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DM keeps telling me things about her sex life

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embazzled · 12/03/2018 19:20

I don't know why she does it, I really don't want to know. I don't know why she thinks I want to hear things about her and my dad Hmm As soon as she starts saying something I always say "I really don't want to hear this" but she carries on anyway. She did it again today and it's really pissing me off. Is this normal? How can I get her to stop?! It makes me so uncomfortable, it's the last thing I want to hear about to be honest 🤢

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TenancyTroublesAgain · 12/03/2018 19:24

No it's not normal and it's frankly disgusting.

Echobelly · 12/03/2018 19:25

My mum is sometimes a bit TMI, but I kind of love her for it!

But if you're telling her it's making you uncomfortable, your mum really should respect you and keep schtum. I guess perhaps she doesn't have someone else to confide to about that kind of thing?

DalekDalekDalek · 12/03/2018 19:26

Stick your fingers in your ears and go "la la la" until she stops? No one wants to hear that from their mum!

IAmWonkoTheSane · 12/03/2018 19:27

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userxx · 12/03/2018 19:27

I wouldn't say it's disgusting just a bit cringe when it's your mum and dad 🙈. Not sure why she would think you want or need to hear it.

Mishappening · 12/03/2018 19:29

Leave the room! Hopefully she will eventually get the hint.

Or you could say..........."that's really interesting - I must ask Dad about it and get his side of things."

Oooeeeerrrrrindeed · 12/03/2018 19:29

After she's ignored you get up and walk away saying you already said you didn't want that. My mother usedcto do this. She was like an irritating friend who thought she'd invented sex. My response was to put in earphones.

CoolGirlsNeverGetAngry · 12/03/2018 19:29

Is she deliberately trying to shock? My mum does that Gin

Babdoc · 12/03/2018 19:29

How old is your mum? And is this behaviour new? Disinhibition can be a feature of dementia.
If she is seeking help with a sexual problem, perhaps you could suggest more appropriate sources of help for her, such as her GP or a counsellor.

MycatsaPirate · 12/03/2018 19:29

Does she just randomly bring it up in conversation?

I wonder if she's trying to prove a point to you in some weird way. No idea what but maybe she thinks she's connecting with you as another adult and forgetting you really don't want to think about your parents doing the deed.

Just out of curiosity, how old are they?

MaMisled · 12/03/2018 19:29

Oh dear! I remember being on a bus with my DM when I was 17. She suddenly burst out with " I've got to tell SOMEONE! Your Father and I had sex last night for the first time in ten years!" I nearly threw up! Ugh.....

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embazzled · 12/03/2018 19:29

She even said today "you probably don't want to hear this but..." Angry Argh don't tell me then!!!

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RickLemon · 12/03/2018 19:29

I would honestly be thinking it's dementia / Alzheimer's. Loss of inhibition is one of the most common symptoms. This is EXACTLY what my aunt was like at first.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 12/03/2018 19:29

I'm not interested in anyone's sex life apart from my own.
I second sticking fingers in ears and going la la la la

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embazzled · 12/03/2018 19:30

She's late 40's

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redandsilver · 12/03/2018 19:31

Please be kidding.

Whatsforu · 12/03/2018 19:32

Bleurgh not normal!!!!! Makes me queasy thinking about it. Tell her to button it, you should not have to listen to that.

Aprilmightmemynewname · 12/03/2018 19:35

Ask your df to tell her to stop. Bet he is mortified she is discussing things with you.

SluttyButty · 12/03/2018 19:37

My mum has been doing this and she’s a lot older. I don’t want to hear it and I quickly change the conversation.
She’s never done it before so why she now thinks it’s acceptable I don’t know Hmm

Ginkypig · 12/03/2018 19:40

It depends on your relationship with her.

I personally have never understood this thing about it being horrendous to ever think that (your) parents have a sex life, that being said I don't get on well with my mum so it would feel odd if she suddenly saw me as someone close enough to have intimate conversations with.

On the flip side of the coin I have conversations about sex with my grandmother and it's been fine.

MrsMaxwell · 12/03/2018 19:41

I’m sorry Blush

Lucyccfc · 12/03/2018 19:44

Talking to my Grandad on the phone (not long after he turned 80) and he told me that he had been to the Doctors for some viagra as he had a new girlfriend (called Anne). I said I thought your girlfriend was called Annie and he said Anne was a new one and he couldn't keep up with them both, that's why he needed the viagra! I stopped him in his tracks giving me any further details (the randy bugger).

Whatsforu · 12/03/2018 19:45

There is a difference between realising your parents have a sex life and being given the details!!!! Big no no

NotUmbongoUnchained · 12/03/2018 19:47

Me and my mum walk about sex. But that’s normal for us.

If it’s not normal for you then have a serious conversation with her about it.

NotUmbongoUnchained · 12/03/2018 19:48

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