To not be ‘Mum’?

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I am primarily called by my first name by my kids.

I quite like it but others seem to find it shocking and as if I’m trying to be ‘cool’. (I’m not!)

Is anyone else not ‘Mum’?

Mum, Mummy (when they want something) and mostly 'Mother dearest' ..that started as a bit of a joke in their early teens and stuck.

I don'tmind what they call me as long as it isn't rude. Mine are all young adults now. Some of their friends call me by my first name, others 'Mrs R'. However I work in a school where we all use first names..no (special ed and it was felt to be less confusing for the children) and many children just know me as 'Chewy' which is as near to my name as they can manage!

I only call DM by her name when we're out and about and I say 'Mum' and she's the only female who doesn't turn around

It's your choice, I know people who do the same and they're not considered anything out of the ordinary. You go with what you want.

My DS wrote my full name inside his mother's Day card to me. But usually calls me Mum!

I don't have children, but can't ever, ever imagine being called 'mum'.

Should I ever acquire a child, it certainly won't be because I've given birth to them, and I'm gay so they will have another 'mum'.

I've always thought that I'd quite like to be called 'dad' by my children, instead. My DP is happy with that, but everyone else I've mentioned it to has has either rolled their eyes so hard they might have fallen out of their head, or acted like I was asking my hypothetical children to call me 'Supreme Wizard' or something equally bizarre with the express purpose of getting them bullied at school.

But I kind of feel like I could be dad. I don't think I can be mum.

I only call DM by her name when we're out and about and I say 'Mum' and she's the only female who doesn't turn around

Same here

"Mam (no response) ... maam (no response) ... mother (no response) ... "
"What?"
"I've been calling you
"Oh, I didnt hear you."

I have told my DS point blank that I never to be called "mum".I'd like to be known by my name but it never caught on. Mummy when he was young, mother now he's a bit older and my name when he's an adult.
I am not defined by motherhood.
I don't get called " girlfriend" or "wife" unless it's banter.

I call my mum and dad their names sometimes, always have. I grew up with foster children at home who obviously just used their names and it would have been odd to refer to them as mum and dad to them or in front of them ifyswim.

I am not defined by motherhood.
actually, for your own CHILD you are. I don't expect anyone else than my children to call my "Mum" but there's no shame to be a mother to them.
For the rest of the world, I haven't changed, but it would be ridiculous to deny or try to hide to my kids that I am their mother.

But nobody is denying or hiding their motherhood, any more than anyone is denying or hiding the fact that they have a name.

First name feels too distant to me, mummy feels as close as possible which I like

One if my dc has tested out my first name just for fun but it didn’t last and I wasn’t keen

OT I prefer first names from dc’ friends can’t bear Mrs last name and dislike very much ‘Mum’ from service / health people

Soup yes...we can look at it like that. But then we gain lots of identities through our lives.

Yes. And they add to who we are. I find it very sad that someone thinks being called “mum” means they’ve lost their identity.

If it works for you and your family OP then absolutely not bu.
Personally I hate 'mummy' it makes me cringe so much so when my baby is talking l'll either be Mum or my name. Whatever they choose to call me 😊

I don't like being called mum. I grew up with a mam/mammy. Mum always sounds really fake to me. My eldest called me mama when he was little, but once he was in school it was mum and the younger ones followed suit.

DH's dad asked him and his brother to call him by his first name. He had them young and split up with his mum soon after they were born and had a very carefree social life. DH remembers once being out with him and running into an older lady who said hello to them, she had no idea who they were... Turns out it was their grandmother (who he met for the first time years later), he'd been hiding their existence from anyone who knew him, and asking them to call him by his name was a smokescreen

It is odd to most people. I guess it's just the way our culture works.

My eldest calls me by my first name, I think this was because at the time I was a single parent and he didn't hear anyone else say mum. Never bothered me, bothered some people, but we know who we are to each other. My youngest calls me mum

My mum died when I was a teenager. I went to live with my older brother, his wife, their children and his children from a previous marriage. She used to make his kids call her mum and she demanded I also called her mum because she didn't want the other kids to hear me call her by her name.

I did not comply.

Who calls their fucking sister-in-law mum and by extension call their own brother dad. My own mum had only just died of cancer.
I mean WTAF......shudder.

I really despise the British tweeness of Mummy and Mum
villainous you do realise that most languages and cultures have similar words? They are neither twee nor particularly British.
I’m not a fan of Mummy myself, though, as it happens.

Ds1 and ds2 called me mummy.. ds1 who's 12 calls me mum 90 percent of time and only slips up using mummy if he's tired and I'll

Ds2 9 uses mum and mummy equally.

Just thinking about it makes me feel a little sad that they won't be calling me mummy for much longer.

Like the final point of them growing up and not being young children no more.

I don't like mummy past a certain age... prob 14 ... just feels creepy and cringy to me then.

It's strange the only people I know who refer to their parents by first name have a bad relationship with them. But I know some children go through a stage of using their mum and dads first name, a few of my friends had the same issue and had to keep correcting them!

I don’t actually care what anybody else chooses to be called by their children but I have to admit I do find it odd for children to use their parents names. I always called my parents Mum, Dad, Mummy or Daddy. I call my FIL ‘Dad’. My children call me various variations of Mum depending on their mood but never my name. I’d hate it if they called me by my name to be honest.

My Dad’s wife actually suggested once that I should call my Dad by his name and that my children (6 and 1 at the time) should do so as well as it made it “too obvious that he must be over 60” - as if the grey, baldy stooped, retired grandfather could possibly be a youngster! For once my Dad knocked her back saying he would always be my Dad and he was thrilled to be Grandad.

Anyone in the world can call me 'Geeky' - only DS can call me mummy. I wouldn't want him to call me by my name.

Not sure, I think it's nice to have someone to call "mum" or "dad", it's someone very specific and special, but I suppose if the role is filled it doesn't matter? hmmm.

PP said they wouldn't call their son "Son" or daughter "Daughter" but then that's different as they need to learn their own name and also if you have four sons things would quickly get confusing.

What do people with two mums do generally? "Mum" and "Mummy"?