To hate the fact that dh doesn’t understand the relationship I have with my family?

[Jasperparker]

I am very close to my family (it’s only me, mum, dad and brother) and I go and stay with my parents a few nights a week as dh works away for 2 weeks at a time, obviously when he is home I don’t go to stay and spend all my time with him, I don’t like being alone so don’t see why I shouldn’t stay with them but if he phones me while he is away and I’m at my parents he gets so annoyed as if I’m betraying him. Dh hates his own family and never really sees them, he finds it really odd that mine and my brothers bedrooms still have our stuff in - not like a shrine or anything but when we moved out into our own houses we both wanted to buy all new stuff so they kept our beds and wardrobes and stuff for when we visit, they have 2 other spare rooms so don’t need the space, I think its sweet they’ve kept it for us and let us know we always have a place to go. All my friends say their parents got rid of their rooms as soon as they left so maybe we are a bit unusual, I didn’t leave home until 4 years ago when I was 24 and would probably still live there now if I thought I could get away with it and hadn’t met dh.

Lots of people work away from home! (And OP hasn't said how frequently he does it so we have no idea whether it's 2 weeks a year or 2 weeks a month). That doesn't mean they don't love their partners.

If someone had posted a thread that they were newly married, in their 20s, they had the chance of a dream job but it meant working away for a couple of weeks at a time and their spouse didn't want them too, no one would be saying "of course you can't work away, it show you don't love your OH" - they would all be saying take the opportunity while you can.

Well you might. I would be saying think very carefully because your marriage is worth more than your job to most people. Easier to get another job than a divorce.

But that’s not the situation here - it’s not about the OPs job. It’s about her relationship with her husband. He’s not on here asking for advice, she is.

I don’t know why you are all saying poor bastard

Well if you can't see why, its not something that can be explained to you