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This going to happen

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MollyWantsACracker · 13/03/2018 20:52

Family get-together this weekend
My parents have found out that my faux-brother-law (they’re not married) is heavily in debt - 40k

They have a beautiful little son. He’s nearly 2.

Their own relationship is shite. No joint account he has Good job always skint

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OneMoreFrog · 13/03/2018 22:20

You need to tell your sister, not fair on your parents to have to deal with the situation at the weekend, if your Dad is 80 that's a lot of stress for him to have to deal with....tell your sister now so she can process it before then

WineAndTiramisu · 13/03/2018 22:24

Sober up, try to post again in the morning when it actually all makes sense.

Or just tell your sister. One or the other Grin

BookAngel · 13/03/2018 22:27

I've run out of popcorn so am going to sleep but thanks for a great nights entertainment everyone! OP. Seriously.

Cornishclio · 13/03/2018 22:28

£40k debt is a lot. You don't know if he has it under control though and your sister may already know. If you don't know for definite though it could cause all sorts of frictions between your parents and your sister and her DP. Are they happy together?

LeighaJ · 13/03/2018 22:28

The person who told your parents should have told your sister instead and actually probably should still and no one should have agreed to not tell your sister nor be asked not to.

Posting about more serious things while drunk isn't a great idea.

LexieLulu · 13/03/2018 22:28

Loyalty to your sister comes first

InsomniacAnonymous · 13/03/2018 22:35

What does your thread title "This going to happen" mean? Confused

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MollyWantsACracker · 13/03/2018 22:38

Thank you, esp to the later posters.

I didn’t set it out very well.

My sister has no idea that her partner is in debt.
The person that told my parents is a family member.
The person that told HER is a v close family member to her (v close/only sibling)

My instinct is to tell my sister.

We are not a drama family.

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iklboo · 13/03/2018 22:38

Why does it all have to be dragged out a family gathering anyway? Is it Eastenders? Or The Godfather?

EllieFitz · 13/03/2018 22:41

The person who told your parents had no right to do so.

You would not be in this situation if everyone just minded their own business.

I have no idea how all these people are connected, feel like I'm in that Friends episode where they don't know that we know they know!

In a nutshell, it is nothing to do with you so stay out if it. It's gossip, you don't even know if it's true. If it is, your sister will find out soon enough.

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MollyWantsACracker · 13/03/2018 22:41

Yes lexie but this is going to involve our only brother and his wife, and her only brother too.

I’m tempted to approach the f-bil and say wtf

They are not kids (ie not out of college and they’re together 7 years)

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MollyWantsACracker · 13/03/2018 22:45

So the consensus is keep my beak out. You’d not mind your partner keeping that debt hidden when you’re renting, not married.
Ok then

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anneoneill · 13/03/2018 22:45

Have you seen proof of this debt, OP? Either its existence or its value?

Sprinklesinmyelbow · 13/03/2018 22:46

How do you know it’s hidden?

What does renting not married mean?

Your poor bloody sister

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MollyWantsACracker · 13/03/2018 22:47

The only proof is that he told his mate.

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MollyWantsACracker · 13/03/2018 22:47

His mate is married to my brother

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Bexter801 · 13/03/2018 22:48

I'm confused what's the issue :/

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MollyWantsACracker · 13/03/2018 22:49

Sorry his mate is the sister of my brother’s wife.

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MollyWantsACracker · 13/03/2018 22:49

She’s family.

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Bexter801 · 13/03/2018 22:50

Oh your sisters husband is in serious debt and she doesn't know? Does he know,you know?

BadLad · 13/03/2018 22:50

We found out only recently. His ex-flat mate/colleague who happens to be my sis-in-law broke down

Your faux brother-in-law used to live with and work with someone who is now your sister-in-law, before he got together with your sister, and that sister-in-law broke down (do you mean in her car, or in tears) and this revealed the extent of his debt?

Is there any chance you could self-identify as someone who speaks English, and write these posts again?

EllieFitz · 13/03/2018 22:50

You’d not mind your partner keeping that debt hidden when you’re renting, not married.

But he's not your partner is he? Other people's finances are not your business.

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MollyWantsACracker · 13/03/2018 22:50

She’s kept this secret for a few years & she broke down recently and told my parents

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Bexter801 · 13/03/2018 22:51

Nah I'm lost completely

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MollyWantsACracker · 13/03/2018 22:52

If you are renting and not married, and one party walks away, you don’t own half the debt.

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