For not paying for my sons mistake

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Hello,
My son and I were at my DM and DF house today and my DM left my DS unattended on their tablet while I was in the bathroom. My DS accidentally purchased £4 worth of game coins (he's 2 so didn't know what he was doing!). I was talking my DF through how to claim the money back and he said 'or we could just get the money back from you guys' I said 'no, you are the ones silly enough to leave him unattended on a unprotected tablet after I've told you not too' he just said 'well he's your son.' My phone then started to ring so that was conversation over. I know it's only £4 but AIBU for refusing to pay it after I have shown them how to password protect it, and warned a few times not to leave him unattended on it (and he could claim the money back via the app but wants to keep the game coins for free, without the hassle of talking to android) I don't have the best relationship with DF so not sure if I'm just being petty!

Seems a very silly thing to fall out over. YA(BOTH)BU

Yes they shouldn't have left him unattended. BUT he is your son so you are responsible too.

Its £4.... give them it back and move on. I can imagine claiming back will be a lot of hassle, maybe worth it for £400 but not for £4!!!

I could never imagine my father behaving this way. My sympathy to you OP. I don't think it's that unreasonable to get petty when you have to deal with people lk even that your entire life.

From the title I thought this was going to be about a teenager pranging a car or something, not a toddler and £4!!

I wouldn't pay them! Like you said its there fault and you did warn them! They need to learn the hard way

Yabu, beyond mean

and if they leave him unattended with the tablet again.. and he purchases alot more.. like £60... will they expect you to 'hand that over' too...

No I wouldn't be paying the £4

YANBU - but £4 is not the issue for me. What else about the iPad is unprotected? Do they have YouTube or kids YouTube? Who was making sure your 2 year old child was not being exposed to unsuitable content?

It’s £4 🙈 petty of him to ask for it & petty for you to refuse!

But technically i would say it’s your responsibility to pay it back

Nope, I think your parents need to learn their lesson.

Yy you're being petty. Pay the £4.
If they don't want to password protect their tablet because they don't need to as they don't have children then just say you don't want your DS to be on the tablet. He's 2. He doesn't need to be on a tablet.

YANBU. You’ve told them how to password protect, you’ve asked them it to leave their grandchild unattended on the tablet, and they’ve not listened, so it’s their fault.

I’m presuming you had said “ I’m going to the loo, keep an eye on DS” so in fact your DM is entirely responsible. What on earth does DF mean by “Well he’s your son”, does he think you’ve trained him to do this ?!

Pay them £2. Meet in the middle and realise life is too short.

Can't believe this!
I think you offended them by telling them how to claim it back. It's only 4 pounds. Bet if you'd offered straight away as I would do they would have said no.
They are your parents FFS. Your attitude is mean and petty and quite unbelievable.
What would happen if something really bad occurred? Life's too short and you are very black and white and bloody ungrateful.

YABU. Pay the £4 with good grace.

They need to learn the hard way? Good grief. The attitude of some posters is insane.
They might not be as tech savvy. So flame them.

Our DDs wouldn't be able to purchase anything on our iPad without us having to key in the password. Anything like that needs to be password protected if a young child is using it so that this can't happen.

I think YANBU, as you had warned them.

Thanks for replies interesting to see the different opinions and have a giggle at people losing their shit. Just to add we haven't fallen out over it at all! DF was just trying his luck so he could keep the game coins for free.
To the lady who asked what would have happened if my DS had dropped and smashed it- I would have paid as it would have been my son not being gentle when he knows to be (therefore my child's fault)
To the lady who said I offended him by explaining how to claim it back- he asked if it was possible
To the lady who said I should be grateful they were watching him- I pay them for childcare (£2.10 an hour, the same as the nursery) and it happened while I was in the toilet when collecting him- but I am certainly lucky to have that option and am grateful for it!

YANBU to not pay. You have told them how to claim the money back and you warned them not to leave your son unsupervised on the tablet. If this is an unusual situation and they are normally responsible and reasonable people I would just pay but tell them you won’t do it next time if they continue to let your DC play on the table. If it’s not unusual for them to try and pass the buck when they’ve been warned I would just tell you dad that you are happy to help them claim the money back, but you aren’t going to be out of pocket when you had specifically warned them not to leave him unsupervised (I would also point out it could have been far more expensive and they were pretty lucky this time).

dont pay the £4, claim it back from the bastards who make this game coin crap.

a 2-year-old is in no way liable for that.

I can't imagine ever being so petty with my loved ones

You should give them the money. He's your DC so your responsibility.

I think you're being petty. They were doing you a favour watching him while you went to the loo and letting him play with your tablet. They may not know how to make a tablet childproof or that a toddler can accidentally buy things. I'd just pay them the £4. If it were £40 I'd claim it back for them.

Its their tablet, which the op has shown them how to password protect and they've chosen not to - their bad luck.

Fark that. What was he playing at 2 that allows purchases?! Tbh my parents wouldn't even have thought about it, or asking etc. But then they wouldn't charge for childcare either.