn't leave mine like that!.

I'd give them the £4 and say that in future if it happens again you won't be paying it if they fail to put a password protection on it.

My 2.5yr old gd was playing with my phone and she managed to buy me a little hoover from amazon! I just immediately cancelled the order, no harm done and would now keep a very close eye on her!