WIBU to tell a wedding guest they can't turn up halfway through the day?

[MarkBorrigan]

Getting married on a Friday so I know this type of thing is self inflicted. Wedding guest cannot make the ceremony time, but has informed us they will be arriving 1-2 hours after the ceremony has finished, presumably in the time in which we will be having photos, drinks, chatting to guests before the meal. So, a few AIBUs:

AIBU to be annoyed at being informed by the guest (not asked if it's ok) that they will be arriving at a different time to the one stated on the invitation. For background, said guest asked me more than once to move my wedding entirely, even suggesting 3 different months (other than the one DP and I chose) that would suit them better.

AIBU to not want the disruption of the guest arriving at this time, possibly entering the ceremony late if it runs late, and having to consider them for meal timings if it runs early (time given of their potential arrival was extremely rough).

WIBU to ask that they just come for the reception?

Goodness, is this really a big deal? Presumably if they’re one of only 50 guests then they’re quite important to you (I mean ‘only’ 50 as opposed to 500 guests in which case the cast of Eastenders could turn up and you wouldn’t even notice!). Given that they’re important does it really matter what time they pitch up, you really won’t notice and if you do you’re concentrating on the wrong thing on your wedding day . Yes they’re a CF for asking to move the date but their timing on the day itself is no biggie.

I got married on a Friday and before that I didn't realise how many if my friends were married to teachers! One of my good friend's wife was a teacher at a school very close to where the wedding was being held and after initially saying she couldn't come I then suggested coming after school which would be in time for the wedding breakfast. I have no idea what time she actually arrived as on the day I was focused on what my husband and I were doing, not where all my guests were!

It sounds to me like you don't really want her to come, otherwise, yabu.

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@NorthernKnickers

If I was invited to a full wedding & couldn't get time off work, I'd decline & day I'd see them in the evening 🙄🙄🙄