Who is being unreasonable...person A or person B?

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A and B are in a relationship and live together. They have three children who all live with them. Household chores are split thus: A does all the family laundry, washing, hanging and drying and sorting into piles for each household member to put away. B takes care of grocery shopping and family cooking.
Neither have much to do with the other person’s allocated chore.

A often uses a tumble dryer to save time as five people generate a lot
of laundry. In doing so A has inadvertently shrunk a handful of items belonging to B.

B feels that A should check what’s going in the dryer before using it as there are four or five known items that should not be tumble dried.

A feels that checking through the washing for items that can’t go in the dryer is B’s responsibility as it will take too much time to go through each load to separate the items from the rest of the load. A feels that if B wants them dried elsewhere it’s up to B to intercept the washing.

Who is right? Thanks.

I'd expect B to put the non-tumble drier clothes in a separate pile so A didn't have to search for them.

If A does the family laundry I would expect them to take responsibility.

B

B, and also should either wash separately or just not buy non-tumble dry items. Who wants to sort through soggy clothing labels.

If A does the laundry then it’s A’s job. Cut & dried.

B is right, if A is going to do the chore- do it properly.

Here same split in jobs

A will sort the washing into piles and separate woolen sand jeans etc to be air dried

A is responsible for shrinking the items

If A and B are in a relationship then you both effectively pay for a replacement or something more drier friendly! (If it's cashmere I hate it - so not loss!)

Neither have much to do with the other person’s allocated chore.
If this is the agreed way, then A should check items before putting them in the dryer, otherwise how should B know when those particular items are in the current load? It's shouldn't be difficult for A to hold back one or two items and hang them somewhere.

I'd say A is right and B should take responsibility for these items. However, if they do appear in the wash it's not really that hard to spot and remove between washing and drying and A could make a small effort to not turn a blind eye.

Sorry A is right, B is unreasonable.

I think A should do it as it is part of the laundry.

I do the washing for 5 people but take care to remove t shirts, woolly jumpers and jeans out before I use the dryer.

I tendtofind that the washer fits more in than dryer anyway so it makes sense to take some out.

You need a separate "specials" wash bag/basket person B then responsible for washing and drying those things.

As in B is right, if A is doing laundry then A needs to not put non-tumbly-dryable things in the dryer. A owes B some clothing they’ve ruined!

A does the laundry so should take responsibility.

How does B know when to intercept?

Also agree A.

Yy B is right, this is clearly part of A's job

If A is the one doing the job then it’s up to them to sort the stuff out just like they would sort dark, light or white.
Washing and trying according to instructions is part of the job.

Well, A should separate if ALL laundry duties are their job. Otherwise they’re just doing a bad job (“I don’t care about your clothes sufficiently to separate them.”)

B should refuse to cook anything A really likes - if A wants it, he’ll have to buy it and cook it (“I don’t care about your preferences sufficiently to shop and cook for them.”)

If A is doing the washing they should do it properly

B is right, however B should ALWAYS make sure their socks are in pairs in the washing basket! I am person A in our house

A should not expect B to sort laundry before drying. Or keep them on a seperate pile as that would increase the wash load.

A should just never tumble dry any of Bs clothes.

I think A is being unreasonable. If they're responsible for laundry then that should include not damaging the clothes. If it's only four or five items out of all the laundry surely it's not that difficult to spot them when putting things into the dryer.

I do a lot of the laundry and I always check care instructions of new items, and know what needs to be washed on a delicate cycle, for example. I never tumble dry clothes, but if I did then I'd also male sure I knew which things couldn't be tumble dried.

A does all the family laundry, washing, hanging and drying...

Then it's A who is responsible. But B should realise that A is human, mistakes happen.

B