AIBU to regret DD’s name?

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My DD is 2.5 and I loved her name when I chose it. However, unbeknownst to me, when we chose it we picked THE most popular middle name ever. Every little girl I meet has it! I’ve also met two girls with exactly the same first and second name. I’m starting to really regret the choice of middle name now I know every girl has it. I feel like my DD will grow up to hate it as it’s so common. AIBU? Sometimes I consider changing it before she is aware but then think I’m going mad? I’m 30 weeks pregnant so names are in my mind a lot.

I know a few people who use their middle name as their main used name, so maybe you could do that if you're really considering it (you really don't need to stress about it though!)
I know a Damian who's first name is actually John and a Matilda who's first name is Mary, ha! If its Amelia, she might choose to herself anyway!

Don't use your child's middle name as their main name - it's a real pain in the arse (speaking as someone whose parents did). You have to check that all your documentation matches up, cheques are made out to the right name, etc.

I’m guessing it’s Mae/May.

I have the most popular 80s middle name and I detest it.

Sorry, just seen it’s Rose! Lovely!

My DD has the same middle name as 3 of her friends and she loves it. They bond over it as teenagers.

My poor dads middle name was MARY 😂 Very common in the 40's apparently!

To the pp with a dd called Isabelle do you call her pin or prin? I've heard people shorten princess to prin or prinny

I'm one of the 'Louises' of the 70s. Quite literally 7 or 8 girls in my class had the same middle name!

Actually, I gave my daughter the same middle name too lol. I quite like it

I’m guessing Bella, or Esme

Just don't let her marry anyone whose surname is Rose. Or Down. Or…

I'll stop now

I have a very common name for women my age and I love it. But to be honest a middle name is no big deal, it's normally used for medical forms and qualifications.

I’m of the ‘Anne’ middle name generation, usually born between about 1960 and 70. There was loads of us in our class, I’ve never liked it, but it doesn’t impinge

My middle name is Rose but I’m 30yrs older a fair bit older than your dd.

I’m not sure how many people actually know my middle name, middle names just aren’t used all that often. It’s a great name anyway op so don’t worry.

I can't believe this is even thread

I'm from the 'Louise" vintage and guess what, my middle name is Louise. Doesn't bother me at all even though I also have one of the most common first names of that time, and one of the top three most common last names.

I'm another with louise as a mn- it's so boring. I almost had Elizabeth, wish I had that instead.

Rose is sweet. Yes it is very common now. But who cares? A girl at school had 6 middle names....

When DGD2 was born I was told her first name but they didn't have a middle name picked, so I suggested Rose...after my birth mother (it was her middle name), never expecting them to chose it.

Now, years later DGD2 likes me to call her Rose and apparently I'm the only person allowed to call her Rose. Clever girl!!

i know somebody who ended up with a middle name by accident. when registering the birth her mother, when asked what the name was said it's Jane* love. and the registrar put Love down as a middle name!

oh and my dd os also a rose. i love it it's beautiful. but her first name is her oldrr sisters middle name so maybe I'm strange.

My dd first name is Rose -she's 26 .

I knew it was going to be Rose when I read the thread title.

Rose as a first name is surprisingly uncommon in her age group. She is never called Rosie.

pawpatrolearworm - you don't remember your siblings middle names? Charming...

OP don't stress. Just remember you picked the name because you loved it and it felt right. If you're pregnant you're a bit hormonal/ emotional and haven't we all, as parents, second guessed ourselves for something? No matter how many other children there are with exactly the same name your DD is still special. She won't resent you for a name and if she hates it as she grows up well then it can still be changed later.

There were 14 girls in my class at school, 12 of us had Jane as a middle name.
I'm fairly unscathed by it.

At 2.5, it's effectively irrelevant whether or not you still love the name. She certainly would know her name by now, and at this point it's no longer your choice. If she dislikes it in the future, it's up to her to make the choice whether or not to change it.

Secondly, you cannot predict the popularity of a name in terms of region/geographic area. Statistically particular names are popular, but other names which don't rank may be experiencing a surge in popularity in one area, while the name Olivia is sparsely used in the same area. DD2 who's 14 months old has two Mirandas in her daycare. It doesn't rank in the top 100 as a name, but it's evidently more popular in this area. Conversely, there are no Emilys in her daycare, despite the name being statistically popular (no. 7).

@callymarch It took me a good minute to work out your daughters name, I kept thinking why would you call your daughter Yam Very sleepy here!!

Yes middle names are pointless, but then they always have been really, no reason to not have them. Mine have 2 middle names each, which when you have 6 kids is a recipe for writers cramp!

DD1 has a middle name that I really regret (due to abandoning ex insisting on it and then fucking off) but its too late to do anything about it now and she has never ever used it so it doesnt matter. The only time in my house they are used is when "FIRSTNAME SURNAME!" doesnt work as a code for "you are in trouble", then I use "FIRSTNAME MIDDLENAME MIDDLENAME SURNAME!!!!!" . Then they know they are really in the shit :o

I had no middle name and felt deprived growing up. Our mum was insistent that we had names nobody could shorten but everybody used a version of our surname as a nickname instead. I would have loved Rose!