Who is being unreasonable...person A or person B?

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A and B are in a relationship and live together. They have three children who all live with them. Household chores are split thus: A does all the family laundry, washing, hanging and drying and sorting into piles for each household member to put away. B takes care of grocery shopping and family cooking.
Neither have much to do with the other person’s allocated chore.

A often uses a tumble dryer to save time as five people generate a lot
of laundry. In doing so A has inadvertently shrunk a handful of items belonging to B.

B feels that A should check what’s going in the dryer before using it as there are four or five known items that should not be tumble dried.

A feels that checking through the washing for items that can’t go in the dryer is B’s responsibility as it will take too much time to go through each load to separate the items from the rest of the load. A feels that if B wants them dried elsewhere it’s up to B to intercept the washing.

Who is right? Thanks.

B is right.
This is As responsibility.
Also you can't list washing, hanging, drying, folding (or whatever was written in the op) as if it's lots of jobs, then go on to say the tumble drier is used. That's one job - laundry.

A. Doing laundry inbolves not destroying it in the process. A is apparently to ignorant to be able to tell at a glance what or should go in the dyer and too lazy to check. A hasn't been doing their job properly.

From now on I suggest B get a few mesh laundry bags and put anything that can't be tumble dried in there

I did this. It might not have been obvious that I preferred to let some things air dry.

Thanks. I’m B. Dh keeps putting things I have told him not to, into the tumble bloody dryer. He shrunk a brand new (and expensive) jumper last week and tonight I have discovered a linen shirt in the dry pile out of the dryer. Both of these items were highlighted to him previously as DO NOT PUT IN THE DRYER.

He thinks it’s too much hassle to look out the few items that I want dried separately and that it’s up to me to keep them apart. I think it’s easy to not tumble dry stuff you’ve been asked not to.
We have had words.

Definitely A's job, and they have the better end of the bargain with B doing all the shopping and cooking!

B needs to check A's job description and reevaluate with A being given the opportunity of further training and support.

Further strategy going forward would be to change policy and only buy tumble friendly clothing in an effort to reduce workload and increase efficiency.

A new 3 compartmented laundry basket will solve all problems.
A can buy it.

Seriously, just get another washing basket!

A. I do the washing in this house and, though we don't have a tumble dryer, I'd make note of what temperature to wash things at etc. I just expect people to empty their pockets.

A should take responsibility. If there are onlt 4/5 items it is easier for A to spot and fish out than for B who has no reason to know what is in each load.

The man (A) is clearly unhappy at having to do 'woman's work' so fucks up all tasks 'accidentally' on purpose.

The woman (B) should pull her finger out and be a proper housewife and do everything - as well as full time work and all child care.

(I may be over-identifying too much with this situation though....)

Maybe you should suggest swapping jobs for a week.

He thinks it’s too much hassle

Man Doing Domestic Task Badly shocker.

Bet it’s not “too much hassle” at work to get a key bit of his job right? Perhaps he’d like a new job - a demotion to toilets, floors and dusting?

to those saying get another wahsing basket, sorry but that doesn't really do it at all.

sg, white linen shirt, goes in with white wash and gets washed with white wash. It shoudl go in the basket with the white wash and THEN, AFTER it is wahsed, it needs to come out of the washing and be hung up.

If you put it in a separate basket, then you have to wahs it on its own, a whole machine for one shirt, ridiculous.

I used to go out with a boy who wore all his jumpers a bit small and tight and slightly matted. It was bizarre, it turned out his dad did all the washing and used a hot wash and tumble dried, and couldn't be bothered to read labels or sort the wool jumpers out!

Paranoid - not quite. He doesn’t think it’s womens’ work. He does his bit and more besides. It’s not a sexist issue...it’s a cba going through the washing to remove a few items one...and really is as simple as that.

1 compartment - colours
1 compartment - whites
1 compartment- tlc of some kind required

I think B is BU, we split chores a bit like this, if dp chucked a load of washing into the basket and there were 3 or 4 items that may or may not be in there that need special instructions, I would tell him to keep them separate. Not make me play ‘Where’s Wally’ every time I do a wash.

It’s A’s responsibility

It’s not a sexist issue...it’s a cba going through the washing to remove a few items one

Or pictish it’s a doesn’t-value-your-stuff issue.

If he had special sportswear or a favourite jumper or a dry-clean only suit he’d take care, wouldn’t he?

I'd go with the mesh bag thing. If he's not a noticing kind of person, it's probably just easiest to help out in that way.

Does A have any food they really don't like? Because it might be time for it to start featuring more on the menu...

A does laundry, and this is part of laundry, so it is A's responsibility.

A is in the wrong

Steppen exactly. What’s the actual point of separating them? So they can have a whole wash to their little selves or get missed out entirely?
Much more practical to just pick them out, surely?

It's A's responsibility not to shrink stuff. Just as, when it comes to cooking, it's B's job not to burn stuff. It's not difficult. If A refuses to do something which takes seconds which is part of his job, then swap jobs with him.