To not be ‘Mum’?

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I am primarily called by my first name by my kids.

I quite like it but others seem to find it shocking and as if I’m trying to be ‘cool’. (I’m not!)

Is anyone else not ‘Mum’?

I am mom. (Not American, we are from the West Midlands...)

Never had mine call me by my first name, and would find it weird. Have to say, I would not like it. I would also find it odd if someone else had their kids calling them by their first name.

Each to their own but I think it's strange.

I am sure SOMEone will be offended by me saying that, but it is my opinion! (Which the OP asked for.)

I am mummy but my ds (2.5) sometimes calls both his dad and me by our proper names. I find it sweet and love hearing him say mummy or my name... it's the way he says it that matters!

My dc call me mum. They all went through a phase of calling me 'Colly' so I called them a random different name too. Soon went back to calling me mum!

I have no issue with children calling their parents by their real name. I can’t see why anyone would care.

My children call me mummy but if they wanted to call me Tatie that would be fine. My niece and nephews call me Tatie, I specifically do not want to be Aunt.

I prefer to be called by my first name, and I tend to call my parents by their first names (as I am nearly 60 calling out 'Mum' or 'Mummy' to my 85 year old DM in public would seem a bit cringey to me ).

Personally (and I appreciate that everyone is different) I never felt that my role as a mother was anything particularly 'special' that I needed to be called Mummy to emphasise the fact that I am a parent IYSWIM.

Interesting point about only children calling their parents by their first names as our DS is an only child so he doesn't hear anyone else calling us 'Mum and Dad'. (And don't get me started on parents who address each other as Mummy and Daddy - can't stand that ).

We say mum and dad to their faces but when talk about them call them X and Y. Something we've always done!

I grew up calling my parents by their first names as well as aunties and uncle (but not grandparents) my parents were hippys and I had a very liberal upbringing. I know people thought it was odd in the 90’s.
My children call us mummy and daddy and family friends auntie and uncle.

I am mum,mumma, mother, Suzanna , Sue , Suey, Sukysue, Suzy sue ,Dave - your my mum now loads of things , it doesn't matter as long as you are on speaking terms with them that is what matters . Happy Mother's day everyone whether you are a mummy or not .

I'd find it odd and was taught that is was rude and or disrespectful to call them by their actual name.

I think it is also upsets the balance in a way. Allows children to think That they are on the same equal level when making decisions and that they don't have to follow their parents rules.
Which is reduculas as it's just a name but I think the mum dad name helps reinforce that they are in charge untill the child is an adult.

I have cousins who always did this. In most ways they were a very traditional family but they never ever called their parents by anything but their first names. In Ireland in the seventies it raised a few eyebrows and I can remember being very shocked but now it just seems normal.

I called my mother ‘ma’ from my teens. I still do. She really wanted to be mummy and refused to be mum, and I didn’t like her so I went with ma.

I don’t think being in charge is reliant on a name!

Imagine on an eighteenth birthday ... you now have the right to call me my first name

Dd(20) calls me and her dad our names with the addition of -o on the end in a tongue in cheek way. Her older brothers were horrified (so she does it more to wind them up) We don't care. (She calls us dm and df when talking to us)
My half sister tells of when my dad (mums 2nd dh) was introduced into the family. At first he was Mr xx. Mum vetoed uncle as it sounded like he was another in a long line of uncles. He was mr X uncomfortably for ages, then when they decided to get married she asked if she could call him dad. He said he'd be very proud to be dad. (She then found him crying in the kitchen with happiness and pride) He was more of a dad than her father ever was.

I'm Mummy. My kids think my real name is my "other name".

I don't care what other peoples children call them

I like being mum though as its a special status, everyone calls me by my name, only my children call me mum

I think if not callingly you Mum has developed naturally then it’s ok if that’s what the dc want but I think it’s horrible to actually refuse to let your children call you Mum.

Despite my efforts to be called Mummy by my two year old, I am Maman. DH is Papa, which is fair enough as he's French, but I'm not!

My adult dc call their dad by his name. We have friends with the same name and it gets really confusing

It's odd to me. But my DS has always called me mummy. Of it works for you... fuck em!

I'm called by my first name and would insist on it. I really despise the British tweeness of Mummy and Mum.
I think it is also much nicer and more natural to be referred to by e.g. children's friends, future partners etc by one's name as opposed to by the odd weirdness of "DS's mum"... in other words if I'm talking to DH I would say about his stepdad "Ralph called while you were out," versus the awkward and distant "Your mom called while you were out." I do call MIL by her first name, obviously, but there is an odd hesitancy in it because both DH and, horribly, FIL, call her Mom.

Why our identity has to change so much that we lose our names when we have children.

I’ve not lost my name at all. I’ve gained another along with another facet to my identity.

Soup yes...we can look at it like that. But then we gain lots of identities through our lives.

Aunt, uncle, cousin....and so forth. And I KNOW none of these are like being a parent but still. It annoys me a little. And people are incredibly protective of it....and I don't understand that either.

I still call my mother 'Mummy' as do my siblings, wouldn't dream otherwise.
I do cringe when I hear children calling their parents by the first name, however, each their own. Can't abide children calling me anything but Mrs. Wake...

My kids call me by my name. Can't stand mum and absolutely hate mam, which is Used up here.

They know I am their mum. They refer to me as 'my mum' at school ect they know what our relationship is. I wouldn't call them son and daughter so why should they have to call me mum.

They do call DH dad/daddy though as that's what he wants to be called. People think I'm a right weirdo and comment on it all the time but I'm not bothered.

Actually laughing at the posts about lack of respect knowing who's in charge

Why our identity has to change so much that we lose our names when we have children. Men and women alike.

No one else but my children calls me mum - or mummy, so I fail to see how my identity has changed.