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AIBU to think that the ladies are disgusting

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Limphandshakes · 12/03/2018 19:57

I’m fed up of walking into the ladies toilets into restaurants let alone bars or pubs and finding the ladies toilets littered with toilet role and what I am assuming pee! Why can’t anyone wipe or put it down the toilet/bin?!?

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WingsOnMyBoots · 04/04/2018 20:04

I think there must be A LOT of repressed, angry, passive-aggressive females around!

I once walked into a 'ladies' toilet in M&S and had to walk straight out again. The toilet and the cubicle walls were totally smeared in crap. I really could not believe it. I went to the nearest member of staff and said 'I think someone needs to clean the ladies' toilets as soon as possible'. I felt so, so sorry for the poor person who had to go in to this hell hole and sort it out.

Barbara1956 · 04/04/2018 20:06

Surely the worst ever lavatories are those in maternity hospitals...I was totally horrified at opening door after door on bloody shitty messes...no wonder we get constipation issues after gynae ops...

iBiscuit · 04/04/2018 20:14

I've cleaned a lot of toilets. Aside from the odd discarded sanitary towel, the men's were far worse.

I may be biased because I've only ever had my begloved hand and binlinered arm around the u-bend of a men's bog. Which given some women's insistence on flushing tampons and whatnot down the loo, is saying something.

jessebuni · 04/04/2018 20:14

I generally avoid public toilets at all costs but since I have children I sometimes need to take them into them. If it is a restaurant or something and they are vile I would and have complained before. Not in a rude accusing way because sometimes things in restaurants and pubs can be manic, I just mention to the staff “excuse me the rest room is looking alike it needs a bit of a clean”. Normally they will scurry off to check I’m not mentioning it for no reason then send someone to clean it.

iBiscuit · 04/04/2018 20:22

Oh, and it's generally male rather than female rugby players who shit in a pint glass and wedge it in the toilet.

It's been a long time since I've had to clean a pub loo - hopefully that little craze has died out.

RunYouJuiceBitch · 04/04/2018 21:02

These are likely the same people who leave the cubicle and go straight out the door without even looking in the direction of the sinks - or those who think washing their hands entails swilling their hands under the water for a second, without soap.

It's bizarre to me, but then I work in a medical profession so am used to washing my hands in a systematic manner. Infection control and all that.

PoorYorick · 04/04/2018 21:03

Oh, and it's generally male rather than female rugby players who shit in a pint glass and wedge it in the toilet.

What the fuck. How am I the same species as these people?

PoorYorick · 04/04/2018 21:04

And to think there are posters who are offended by people who simply shit in a toilet the way they're supposed to!

Ktay · 04/04/2018 21:27

Poor DD (8) found a used incontinence pad in among the greetings cards at WHSmith today 😷

I have photographic proof (for a brilliant twitter account that monitors the terrible state of WHS branches) but will spare you all!

choseausername1 · 04/04/2018 21:54

My college regularly had smeared blood on cubicle walls.!and they’re supposed to be capable of higher education...Hmm

squeekums · 04/04/2018 22:18

So nasty. Not hard to make sure you leave cubicle clean really
Period blood on walls what the actual? Thankfully never seen that

When i used to go to festivals and raves, id always use the mens, cleaner and less of a line lol

shabbyshibby · 04/04/2018 22:33

I work in a bar where we do all our own cleaning. The blokes are FAR worse. Yes, in the ladies yyou'll find make up all over the place and loo roll scattered around BUT in the mens I've had to unblock the bog (more than once) to find that someone had tried to flush his trunks (presumably after shitting himself). I've found discarded condoms, colostomy bags, empty beer bottles IN the toilet & I've had to clean the projectile shit-splatter that has pebble-dashed not just the bowl but the seat, the lid, the walls. Apparently the explosive shitting can be an issue after the consumption of recreational drugs

shabbyshibby · 04/04/2018 22:38

But yes, PEOPLE are disgusting

Becauseimworthit79 · 04/04/2018 22:42

Where the hell are people going to find loos in this state?🤔
I dislike using public toilets as it is and the worst I’ve come across in the UK does not compare to any of the stories here at all. Just for reference- it was in Scarborough or Whitby, the old silver ones with the wooden bits as seats bit there were very worn. There was a discarded sanitary towel across the floor but that’s about it.
Now the toilets in rural China.....🤢

manicmij · 04/04/2018 22:55

I've been in quite a number of countries on a few Continents and find the toilets in the UK the worst even in comparison to the "hole in the ground" type in Indonesia etc. I shudder at why people treat a public toilet they way some do and wonder what they do at home. Granted the condition of some toilets are not the brightest or most modern but they shouldn't be left in a state by the users.

Becauseimworthit79 · 04/04/2018 23:00

manicmij the hole in the ground type itself doesn’t bother me, but if you can see used sanitary products, faeces and maggots, then that definitely wins the disgusting toilets prize over any UK toilets I’ve seen!

LellyMcKelly · 04/04/2018 23:00

Hoverers, if you must hover, at least clean up after yourself. It’s disgusting to sit on the loo and find you’ve sat on someone else’s wee.

CuckingFunt1987 · 04/04/2018 23:03

Never encountered this EVER ? What type of places are you hanging out in ???

Follyfoot · 04/04/2018 23:25

Our office loos were also used by medical students. They left them in a very unpleasant state sometimes.

morningconstitutional2017 · 04/04/2018 23:36

Some people are odd aren't they? I used to clean in a pub and the things that we had to clean up were pretty disgusting. There were toilets for girls and boys as well as adults and once there was a massive amount of vomit on the floor - as big as a dustbin lid. My poor colleague was quite overcome so I made her go for a coffee while I dealt with it. Just before I finished clearing it I began to feel pretty sick myself.

itsalldyingout · 04/04/2018 23:36

Beats the shit out of me (pun intended) why people can't leave facilities as they found them.

If you make a mess, clean it up.

How difficult is it to flush the toilet or give the seat a quick wipe if you've left something on it?

Having said that, most toilets I have the misfortune to visit these days have so obviously not been cleaned properly since installation. Do the cleaners think that flushing a toilet and dumping some disinfectant in it constitutes cleaning? If you're paid to do a job, do it properly. I'm the first to admit that people are pigs, and it's not a nice job being confronted with the state some people leave them in, but the ones that are not inclined to be clean certainly won't be even slightly guilted into leaving it clean if it's dirty to start with.

I HAVE to use disabled toilets and I have a condition that could leave me quite ill if I get a bladder infection (I use catheters and need to be clean). The amount of "shy shitters" who use the disabled loo just for a dump and then aren't fussy about flushing or have shit all over the seat from presumably hovering is shocking. I HATE using public toilets because I rarely come across any that are passably clean.

Oh, and beware visitors to your home, too... I thought I had a leak until I saw urine dribbling under the seat and down the outside of the pan onto the floor. Thank you, Mr Tradesman!

TheClitterati · 05/04/2018 02:21

Many public Loos simply don't function properly. I used 2 yesterday and neither flushed. I hung around a while but no luck. I'd just had a wee so didn't leave it too bad, but if I'd emptied my Mooncup things would have been much worse.

Establishments need to make sure their toilets flush! And fill up to flush again fairly quickly. Not having properly functioning Loos is the start of many problems. Women do a lot more in a cubicle than most men do. So lots more to go wrong, especially if they are not flushing properly.

TheClitterati · 05/04/2018 02:33

How difficult is it to flush the toilet or give the seat a quick wipe if you've left something on it?

If the loo isn't flushing, or there is no loo roll (both of which happen all the time) it can be very difficult.

Yes there are some filthy fuckers out there, but I think many issues cascade after the loo basics fail.

josbd · 05/04/2018 16:45

Seems as though the "Ladies" should be renamed. Suggestions??

Many years ago I went to Amsterdam on "The Magic Bus". At some point during the night, we were woken by the driver who promised "rest rooms". Turned out to be a hole in the floor, with a rope hanging over it, and marks for your feet. I didn't use it.

itsalldyingout · 05/04/2018 22:43

TheClitterati (love your name) - agree with you there.

I always carry tissues with me for this reason.

And I ALWAYS complain to management if something is faulty or missing. In the case of missing toilet paper I'll request it's replaced while I wait.

I'm so slow that I allow time to do stuff like that when I'm out, but I know there aren't many people out there that have the time to wait while stuff is sorted. It's just one of those OCD things I do.

I'm a serial complainer to places that I think should provide decent toilets (even if the pigs out there mess them up again). The toilets that most disappoint me are the ones that I'd have hoped would have the best standards e.g. John Lewis, HoF, M&S. They must hate to see my email address pop up in their boxes!