Ex won't pay the school fee's but .....

[donners312]

will buy her a present because he is so proud about how well she is doing at school.

And she's delighted!! I feel like saying I could buy you 30 presents a month like that if I didn't pay the sodding school fee's!!

Lets say he spends £50 , he has not paid any maintenance for 3 years (just started last month due to DOE).

Lives in a £.2,5 million house, and has been on countless 5* holidays.

Just makes me sick I haven't had a holiday for 4 years and will now never own a home.

Every penny I have pays the fee's plus extra tuition etc - I do not go on holiday or own my own house.

Why do you keep putting an apostrophe in fees? It's plural so does not require one.

Why have you used the contraction of 'it is' when the possessive form its would be much more suitable?

OP

Kids like presents, they like immediate gratification.

See a solicitor about the fees, and fees for your younger child.

See s solicitor and fight for equal and fair treatment for your kids rather than enabling your ex.

I would have thought you need the permission of everyone with parental responsibility to change her school. So tell him you’re changing it, if he refuses, go to court and when he tells them the reason why he doesn’t want her to move the judge would probably tell him he either pays the fees or he lets you move her. How old is DD?

@sashh

The poster's apostrophe is perfectly correct. Awkward when you try to correct someone's grammar and make a mistake.

"Something along the lines of xdh won't contribute to school fees, who makes their child move school in middle of GCSE's etc."

Careful with that one - he's been not contributing for 3 or 4 years, so there has been time to plan a move before the GCSE years. As OP doesn't want to move her now (and in years 10 and 11, it would be a very bad time) then it's a case of stagging on, doing what she's been doing for the last few years, because she thinks that is right.

when I say extra tuition it is for stuff not covered by the curriculum

Is this tuition essential? Do both children have it? What about cancelling this and putting the money saved towards holidays or gifts?

@TIRFandproud - Erm, no, the apostrophe is not correct. Fees is a plural word in this context, it is not in possession of anything, nor is it a contraction. I'm an English teacher...

What a bastard. Is there no way you can blackmail him into paying? Say that you will be perusing a private prosecution for fraud? Or threatening to sell the story with his full name to the papers? Maybe you know something from when you were married. Tax evasion?

Chickoletta, crossed wires here. You, of course, have correctly identified the fees issue. TIRFandproud was referring to Sashh's misunderstanding of its/ it's. Fellow English teacher.

Everyone else, in this context when the OP is trying to get her point across, it doesn't bloody matter where her apostrophes are! Especially PPs who have incorrectly corrected her! Sheesht!

Aha! That makes total sense. I also agree that it's (!) totally irrelevant here!