DM keeps telling me things about her sex life

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I don't know why she does it, I really don't want to know. I don't know why she thinks I want to hear things about her and my dad As soon as she starts saying something I always say "I really don't want to hear this" but she carries on anyway. She did it again today and it's really pissing me off. Is this normal? How can I get her to stop?! It makes me so uncomfortable, it's the last thing I want to hear about to be honest 🤢

Having sex in her late 40s? Disgusting!!

Seriously though, you've got to be a bit more assertive. Say Mum I don't want to hear about your sex life, speak to one of your friends about it. If she ignores you, go home.

I was going to say Notumbongo that would be a completely different thread in its self

kungfu it would wouldn’t it

Is she suffering from the menopause that can make you feel 'old and not hip' anymore bless her .

Does she have any friends?

She doesn't have any friends that she sees regularly so it could be that she has no one to talk to about it. I could put up with non specific things or joking about something but to hear details makes me feel a bit sick really.

You're not Miranda are you?

Do it back!
"Oh me and DH have been doing something similar, we like X, Y and Z."

Maybe hearing you do it will make her stop?

My young adult DC sometimes overshare.
Were you doing that and she was trying to embarrass you into silence?

My dad died suddenly when my mum was 50, and at 60 she started online dating. She met her now husband really quickly, and started confiding in me about the details of their sex life. Prior to this she had only ever been with my dad, so I kind of understood that she wanted to chat about it, but I was not the right person for her to pick. I eventually had to say to her that while I was really pleased she had met someone and was happy, I just didn’t want to hear it.

Absolutely it's great that her and your dad still have a good sex life. I'm not knocking it. I hope me and mr spider are still going at it when we're in our 90s. However if you're telling her you don't want to hear about it then frankly she should STFU. Not necessarily because she's your mother. I'd say the same if she was your best friend and you didn't want to know the inns and outs of her sex life.

I want to know what sort of things she says! sorry, just for laughs - I'd hate it if my mum did this, OP,and I think you've got every right to ask her to stop.

It might be 'normal' for some mother-daughter couples. If it's not for yours, then it's an issue, but don't ask the rest of us if it's 'normal' - we don't know!

It must be trying, but I suppose there's a chance that she's working her way towards a real bombshell, something important or critical that she has to get off her chest. So be compassionate!

Tell her to join Gransnet and talk about her sex life on there!

Crikey no YANBU I'd be mortified!! I'm not surprised you are too! It's not exactly the crime of the century but I think I'd die if my mum ever discussed sex with me!

I genuinely feel for you OP! I have no words of advice though, sorry!

DH's nan is like this. One of the first ever things she said to me was how she was having sex with her new boyfriend, and went around my engagement party telling my family about her sex life and the boob job she wanted. It gets on my nerves. Everyone eye rolls and says it's just the way she is but actually, people should tell them to stfu.

I am curious what your mum shares with you though!

My mum started to confide in me when I was in my teens/her around 50 about their lack of sex life, it made me cringe a little but didn't mind much. Now I'm 32 and she occasionally says something about her and my dads antics as a young couple and we laugh about it. It doesn't disgust me at all, they are human beings like the rest of us. But it depends on the relationship you have with her and what your normal is. I imagine it would be really weird coming from some mums!

Why does she need to talk abou it? Are there problems? They’ve found a great new sex toy? He’s started in viagra and they’re at it 3 times a night? Mind you I still would have no urge to tell anyone.

"I hate it when he drinks and can't get it up, I don't want to be shagged with a floppy cock"

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That was the latest for anyone who was wondering (why did you make me type it!! )

Hope you can see why I don't want to hear it now!

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I think I'd have to point out she couldn't be shagged with a floppy cock. Not possible.

Is she doing it to shock? I have an aunt like that. She thinks she's cool and edgy. She's not. She's just a bit sad.

I couldn’t stomach that and I don’t get why people bring stuff up when you’ve said you’re not interested.

I had a friend who told me her mum sent her a vibrator for her birthday and it was totally normal and cool for them. It’s so weird to me, like honestly borderline incestuous or something. I’m not a shrinking violet - definitely been around the block a few times but I don’t really discuss the ins and outs (lol) of my sex life and I certainly don’t with my parents. I’ll talk aboit sexual stuff in a hypothetical way (eg I recently had a conversation about how female masturbation is some kind of state secret while men freely chat about wanking all the time) but discussing it on a personal level - nah. Private is private in my opinion.

funny for us but mortifying for you, OP!

Shagged with a floppy cock

This is your Dad she's talking about?

To be fair, 40s is young. It isn't like she's much older

I'm sorry, but to say that to your daughter is very odd indeed. I mean, why on earth would you?