AIBU to regret DD’s name?

[readysetcake]

My DD is 2.5 and I loved her name when I chose it. However, unbeknownst to me, when we chose it we picked THE most popular middle name ever. Every little girl I meet has it! I’ve also met two girls with exactly the same first and second name. I’m starting to really regret the choice of middle name now I know every girl has it. I feel like my DD will grow up to hate it as it’s so common. AIBU? Sometimes I consider changing it before she is aware but then think I’m going mad? I’m 30 weeks pregnant so names are in my mind a lot.

[falsepriest]

I don't even know my sister's middle name, doubt it matters much at all

[germainegrainne]

I also have a dd with the middle name Rose (and would have also loved it as her first name). I too was a bit put out when I realised that Rose/May/Grace were SO popular as middle names. But surely it is because they are SO beautiful.

I wouldn’t change it, and as a pp said, my dd loves it when she finds another ‘middle name Rose’ and it becomes a bonding point.

[Faintlinesquints]

thing is you still like the name, you just dislike is popularity. People don't really know or pay attention to middle names anyway.

I wish I was worrying about a normal middle name for dd3... I can honestly only blame hormones and no idea why nobody stopped me! She has a not so common boys name which she shares with her Dad and everyone (except for Mil!) dislikes

[theDudesmummy]

My middle name is my grandmother's name (common name but unusual spelling variant). Hardly anyone knows I even have a middle name, I never use it for anything, but I like having it there as a reminder of my grandmother.

[BackBoiler]

My daughter's middle name is Rose but this was my nan's first name. Also my son's have my dads name and my FILs name as their middle names.

I don't care if there are lots, its not just a cute filler name to me, it is after someone who meant a lot to me.

[fleshmarketclose]

Dh and I have middle names,our children don't. I hate my middle name and always have and the middle names I would have given dc1 and 2 (family names) didn't flow with their much loved first names so left them to stand alone. Subsequent dc don't have a middle name because their older siblings don't tbh. Can't say any of mine have ever mentioned not having a middle name though and thankfully they love their names so haven't needed the option.

[restingbemusedface]

My DD has Rose as a middle name too! But I love it, I don’t care that it’s common. It was after my grandmother and it’s was her middle name too. I could have used her first name but ‘margaret’ didn’t have the same ring

[Viviennemary]

A middle name isn't worth bothering about IMHO. Unless it was one of these really silly names. But the fact that it's common doesn't matter at all. Better that than some outlandish daft name.

[doze931]

My boys are 8 and 5. The 8 year old quite recently asked me when we changed his name. He thought the middle name was the name you used as a baby and then change it to his child name lol. The 5 yr old wouldnt know he has a middle name

[sinceyouask]

Relax, OP. I have one of those first names that seemingly every fifth girl in my generation has, and one of those middle names that is even more common, particularly in combination with my first name. It has never bothered me in the slightest. I went through the usual teenage "I wish my name was " stage along with everyone else, but not because my own name was common. And as an adult I like them both.

If DS3 had been a girl, he was going to be Sofia. The number of people who said something along the lines of "it's a lovely name but too many people use it, you need something less popular" was ridiculous. I loved the name when it wasn't popular, I loved it when it was (probably still is) the most used first name in the world, I wasn't going to use a name I liked a whole lot less just so we could be a bit different!

[DarklyDreamingDexter]

Nobody takes a blind bit of notice of middle names. I never use mine and I think the only time I have to trot it out is on passport forms every 10 years. At least hers is a sensible one, not something which she'll have cause to be embarrassed about. You are over thinking things. Don't give it another thought.

[ChikiTIKI]

It's safe to assume most women my age have the same middle name as me. Doesn't bother me at all. My first name is quite unimaginative too. Do people really like or dislike their own names though? I am indifferent about my name. It's just my name- it is what it is!

[YearOfYouRemember]

My first name is lovely and my middle name is awful.

[shonkyklingonmakeup]

My mate Sarah says her name isn't "common", it is "popular"

[OliviaStabler]

Lots of Titanic fans pick Rose

[KurriKurri]

I have a first name that can be spelt umpteen different ways, and a middle name that always gets pronounced incorrectly when people see it written down. I alwasy have to spell everything out when giving my name anywhere.

Ordinary names that can only be spelt one way are great

[Notasunnybunny]

I had to take a moment to recall what ds’s Middle name is such is the infrequency it is used, same for dh, I don’t think I knew his middle name until we registered our intention to marry. So I personally don’t think middle names are important. Dd’s Middle name is May, I hadn’t realised it had become popular, it’s my middle name and has been every first born daughters middle name for a good couple of hundred years in my family, to the extent I’m not completely sure who the original was!

[tolerable]

you can call her anything you like,and request everyone else does too. i call my two "jay" and "cee".(their firstname initial) cos im lazy.

[puzzledquiz]

dd1s' names are the two of the most common in her birth year, her first name had always been one of my favourite names(my favourite would not have gone with my married name-think along the lines of phillip pirrip(Pip) in Great Expectations) and her second name was after a much loved relative. I sometimes regret it, having grown up witha very common name myself( at one point 3 of us in an a level class of 15!) but it suits her and can't imagine her being called anything else

[TheVanguardSix]

Life's short, OP. Choose your battles.

I have the most boring middle name ever: Ann (followed by a chorus of stifled yawns). I still love my parents, even if, at 15, I told everyone my middle name was 'Anastasia'.

[Redland12]

I didn't give my son or daughter middle names. What purpose do they serve? No one cares. Don't worry about it.

[ForgotwhatIcameinherefor]

Haha Vanguard I am also a middle name Anne. Always hated it, never use it. Used to work with someone who went by her middle name Anne rather than 1st name Elizabeth, and can’t remember why I playfully annoyingly started calling her Elizabeth, to which she responded by thereafter calling me Anastasia

[bruffin]

I didn't give my son or daughter middle names. What purpose do they serve? No one cares. Don't worry about it. Speak for yourself but not for others.
My mum didnt give us middle names and I always felt left out as a child,as all my friends have middles names.my BIL also feels the same as he missed out on the traditional family middle name which went to DH .
Both dc have common middle names but they are middle names that go back generations in mine and dh families

[Redland12]

Bruffin, felt left out! I don't remember discussing middle names as a child, I have been a child minder for 20 years and not once had a child even mentioned their middle name, I think BIL needs to grow up! It's a name!

[bruffin]

Redland, we all used to know each others middle names , it was something to do with a game we played in the playground. Still discuss with friends how we got our names.
My BIL is mature but he was hurt because as the oldest he didnt get the traditional middle name or a middle name at all.