To not be ‘Mum’?

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I am primarily called by my first name by my kids.

I quite like it but others seem to find it shocking and as if I’m trying to be ‘cool’. (I’m not!)

Is anyone else not ‘Mum’?

My feelings are that everyone in the whole wide world can call me by my name, only 3 people can call me mum.

As they grew up they moved on to family joke versions - so:
DD1 calls me Moo Moo
DD2 calls me Mutti
DD3 went through a phase of calling me by my first name in her teens

I don't mind any of this. Other families I know in which the children call the parents by their first names tend to be families where there's only one child. I assume this is because the child just joins in with what it hears the parent calling each other?

I'm only occasionally mum/mummy and more often my first name. I quite like it. But we are a two mum family, so it makes sense when the kids are addressing one of us in particular. The alternative of each of us adopting a different mum word ( eg I'm mummy and my partner is mama) I find nauseatingly twee.

I don't care about other people. My kids have to stick with mum (or mother/mamma whatever they want). I am not their friends, and they have no choice. Not a big deal though

I am 53, my children are all in their twenties now and have always called me Jen Jen, (their choice, sort of happened()and I find it sweet and affectionate. They know I am their mum but also that I am a woman in my own right too ...If anything its even more respectful if that makes sense

having said that I call my own mum, Muggy (nickname from childhood that's stuck) but obviously not her real name, and I feel it would be strange calling her it. so I can see both sides

My mother would never be called Mum - she hated it, thought it sounded fat! She was Mummy until we were old enough to call her the counterpart of Old Man (my father) I.e. Old Woman. She preferred that to Mum!

We also used AP(s), (Aged Parent) as in Dickens, Great Expectations I think.
Cards were often addressed to AP (Male) or AP (Female)
She called her own mother Mummy right to the 89-ish end.

My dds have a very strange (to other people) nickname for me, but I'm also still Mum.
Dh and his brothers always used first names for their parents once they were mid teens-ish. I got used to it quite quickly and his Ps didn't seem to mind at all.

I had a hard enough time when my kids started calling me Mum instead Mummy

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Parents being called by their first name by their children is awful, only approved of by parents trying to be "cool".

I'd find it very odd if my children called me by my name. I am their Mum and only they can call me that.

If you like it though, that is up to you.

I absolutely love being called mum. My daughter's 27 btw and I'll always be 'mum' to her.

My DS has 4 DC and her youngest DS, now 26, calls her and his DD by their names. He was told not to but never took any notice. The other DC call them mum & dad, so it's not something he picked up from them. It's just always been his way.

Cream - would you really tell off/punish little children if they called you by your first name? I think they hear other people call you by your name so it would be a bit weird to be cross about them doing the same.

I have never; ever called my mum "mummy". Even as a small child apparently I was a total weirdo and insisted on calling her "mother"!

Hearing mummy out of adults is a bit

If anything its even more respectful if that makes sense

No, it makes no sense to me. How is it more respectful? Or how is using “mum” less respectful?

I'm not anything. Our autistic son is completely non-verbal.

Occasionally he'll go "ma ma ma ma" but he makes exactly the same noise to his daddy and to his teachers, and he's equally likely to go "ga ga" or "ba ba".

If a child calls a woman by her first name, I don't care and wouldn't judge, but I would assume that she is not the mother but the nanny/ step-mum or a friend.

My 5 year old has just started doing this now and then - I think it’s quite sweet.

I used to call my mum by her first name. She didn’t encourage it as such but had no problem with it. I lived with my mum, grandmother and a few aunts and uncles until I was 10 so most people called my grandmother ‘mum’ and my mum by her first name. I followed suit and no one minded except for oddly interfering strangers who somehow thought it was disrespectful

After I realised I’ve always called my grandmother by her first name - she never liked ‘gran’ type titles.

You're still his mum, @EggysMom. You're everything to him.

Im the opposite. I call my mum mum but the truth is she has never really been much of one, so she doesnt deserve the title, but ild habits die hard and all that.
There is a family down the road from us and her eldest three call her by her name, im not sure about the youngest three as i have never heard them talk to her. My mil calls her mum mum but sometimes calls her lil, even though her name is joyce. She told me one time why but i have forgotten. My dc call me mum, i wouldn't have it any other way.
But whatever floats your boat i suppose.

Sorry, I meant that when he's saying it to you, he's meaning 'mum', even if it comes out a bit wrong!

I have always been interested in this. Why our identity has to change so much that we lose our names when we have children. Men and women alike.

I think our children know we're their parent without special names.

Also "Mum" is such an ugly word.

I always think of "mummers"...the ancient performers! The name Mummer comes from the old French "Momeur" ...or "to act in rhyme"

I know Mother isn't the same as Mummer but still!

I think so whatever suits but it does grate on me when I get adults say Mummy and Daddy to their parents!!

What do you think thy should be called?

Give anything to be called mum

Each to their own if you’re happy for your Dc to call you by your first name no one else’s business