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AIBU?

AIBU to regret DD’s name?

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readysetcake · 13/03/2018 14:54

My DD is 2.5 and I loved her name when I chose it. However, unbeknownst to me, when we chose it we picked THE most popular middle name ever. Every little girl I meet has it! I’ve also met two girls with exactly the same first and second name. I’m starting to really regret the choice of middle name now I know every girl has it. I feel like my DD will grow up to hate it as it’s so common. AIBU? Sometimes I consider changing it before she is aware but then think I’m going mad? I’m 30 weeks pregnant so names are in my mind a lot.

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readysetcake · 13/03/2018 15:39

For those who didn’t see my earlier reply. I know I ABU! I do use her middle name to her as I love it but not when introducing her. But when I say worry I must admit it is not consuming my every waking moment. More of a point to mull over while having 5 minutes peace while DD naps.

So do we think middle names will become non existent in years to come as they are so pointless as lots of people insist? I guess she could chose to use it if she hates her first name, so not completely pointless.

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midsomermurderess · 13/03/2018 15:40

I don't even have a middle name and have never missed not having one. Unless it's to honour a family member etc, I'm not sure of the point of them.

WhyOhWine · 13/03/2018 15:40

This generation it is Grace, May (various spellings) or Rose.
My generation (at least where I lived) it was Louise, Claire, Elizabeth or Anne. I had one of those. Never minded!
I have teenage DDs and I dont think they could tell me most of their friends' middle names. I will test them tonight.

Stephisaur · 13/03/2018 15:41

My middle name is Elizabeth, my best friend's middle name is Elizabeth, half the people I went to school with had a middle name of Elizabeth... I can't say it's ever bothered me, apart from the fact it made my full name too long for those sodding forms at school where there were only like 20 boxes for your entire name including spaces.

readysetcake · 13/03/2018 15:42

hopefully DD will fell the same @rosieposies! If you like a name I guess it really doesn’t matter how common it is. It’s common for a reason.

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tinytemper66 · 13/03/2018 15:42

I have no middle name. I too survived miraculously!

Stephisaur · 13/03/2018 15:43

FWIW I do actually like my middle name, it's just a bit long. I did briefly toy with using it as my first name, but decided that was far too much effort in the end.

I do think that they are unnecessary, but I still quite like a middle name!

BewareOfDragons · 13/03/2018 15:44

Rose has been a wildly popular middle name for decades and decades ... because it's pretty.

Breathe. It's lovely. Enjoy the last couple of months of your pregnancy.

MillyChantilly · 13/03/2018 15:44

Just focus on remembering how much you loved the name when you first chose it.

Redpony1 · 13/03/2018 15:44

None of my family have middle names - they are kind of pointless!

DollyMcDolly · 13/03/2018 15:44

I don't even have a middle name. Doesn't bother me one bit

Troels · 13/03/2018 15:45

Don't worry about it, every class has a popular name.
Dd's name when we picked it wasn't very common. We knew no one using it for a child, only a couple of older ladies her grandmas age. Once she went to school they came out of the woodwork. We moved area/school and another child started same time with the same name. Tiny school with 5 girls in her year too.

userabcname · 13/03/2018 15:47

I wouldn't worry. I gave DS 2 middle names - for my grandfather and DH's grandfather- and neither are names I particularly like but they hold sentimental value which is why I chose them. As others have said, no-one uses mns anyway so it's not too much of a disaster!

FluffyMcCloud · 13/03/2018 15:50

My daughter's middle name is Grace. I adore it and it sounds amazing (haha geddit) with her first name. I couldn't give a crap that every other girl her age has the same middle name. Why does it matter?

SpringEquinox · 13/03/2018 15:50

My mother didn't have a middle name, which was going against that side of the family's over abundance of middle names custom. I felt sorry for her when I was about 10 and announced that she would now have Elizabeth as a middle name. It was a family joke for a while but I later found out that she did use it thereafter - not on official forms but on less formal items. When I was discussing her funeral, the vicar had her details down with this name included ( he had talked to her in her care home) He included it in her funeral address- causing confusion to her sisters but making my brother and I smile.

crunchymint · 13/03/2018 15:51

It is a middle name so I really would not worry. Most people do not know others middle names. Would be different if you had had second thoughts about a first name.

MillyChantilly · 13/03/2018 15:51

Oh I've just realised it's just the middle name that's annoying you! As everyone else has said middle names are an irrelevance in the main. I don't really associate my own middle name with me if that makes any sense. It's just a sound I sometimes hear.

FluffyMcCloud · 13/03/2018 15:51

Oh and I have a horrible middle name and was desperate for it to be Louise or Jane when I was growing up!!

DannyLaRuesBestFrock · 13/03/2018 15:54

or pin for princess

That is beyond twee.

angieloumc · 13/03/2018 15:56

My middle name is Louise too! It was either that or Jane when I was born.
My DD's middle name is Elizabeth after my mum but even though her first name only has five letters it's such a mouthful with our surname that I wish I'd chosen Rose/Grace/May.

DannyLaRuesBestFrock · 13/03/2018 15:58

I have a horrid middle name. It's a blokes name. My dad thought I was going to be the last child, so I got HIS middle name. But my parents went on to have 2 more after me. So luckily my brother got it too .

So yes, my brother, my dad, and I, all share the same middle name. I am a female btw.

It was a source of much hilarity to school friends.

It still gives people a chuckle now. Me included.

Surprisingly, our dd doesn't have a middle name.

DioneTheDiabolist · 13/03/2018 16:00

I gave my DC middle names so that they would know when they're in trouble. And to give them another option if they hated the first name is gave them.

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lifechangesforever · 13/03/2018 16:06

Our DD is going to have Rose for her middle name. Yes it's popular, but it's a beautiful name and goes with so many first names.

As everyone says, middle names are never used, which is brilliant for me because mine are 'Jo Daniella Mercedes' 🙄 I kid you not!!

Zapdos · 13/03/2018 16:08

Another vote here for not worrying.

I gave both my DS's the same middle name. It's also the same as two of their cousins' middle names!

No one gives it a second thought.

KERALA1 · 13/03/2018 16:09

Middle names are essentially pointless and irrelevant so wouldn't give that a second thought.

I would really try to avoid a popular first name. I have one and its so dull being one of many in a class. At one stage one third of the girls in my DDs class were named a variant of one name. Their mothers were . Always seems odd to me - so many name to choose from and people all crowd in using the same ones, nice as they are.

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